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Soffie’s mom's avatar

Thanks so much for sharing your story.

I’m sorry you had to wait so long to be yourself without fear of retribution.

I’ve been saying all along, we need to let kids be kids. Keep them safe but let them have the opportunities to form their own opinions & process their own feelings. Instill in them confidence to ask questions, if confused about something.

I’m heterosexual & married, my aspirations growing up was to be a mom & to have a family.I’m blessed with both. As a child & in my teens I was a complete Tom boy, as they called it back then. I rode dirt bikes, I was intrigued by insects and animals, I took home every stray. I’d be at the local grocery store offering them up for adoption after cleaning & caring for them. I had a lot of guy friends because I preferred outdoor activities like handball, dodgeball & frisbee. I played baseball and kickball too.

The few female friends I had , had similar interests. I was never accused of being a guy, or a lesbian. I had a very feminine appearance but dressed in Levi’s & flannels. I did notice my similar female counterparts, that had a more masculine build, were accused of such things. Yet, like me they were heterosexual. I remember consoling a good friend bc she feared she’d never go on a date.

People jump to conclusions way too quickly.

My daughter was way more feminine than I, as a young child.She loved drawing, coloring, dressing up. As a teen she wore jeans and flannels , loved animals and competed in horse jumping. But loved to bake & create things like costumes & various forms of art. She never fit in to the boy crazed girly girl crowd. I saw her struggling with fitting in. But she showed no signs of true masculinity.

She went off to a private college of the arts & at 23 announced the desire to transition ftm. I can’t help but feel she’s been brainwashed and put into a categorized box.

I’m not the sharpest knife in the drawer. But I’m no idiot. I’ve been a nurse in the urology & nephrology field for several years. I’ve had trans patients & I don’t see any similarities in her & them. I’ve seen the aftermath of botched surgeries & I fear for her life and safety.

I cannot fathom how this society is incapable of recognizing true acceptance is NOT forcing the person to change, but to accept the individual for who & what they truly are, as originally created.

Present medical modalities don’t allow a time of exploration or even a chance for these kids to process their feelings. It deviates them from an unsure state to a prescribed state where the prescriber is no more capable of understanding their feelings than they are. The job of a psychologist is to allow the patient to explore their feelings and emotions. Not prescribe a cure. When did that change? How is it possible that it changed in a legal fashion? I’d love for someone to explain this to me.

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Average Dad's avatar

Great article! I am 54 today so I can relate to this. Protect women and all children!

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