Yes, let kids be kids and let them play and use their imaginations. My sister and I have had discussions about two of our nephews being lucky to have born in the "right time" instead of in this insane trans-cult time. We both agree that one of my nephews could easily have been caught up in the trans ideology if he was born 10-12 years later. He has long hair down to his waist, is over 6'4", and loves the color pink. He played with his little sisters dolls growing up. He is not gay or trans but a healthy heterosexual male in a committed relationship with a woman who has a child. Our other nephew loved the movie "The Sandlot" so much when he was in 2nd grade that he identified as "Benny" and dressed like him, acted like him, and even told his teacher his name was Benny at the beginning of the new school year and he was called Benny. My sister and her husband were not aware of the "new" name being used at school until the first parent-teacher conference, but everyone thought it was funny. They explained to their son that he had to use his real name at school and a few months later he stopped being "Benny". All innocent and no one made a big deal about it. Had this happened in this day and age it could have been a different outcome. He is not gay. He is in a committed relationship and is engage to be married. Had he been born 10-12 years later, he might have been groomed and gotten caught up in the trans-cult ideology. My sister and I were both "tom-boys" growing up and we played hard outside: climbing trees, playing with earth worms and making mud pies, catching ladybugs, chasing butterflies, raking leaves to jump into the piles, digging snow forts, and making snowmen. Could we have been caught up in the trans-ideology 50+ years ago if what is happening today was happening then? It is so sad that our children's innocence is being stolen and teachers and doctors are so ready to put a label on boys and girls when no label is needed.
Your story is almost identical to mine and I’m a Lesbian!! Substitute all the “girl” stuff for “boy “ stuff. I feel bad for these kids and especially their parents. My 82 yr old best friend said I’m doing pretty well raising my daughter if she still wants to be a girl. Oy.
Thank you for this article. I hope it helps people to understand the impact the pernicious 'trans' movement has had on LGB people. LGB people don't need to be 'fixed' and were not 'born wrong,' they need to be let alone to grow up and sort out who they are. So many people seem to think it is LGB people driving the 'trans' movement and that it benefits them--it does not--it mutilates their healthy bodies and souls.
The primary beneficiaries and funders of the 'trans' movement, as we know from the investigative reporting about those who promote the 'T' part of the LGB, are the male, heterosexual cross-dresser sexual fetishists (autogynephiles/transvestic fetishists). They glommed onto the LGB, the DSDs (Intersex), and invented the 'trans child' and used the meaningless and incoherent 'gender identity' to obfuscate and gain greater acceptance for the T. How else would you be able to persuade the public to grant heterosexual males' sexual fetishes and paraphilias the status of a civil right in spite of its intrusion on women's rights and LGB's rights--both of which are sex-based. Thank you again for a well done essay.
“If someone asks you to show them your nails (It was never explained where/why this would ever happen) you were to hold your hands out in front of you with the palms up and fingers curled. You were to NEVER put your hands out palms down, as this was the first clue that you were a fairy.”
So weird. This was either from an episode of All In the Family or Maude. Maude was lecturing her husband about how he did it “wrong.” I remember watching it at some point with my family.
This is a sociologically fascinating document. (Why was the Swiss Family Robinson treehouse “for girls” when the SFR had all boys?) Rules for “masculine” butt-wiping…I would have thought it would be considered “gay” to be so interested in another guy’s butt, but of course, none of these “rules” are logical.
Since having kids eight years ago, I keep going through “grass is always greener” phases with societal sex roles. “Men get heaped with compliments for doing a mediocre job with things women do every day to no applause. Men have lower bars to reach to be good parents, attractive people, considerate partners.” Be that as it may, at least I never got judged on stupid crap like holding textbooks or stretching out my fingers, for God’s sake.
Thank you for taking the time to write this all down in detail. Our daughter has dated only girls, it seems probably she is lesbian though she says she's "bi" -- but the culture has convinced her she's a man trapped in a (hated) woman's body. This is so terrifying. Though there are signs the tide may be turning, it's going to be too late for WAY too many young people.
