My 13 yr old daughter decided last year that she was trans after her friend at school did. She had a horrible bout with anxiety and depression before that. She also had a bad breakup with her first boyfriend with whom she had her first kiss. Then she says she’s bisexual, then I see that she “came out” at school with a new name and pronouns. I only knew because I was spying after a suicide scare months earlier.
Hola tengo una hija de 12 años, a los 11 ya para cumplir sus 12 me confesó sentirse Niño, la noticia devastadora, poco tiempo en o tres en su teléfono amiguitos de su escuela que diciéndole que el era trans, u diciéndole a mi hija los paso para convertirse y mi hija iba haciendo todo tal cual descubrí en su teléfono También descubrí conversaciones en línea con gente desconocida que le decía que ell no estaba haciendo el mas
Minimo esfuerzo por convertirse, mi hija presento ansiedad, depresión pensamientos suicida, busque ayuda psicológica. Mi hija tiene una hermana mayor hija de mi esposo que es psicologo y son muy unidas ? Me refirió con una colega que afirmaba que mi hija si era trans. Cambie de terapista, cómo instinto de madre comencé a se si propia psicóloga la enfrente al esposo ya que no se miraba , le dije; abrázate, quiérete y amate , mi hija empezó a descubrir que más le gustaba de su cuerpo, la cambié del colegio a uno católicos, ya que en el anterior había muchos niños con dodo Roa y los psicologo del colegio los afirmaban, en enero del 2022 mi hija le dijo a sus compañeras que la llamaran por jaxx los maestros y directora llamaron a mi hija y a nosotros sus padres dieron charlas en el colegio al respecto pero prohibieron usar ese nombre en el colegio ya que era católicos, mi hija en todos lados de Internet volvió a su nombre original, pero se sintió mal, sintió mucha pena que solo se lo dijo a 4 amiguitas y se enteró toda la escuela sintió muchísima pena, no quería volver al colegio, pero al siguiente día sus amiguitas la recibieron no se burlaron de ella pero que la van a llamar por su nombre original y mi hija les pidió disculpa a todas sus amiga pero que si la llamaran por si nombre , hace 2 días febrero 2022 encontré búsqueda de cómo hacer el nudo del ahorcado y consecuencia de tomar desinfectante. La enfrente y hablé con ella, fue duro pero me toco hablar de la muerte y le expliqué que el suicidio es un pecado capital no es perdonado por Dios u se castiga quedando en el limbo y ver a los padre h familias sufriendo, le expliqué las consecuencias de ir a hospital que la esperaría gente para llevarlo a centros psiquiátrico le expliqué hablé mucho con ella y llorando me prometió nunca volver a tener esos pensamiento que nos amaba . Pero igual sigo en guardia. Ella duerme , no tiene ataques de anciedad como hace 8 meses, es amante a los zarcillos y faldas pero ella misma no sabe porque se siente así, en las fotos posa muy coqueta, habla más conmigo de hecho una vez me comentó que ella no se mutilaría si cuerpo, nunca a pensado en tomar testosterona pero si me dice que no sabe porque se siente asi, ve video de quinceañera y ve vestidos para celebrar sus quince años u piensa de cómo hará su fiesta. A pesar de esta situación es una alumna brillante y a pesar de todo lo que está pasando no a desmejorado en sus estudios, entonces yo como madre sufro saber que mi hija esté asi ? No se si está es pasajero o permanecerá, tengo mucho miedo.
It is a relief to see this post from PITT, after reading the appeasement post from yesterday, seemingly criticizing Abigail Shrier, Lisa Littman and Kara Dansky for appearing on Tucker Carlson and Megan Kelly, both known as right of center journalists. An MSNBC anchor insisted strongly a few months ago that puberty blockers are reversible. This is untrue. I emailed him with references, no response. The "main stream" media is failing, as they have been captured by Hollywood influences, Oprah, Dr. Phil and others who love the attention that this phenomenon will give their channels. It is pandering and conflict of interest, and it is a shame for kids who are influenced.
