Another quiet stay at home New Years Eve for us, our tradition. Thank you to the PITT staff, and all the parents here who offer their love, share their own stories of the trials, challenges and happiness as well, where I have found a kinship like nowhere else. Praying for a positive change in our world and for love and safety to all who are here. Keep sharing parents, I believe it is the best medicine for all of us. Happy New Year and my very best to all of you!
We’re going to dinner with the neighbors then some dominoes maybe? Life goes on. I sent my daughter a happy new year message and that i loved her but I don’t know if she sees the texts or reads them? 1.5 years of minimal contact because I won’t say he/him or they/them-so pointless and exhausting. I will try to stay hopeful for next year. I feel like something is changing but honestly I’m not sure. Anyway, thanks for this substack, the editors, crew and all of you. Happy New Year and God Bless us all.
Spending time with my husband, my ‘gender non-conforming’ daughter, my brother and our two beloved dogs; just quiet dinner at home and glasses of sparkling apple cider toasts to 2025 at midnight.
This cult/social contagion that my kid has been embedded in for years now is part of our normal routine; praying and hoping for desistance.
Happy New Year, everyone and may God bless us all and our beloved children🙏
I want to let the folks at PITT know how much I appreciate the work they do in order to let parents share their sadness over the unwanted intrusion of a useless ideology in their life. Here's to another useful year for PITT. The absurdity isn't yet over. Someday though. Keep the faith.
On NYE my husband and I are going to the symphony to hear our daughter sing with the Chorale. Our *trans* daughter would probably have been playing with them, by now, but chooses to estrange from us all instead. Afterwards, there's a nightclub that plays big band music and does a balloon drop at midnight. All ages are welcome and we love this annual tradition. On NYD I'll make black eyed peas, collard greens, cornbread, and roast pork- because pigs root forward! We don't eat chicken this day because chickens scratch backward. To all parents (and others) here, thank you for your support in 2024. May 2025 bring us much better days!
Love the 'because pigs root forward' vs. chickens scratching backward lore, thanks for that. Off to see if I have black-eyed peas in the pantry, something porky from the freezer... Can't magic up collards but other greens will do.
Happy New Year to all of us aching-hearted parents. Here's to a brighter 2025.
Thank you for these positive and very encouraging words. I never knew the true meaning of auld lang syne but have sung it (never knew all the words) for a lifetime.
I will be with my 82 year-old friend who became a widow in January after 50 years of marriage. We are going to eat pizza with a side of Caesar salad, and then drink Veuve Clicquot Brut (which was a gift) while we watch the fireworks over the Bay.
I will be thinking about my nephew while she is thinking about her husband. I pray the new year will be kinder to all of us and that healing will be our companion. Best wishes, too.
Wishing you all a happy 2025. We will be having a cozy evening at home trying out a new recipe and opening a good bottle of wine, very low key. Tomorrow a walk in the woods and contemplating my resolutions.
Going to a concert - with my husband, son and trans-identified daughter. We are all looking forward to it. Life doesn't stop just because your child is chemically harming her body and pretending to be the opposite sex, and joy should not be forgotten for auld lang syne!
Amen, Hippiesq! No it shouldn’t. I’m learning that and starting to live it now. It’s a process & I pray my son desists every day. That being said, this ideology may have my oldest son in it’s twisted grasp, however, I will no longer allow it to rob me & the rest of my family of our future happiness.
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!! That was a great reminder and I will take you up on it. As for New Years, I will be watching a video concert of one of my favorite bands that just reformed and drinking tea and I think I am going to go out and get a scrumptious dessert to enjoy with my husband. This is our first year of empty-nesting and chosen sobriety too.
Getting out and going to a jazz club. Nobody gets through this life unscathed. Carrying on and trying to have a full life is the best response, if we are able. I have a lot of bad, sad thoughts, but I try to keep going.
Thank you so much; I just now saw your comment, and it is so sweet of you. I have a lot of admiration for you…wishing you lots of strength and comfort!
Reach out anytime, we are all here to listen and share because we feel it, too. I decided not to let my adult trans son's disastrous decision rule my life. I have to live my life, too, and I will not stop living it because of his actions. Doesn't mean I don't miss him every single day and it breaks my heart. Keep going, you are so worth it! Prayers for you and lots of love coming your way.
Another quiet stay at home New Years Eve for us, our tradition. Thank you to the PITT staff, and all the parents here who offer their love, share their own stories of the trials, challenges and happiness as well, where I have found a kinship like nowhere else. Praying for a positive change in our world and for love and safety to all who are here. Keep sharing parents, I believe it is the best medicine for all of us. Happy New Year and my very best to all of you!
We’re going to dinner with the neighbors then some dominoes maybe? Life goes on. I sent my daughter a happy new year message and that i loved her but I don’t know if she sees the texts or reads them? 1.5 years of minimal contact because I won’t say he/him or they/them-so pointless and exhausting. I will try to stay hopeful for next year. I feel like something is changing but honestly I’m not sure. Anyway, thanks for this substack, the editors, crew and all of you. Happy New Year and God Bless us all.