Thank you for making clear that a child with interests and preferences like yours doesn't indicate being ANY of the rainbow. This should be considered one of a series: this is one example of a somewhat feminine experience in a male body. Another: the era's men and boys (in movies, in school) were more interested in cruelty, competition, domination - if conforming means hurting someone... no thanks! Another possible reason is mine: an intersex condition. sarisimpapers.substack.com
My comment is the same one I made after the article, “A fathers Anger never sleeps”- this needs to be in the New York Times. Excellent piece. It needs to get out to a much wider audience. Well-meaning liberals (like me)need to be educated.
This was really a great story! I remember as a kid I had a toy stove/oven and loved to play with it "cooking foods." I always like making the Christmas cookies with my mom and aunt. I am definitely a heterosexual but in todays world, what would have happened to me with some snowflake parents who see having a trans child as a badge of honor?
I think you just provided an example what the studies show, that a portion of transitioning kids come to grips with their homosexuality sometime after puberty I think telling your story puts a face to that portion and offers parents another view of what their child might be doing other than the current gender dysphoria craze. Thank you for your honesty.
Wow! Awesome story! Kids got to be kids unlike now! Hey, I played with my brothers planes & trains when I was a kid in the 50s. I also played war instead of cowboys & indians. I'd hate to be a child now! And I used to copy my sister-in-law, my aunt, my uncle, other kids; it was called being a kid and exploring; we had no real clue about our sexuality till we hit puberty. Puberty was about styles, hair cuts or dos, slang; we were left alone to be kids. Now, kids lives are ruined by turning them into something they're not nore can every be. As a teen I wore men's shirts and jeans for about a year or so, then it was into stylish empire waist dresses in the 60s; I wasn't thrilled about puberty but I was happy to be growing up and not being considered a child, and my brain was maturing slowly. Today, a lot of kids will miss out on that with all the dangerous drugs and experimental surgery. Governments and medical personal need to give parents their children back and stop making them sick and sterile with a shorter life span and no real understanding of life whatsoever. More people are waking up to the medicalization & butchery of children who really need emotional/mental help; the tide with turn against transgenderism but the pace is slow. You are lucky to have been a kid in the 70s & 80s; the same time as my two boys and they figured life out, too. Those transgender kids don't get to figure things out or mature properly.
Thank you so much for this very well written synopsis of just how wrong your life could have gone. "Transing the gay away" is official policy in Iran, where homosexuality is illegal and never forget that Susie Green (recently resigned CEO of Mermaids) proudly declared on her TEDX talk that her fear of having a gay son was the reason she took him to Thailand to be mutilated for his 16th birthday. "Transkids" are indeed an adult invention that causes permanent harm to children. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/follow-the-yellow-brick-road
Gary thank you so much for this incredibly well written article. I hope we can save some from under the rainbow. I wish my son could share your happiness and contentment.
Yes, let kids be kids and let them play and use their imaginations. My sister and I have had discussions about two of our nephews being lucky to have born in the "right time" instead of in this insane trans-cult time. We both agree that one of my nephews could easily have been caught up in the trans ideology if he was born 10-12 years later. He has long hair down to his waist, is over 6'4", and loves the color pink. He played with his little sisters dolls growing up. He is not gay or trans but a healthy heterosexual male in a committed relationship with a woman who has a child. Our other nephew loved the movie "The Sandlot" so much when he was in 2nd grade that he identified as "Benny" and dressed like him, acted like him, and even told his teacher his name was Benny at the beginning of the new school year and he was called Benny. My sister and her husband were not aware of the "new" name being used at school until the first parent-teacher conference, but everyone thought it was funny. They explained to their son that he had to use his real name at school and a few months later he stopped being "Benny". All innocent and no one made a big deal about it. Had this happened in this day and age it could have been a different outcome. He is not gay. He is in a committed relationship and is engage to be married. Had he been born 10-12 years later, he might have been groomed and gotten caught up in the trans-cult ideology. My sister and I were both "tom-boys" growing up and we played hard outside: climbing trees, playing with earth worms and making mud pies, catching ladybugs, chasing butterflies, raking leaves to jump into the piles, digging snow forts, and making snowmen. Could we have been caught up in the trans-ideology 50+ years ago if what is happening today was happening then? It is so sad that our children's innocence is being stolen and teachers and doctors are so ready to put a label on boys and girls when no label is needed.