There is still quite a lot that will happen before this child reaches 18. The process of puberty, when not tampered with by the shots or pills of wrong sex hormones, may take this daughter on the path of healing. I recommend as much outside nature as possible. I also recommend finding a charity such as Heifer International (heifer.org, no pronouns after names there) and look into the "Send a Girl to School" donation. $275 to help a family in a place where girls are not educated, they are kept home. Making family albums of the women you come from may influence your daughter to have a more connected sense of her "herstory". Women were not all downtrodden and barefoot in the kitchen. My grandmother drove the tractor too.
And WARNING! often the mental health deteriorates after medicalization has started. Emelie Kohler, detransitioner in Sweden, interviewed on Whose Body Is It YouTube channel, describes this, now that she has experienced it herself and heard of it from other desisters. The "therapists" mistakenly think the process should be sped up when this happens. A completely different thought stream should be taken. Good luck. For more info of all kinds, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com I do not ask for money, I do this to save kids, especially girls. Erin Brewer of Advocates For Children has a moving testimonial out today on her journey away from the cross-sex ideation, which stemmed from sexual abuse.
I appreciate your advocacy. No where in the article yesterday did anyone criticize Shrier, Littman or Dansky for appearing on Tucker or Kelly. thank god these people are giving them a platform. What is frustrating is the lack of news coverage from all media angles, cause I for one cannot fathom why this isn't everywhere. Instead we get anti-trans headlines, when this is all about protecting the sex based rights of women and girls, and protecting the bodily integrity of a generation of confused kids and young adults because they are being taught stupid stuff like sex is a spectrum; and more sadly that so many adults are capitulating because everyone is afraid - afraid of losing their children to this cultish group think, afraid of losing their livelihoods. This is tricky business, that can't end soon enough. Humanity is going to hell in a handcart. Thank you to everyone that is stepping up when they can, where they can. It's a big dragon to slay.
The article said we have to wait for left leaning media to catch up and said "back channels" literally. Parents are going to have to do this journey on their own, as they have been abandoned by the field of psychology. As I said, the interviews with Cantor, Bailey, Vasey and having Blanchard involved is a part of that abandonment. I'd say look to the detransitioners for how to deprogram. Quietly do not affirm. Protect your own pension plans and nest eggs and do not withdraw money for surgeries. Look to the strategies in the book, Transforming Trauma, by Dr. James Gordon, for strategies to keep your own mental health. You cannot wait for the mainstream media to catch up. There are too many controversies, too many who believe in "true trans". There is no science to 'true trans". Imagine your child started smoking tobacco. What would you do?
we are not doing this on our own anymore. there are parents in every field stepping up when they can, where they can. Some people may lose their way along this journey, and we will win. More and more people are waking up. That is my hope every day.
I wish you all the best. It is not going to be easy, because tech moguls like my cross-dressing ex husband promote a narrative with extreme dishonesty in it. They turn the murder of sex boys in Brazil, where prostitution is legal, into a huge inflation of so called "trans murder victims." They claim falsely that taking puberty blockers are reversible and cause no damage. Most problematic is the fact that when "transition" is initiated, mental health declines. This is for many reasons. But instead of doing standard explorative talk, the "affirmation" is sped up. These gender therapists, with $$$$ in their eyes, suggest that speeding up the medicalization will solve the problem. There are no studies yet, but detransitioners like Emelie Kohler in Sweden (on channel Whose Body Is It) are telling it, loud and clear. It is so common that it is unavoidable. There are clear conflicts of interest for those therapists, endocrinologists, surgeons and sexologists, all the way up to Blanchard. Blanchard's protocols make no sense. My husband jumped the 2 years of the protocols way back in 1996, to get the surgery. Then he blamed me for getting out of the marriage, for his decision to do the surgery. He has not smiled since then. I have photographic proof. The woke culture you operate in is a problem, but most people in this country actually do not believe in "true trans." Don't let the lobby, corporate interests, fool you into thinking this is a left vs right conflict. You parents are holding up a sea wall in a tsunami. You may find helpful suggestions at my blog, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com
I wouldn't have called that an appeasement post. Genspect is doing great work, and we have to find a way to talk to EVERYONE, not just Fox news.
My daughter considers herself a feminist and defender of women's rights. We've gone to pro-choice rallies, she's close to her grandmothers, we do service work in our community with girls, and she still wants to be a boy. Their brains sometimes don't connect the dots. Hopefully over time.
