I'm not sure I understand this post. You apologize and reflect that you treated him badly simply because you stared at him?? He made you feel uncomfortable, what's wrong with that, that's totally normal & honest. Trust your instincts. I wish I never waivered at all when my son declared his trans identity to me 2 years ago. Alarm bells ra…
I'm not sure I understand this post. You apologize and reflect that you treated him badly simply because you stared at him?? He made you feel uncomfortable, what's wrong with that, that's totally normal & honest. Trust your instincts. I wish I never waivered at all when my son declared his trans identity to me 2 years ago. Alarm bells rang all over my body and still do to this day. He's harming himself. And also, I applaud you for being a decent human being with manners, that you recognized you may have appeared rude. But quite honestly, your nephew hung up on you because you asked questions? I'm assuming it is a little more than that and there is estrangement. Isn't that a little over the top, bad mannered and rude? I don't mean to attack your nephew, but it is making me see my own experience a little more clearly. My son was the sweetest, kindest person before his announcement and we had a great relationship. That was why it was so hard to accept the evil text messages, demands & irrational, uncompromising, one sided conversations. I spent months completely baffled in disbelief at the words he would send. I'm not sure that is who I want back in my life. Complete personality change. But where there is life there is hope.
I'm not sure I understand this post. You apologize and reflect that you treated him badly simply because you stared at him?? He made you feel uncomfortable, what's wrong with that, that's totally normal & honest. Trust your instincts. I wish I never waivered at all when my son declared his trans identity to me 2 years ago. Alarm bells rang all over my body and still do to this day. He's harming himself. And also, I applaud you for being a decent human being with manners, that you recognized you may have appeared rude. But quite honestly, your nephew hung up on you because you asked questions? I'm assuming it is a little more than that and there is estrangement. Isn't that a little over the top, bad mannered and rude? I don't mean to attack your nephew, but it is making me see my own experience a little more clearly. My son was the sweetest, kindest person before his announcement and we had a great relationship. That was why it was so hard to accept the evil text messages, demands & irrational, uncompromising, one sided conversations. I spent months completely baffled in disbelief at the words he would send. I'm not sure that is who I want back in my life. Complete personality change. But where there is life there is hope.
I believe with all my being that our little boys are buried for safe keeping under the surface of these cries for acceptance and attention.