I will take a long walk.
Send my trans-identified/estranged daughter an email--will she read it?
Perhaps not. Do I have any influence over her? No.
A Negroni before the resolutions kick off. Sushi.
Black-eyed peas and collard greens tomorrow. (Because it is a thing.)
Wishing everyone here a much better year in 2025!
Thank you, PITT.
Spending time with my husband, my ‘gender non-conforming’ daughter, my brother and our two beloved dogs; just quiet dinner at home and glasses of sparkling apple cider toasts to 2025 at midnight.
This cult/social contagion that my kid has been embedded in for years now is part of our normal routine; praying and hoping for desistance.
Happy New Year, everyone and may God bless us all and our beloved children🙏
Great advice. Happy New Year to all PITT parents. May we see continued progress in our fight against this cancer in 2025. Cheers!
Thank you! Not sure what I'll do, other than play Mass. Might go to my favorite fabric store.
I want to let the folks at PITT know how much I appreciate the work they do in order to let parents share their sadness over the unwanted intrusion of a useless ideology in their life. Here's to another useful year for PITT. The absurdity isn't yet over. Someday though. Keep the faith.
On NYE my husband and I are going to the symphony to hear our daughter sing with the Chorale. Our *trans* daughter would probably have been playing with them, by now, but chooses to estrange from us all instead. Afterwards, there's a nightclub that plays big band music and does a balloon drop at midnight. All ages are welcome and we love this annual tradition. On NYD I'll make black eyed peas, collard greens, cornbread, and roast pork- because pigs root forward! We don't eat chicken this day because chickens scratch backward. To all parents (and others) here, thank you for your support in 2024. May 2025 bring us much better days!
I do black eyed peas and collard greens too! I didn't know the pigs root forward part. Thanks for that! Happy New Year to us all!!
Love the 'because pigs root forward' vs. chickens scratching backward lore, thanks for that. Off to see if I have black-eyed peas in the pantry, something porky from the freezer... Can't magic up collards but other greens will do.
Happy New Year to all of us aching-hearted parents. Here's to a brighter 2025.
Thank you for these positive and very encouraging words. I never knew the true meaning of auld lang syne but have sung it (never knew all the words) for a lifetime.
I will be with my 82 year-old friend who became a widow in January after 50 years of marriage. We are going to eat pizza with a side of Caesar salad, and then drink Veuve Clicquot Brut (which was a gift) while we watch the fireworks over the Bay.
I will be thinking about my nephew while she is thinking about her husband. I pray the new year will be kinder to all of us and that healing will be our companion. Best wishes, too.
Wishing you all a happy 2025. We will be having a cozy evening at home trying out a new recipe and opening a good bottle of wine, very low key. Tomorrow a walk in the woods and contemplating my resolutions.
Going to a concert - with my husband, son and trans-identified daughter. We are all looking forward to it. Life doesn't stop just because your child is chemically harming her body and pretending to be the opposite sex, and joy should not be forgotten for auld lang syne!
Amen, Hippiesq! No it shouldn’t. I’m learning that and starting to live it now. It’s a process & I pray my son desists every day. That being said, this ideology may have my oldest son in it’s twisted grasp, however, I will no longer allow it to rob me & the rest of my family of our future happiness.
Don't forget the final verse, which speaks of our friendship with and commitment to each other:
And there’s a hand, my trusty fiere,
And gie’s a hand o’ thine,
And we’ll tak a right guid-willie waught
For auld lang syne!
Translation
And here’s my hand, my trusty friend,
And give me your hand too,
And we will take an excellent good-will drink
For the days of long ago.
God bless us all and may the new year bring happier days with our children!
Thanks for the translations. Brings a heartwarming perspective. I’ll have these ready for next year.
Happy New Year to the wonderful people who run PITT and everyone else here. May 2025 bring healing and positive changes for us all.
Walking the beach with my family looking for the fireworks display then playing games until 2am.
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!! That was a great reminder and I will take you up on it. As for New Years, I will be watching a video concert of one of my favorite bands that just reformed and drinking tea and I think I am going to go out and get a scrumptious dessert to enjoy with my husband. This is our first year of empty-nesting and chosen sobriety too.
Getting out and going to a jazz club. Nobody gets through this life unscathed. Carrying on and trying to have a full life is the best response, if we are able. I have a lot of bad, sad thoughts, but I try to keep going.
Thank you so much; I just now saw your comment, and it is so sweet of you. I have a lot of admiration for you…wishing you lots of strength and comfort!
Reach out anytime, we are all here to listen and share because we feel it, too. I decided not to let my adult trans son's disastrous decision rule my life. I have to live my life, too, and I will not stop living it because of his actions. Doesn't mean I don't miss him every single day and it breaks my heart. Keep going, you are so worth it! Prayers for you and lots of love coming your way.