As you say, it's a long time until 18. And given what's happened in the last 6 months, I'm hopeful.
Hola tengo una hija de 12 años, a los 11 ya para cumplir sus 12 me confesó sentirse Niño, la noticia devastadora, poco tiempo en o tres en su teléfono amiguitos de su escuela que diciéndole que el era trans, u diciéndole a mi hija los paso para convertirse y mi hija iba haciendo todo tal cual descubrí en su teléfono También descubrí conversaciones en línea con gente desconocida que le decía que ell no estaba haciendo el mas
Minimo esfuerzo por convertirse, mi hija presento ansiedad, depresión pensamientos suicida, busque ayuda psicológica. Mi hija tiene una hermana mayor hija de mi esposo que es psicologo y son muy unidas ? Me refirió con una colega que afirmaba que mi hija si era trans. Cambie de terapista, cómo instinto de madre comencé a se si propia psicóloga la enfrente al esposo ya que no se miraba , le dije; abrázate, quiérete y amate , mi hija empezó a descubrir que más le gustaba de su cuerpo, la cambié del colegio a uno católicos, ya que en el anterior había muchos niños con dodo Roa y los psicologo del colegio los afirmaban, en enero del 2022 mi hija le dijo a sus compañeras que la llamaran por jaxx los maestros y directora llamaron a mi hija y a nosotros sus padres dieron charlas en el colegio al respecto pero prohibieron usar ese nombre en el colegio ya que era católicos, mi hija en todos lados de Internet volvió a su nombre original, pero se sintió mal, sintió mucha pena que solo se lo dijo a 4 amiguitas y se enteró toda la escuela sintió muchísima pena, no quería volver al colegio, pero al siguiente día sus amiguitas la recibieron no se burlaron de ella pero que la van a llamar por su nombre original y mi hija les pidió disculpa a todas sus amiga pero que si la llamaran por si nombre , hace 2 días febrero 2022 encontré búsqueda de cómo hacer el nudo del ahorcado y consecuencia de tomar desinfectante. La enfrente y hablé con ella, fue duro pero me toco hablar de la muerte y le expliqué que el suicidio es un pecado capital no es perdonado por Dios u se castiga quedando en el limbo y ver a los padre h familias sufriendo, le expliqué las consecuencias de ir a hospital que la esperaría gente para llevarlo a centros psiquiátrico le expliqué hablé mucho con ella y llorando me prometió nunca volver a tener esos pensamiento que nos amaba . Pero igual sigo en guardia. Ella duerme , no tiene ataques de anciedad como hace 8 meses, es amante a los zarcillos y faldas pero ella misma no sabe porque se siente así, en las fotos posa muy coqueta, habla más conmigo de hecho una vez me comentó que ella no se mutilaría si cuerpo, nunca a pensado en tomar testosterona pero si me dice que no sabe porque se siente asi, ve video de quinceañera y ve vestidos para celebrar sus quince años u piensa de cómo hará su fiesta. A pesar de esta situación es una alumna brillante y a pesar de todo lo que está pasando no a desmejorado en sus estudios, entonces yo como madre sufro saber que mi hija esté asi ? No se si está es pasajero o permanecerá, tengo mucho miedo.
In a similar boat. I hope that the love and time are on our sides.
It is a relief to see this post from PITT, after reading the appeasement post from yesterday, seemingly criticizing Abigail Shrier, Lisa Littman and Kara Dansky for appearing on Tucker Carlson and Megan Kelly, both known as right of center journalists. An MSNBC anchor insisted strongly a few months ago that puberty blockers are reversible. This is untrue. I emailed him with references, no response. The "main stream" media is failing, as they have been captured by Hollywood influences, Oprah, Dr. Phil and others who love the attention that this phenomenon will give their channels. It is pandering and conflict of interest, and it is a shame for kids who are influenced.
There is still quite a lot that will happen before this child reaches 18. The process of puberty, when not tampered with by the shots or pills of wrong sex hormones, may take this daughter on the path of healing. I recommend as much outside nature as possible. I also recommend finding a charity such as Heifer International (heifer.org, no pronouns after names there) and look into the "Send a Girl to School" donation. $275 to help a family in a place where girls are not educated, they are kept home. Making family albums of the women you come from may influence your daughter to have a more connected sense of her "herstory". Women were not all downtrodden and barefoot in the kitchen. My grandmother drove the tractor too.
And WARNING! often the mental health deteriorates after medicalization has started. Emelie Kohler, detransitioner in Sweden, interviewed on Whose Body Is It YouTube channel, describes this, now that she has experienced it herself and heard of it from other desisters. The "therapists" mistakenly think the process should be sped up when this happens. A completely different thought stream should be taken. Good luck. For more info of all kinds, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com I do not ask for money, I do this to save kids, especially girls. Erin Brewer of Advocates For Children has a moving testimonial out today on her journey away from the cross-sex ideation, which stemmed from sexual abuse.
I appreciate your advocacy. No where in the article yesterday did anyone criticize Shrier, Littman or Dansky for appearing on Tucker or Kelly. thank god these people are giving them a platform. What is frustrating is the lack of news coverage from all media angles, cause I for one cannot fathom why this isn't everywhere. Instead we get anti-trans headlines, when this is all about protecting the sex based rights of women and girls, and protecting the bodily integrity of a generation of confused kids and young adults because they are being taught stupid stuff like sex is a spectrum; and more sadly that so many adults are capitulating because everyone is afraid - afraid of losing their children to this cultish group think, afraid of losing their livelihoods. This is tricky business, that can't end soon enough. Humanity is going to hell in a handcart. Thank you to everyone that is stepping up when they can, where they can. It's a big dragon to slay.
The article said we have to wait for left leaning media to catch up and said "back channels" literally. Parents are going to have to do this journey on their own, as they have been abandoned by the field of psychology. As I said, the interviews with Cantor, Bailey, Vasey and having Blanchard involved is a part of that abandonment. I'd say look to the detransitioners for how to deprogram. Quietly do not affirm. Protect your own pension plans and nest eggs and do not withdraw money for surgeries. Look to the strategies in the book, Transforming Trauma, by Dr. James Gordon, for strategies to keep your own mental health. You cannot wait for the mainstream media to catch up. There are too many controversies, too many who believe in "true trans". There is no science to 'true trans". Imagine your child started smoking tobacco. What would you do?
we are not doing this on our own anymore. there are parents in every field stepping up when they can, where they can. Some people may lose their way along this journey, and we will win. More and more people are waking up. That is my hope every day.
I wish you all the best. It is not going to be easy, because tech moguls like my cross-dressing ex husband promote a narrative with extreme dishonesty in it. They turn the murder of sex boys in Brazil, where prostitution is legal, into a huge inflation of so called "trans murder victims." They claim falsely that taking puberty blockers are reversible and cause no damage. Most problematic is the fact that when "transition" is initiated, mental health declines. This is for many reasons. But instead of doing standard explorative talk, the "affirmation" is sped up. These gender therapists, with $$$$ in their eyes, suggest that speeding up the medicalization will solve the problem. There are no studies yet, but detransitioners like Emelie Kohler in Sweden (on channel Whose Body Is It) are telling it, loud and clear. It is so common that it is unavoidable. There are clear conflicts of interest for those therapists, endocrinologists, surgeons and sexologists, all the way up to Blanchard. Blanchard's protocols make no sense. My husband jumped the 2 years of the protocols way back in 1996, to get the surgery. Then he blamed me for getting out of the marriage, for his decision to do the surgery. He has not smiled since then. I have photographic proof. The woke culture you operate in is a problem, but most people in this country actually do not believe in "true trans." Don't let the lobby, corporate interests, fool you into thinking this is a left vs right conflict. You parents are holding up a sea wall in a tsunami. You may find helpful suggestions at my blog, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com
I wouldn't have called that an appeasement post. Genspect is doing great work, and we have to find a way to talk to EVERYONE, not just Fox news.
My daughter considers herself a feminist and defender of women's rights. We've gone to pro-choice rallies, she's close to her grandmothers, we do service work in our community with girls, and she still wants to be a boy. Their brains sometimes don't connect the dots. Hopefully over time.
As you say, it's a long time until 18. And given what's happened in the last 6 months, I'm hopeful.