Your story is almost identical to mine and I’m a Lesbian!! Substitute all the “girl” stuff for “boy “ stuff. I feel bad for these kids and especially their parents. My 82 yr old best friend said I’m doing pretty well raising my daughter if she still wants to be a girl. Oy.
I hate sexual sin. Almost ruined my life with it. Don't recommend it.
Good news from Kansas. https://womensliberationfront.salsalabs.org/latest-news-04-06-2023?
Thank you for this article. I hope it helps people to understand the impact the pernicious 'trans' movement has had on LGB people. LGB people don't need to be 'fixed' and were not 'born wrong,' they need to be let alone to grow up and sort out who they are. So many people seem to think it is LGB people driving the 'trans' movement and that it benefits them--it does not--it mutilates their healthy bodies and souls.
The primary beneficiaries and funders of the 'trans' movement, as we know from the investigative reporting about those who promote the 'T' part of the LGB, are the male, heterosexual cross-dresser sexual fetishists (autogynephiles/transvestic fetishists). They glommed onto the LGB, the DSDs (Intersex), and invented the 'trans child' and used the meaningless and incoherent 'gender identity' to obfuscate and gain greater acceptance for the T. How else would you be able to persuade the public to grant heterosexual males' sexual fetishes and paraphilias the status of a civil right in spite of its intrusion on women's rights and LGB's rights--both of which are sex-based. Thank you again for a well done essay.
“If someone asks you to show them your nails (It was never explained where/why this would ever happen) you were to hold your hands out in front of you with the palms up and fingers curled. You were to NEVER put your hands out palms down, as this was the first clue that you were a fairy.”
So weird. This was either from an episode of All In the Family or Maude. Maude was lecturing her husband about how he did it “wrong.” I remember watching it at some point with my family.
This is a sociologically fascinating document. (Why was the Swiss Family Robinson treehouse “for girls” when the SFR had all boys?) Rules for “masculine” butt-wiping…I would have thought it would be considered “gay” to be so interested in another guy’s butt, but of course, none of these “rules” are logical.
Since having kids eight years ago, I keep going through “grass is always greener” phases with societal sex roles. “Men get heaped with compliments for doing a mediocre job with things women do every day to no applause. Men have lower bars to reach to be good parents, attractive people, considerate partners.” Be that as it may, at least I never got judged on stupid crap like holding textbooks or stretching out my fingers, for God’s sake.
Thank you for this. You sound like a wonderful and fulfilled man.
Thank you for taking the time to write this all down in detail. Our daughter has dated only girls, it seems probably she is lesbian though she says she's "bi" -- but the culture has convinced her she's a man trapped in a (hated) woman's body. This is so terrifying. Though there are signs the tide may be turning, it's going to be too late for WAY too many young people.
Thank you for making clear that a child with interests and preferences like yours doesn't indicate being ANY of the rainbow. This should be considered one of a series: this is one example of a somewhat feminine experience in a male body. Another: the era's men and boys (in movies, in school) were more interested in cruelty, competition, domination - if conforming means hurting someone... no thanks! Another possible reason is mine: an intersex condition. sarisimpapers.substack.com
All true, thank you
My comment is the same one I made after the article, “A fathers Anger never sleeps”- this needs to be in the New York Times. Excellent piece. It needs to get out to a much wider audience. Well-meaning liberals (like me)need to be educated.
This was really a great story! I remember as a kid I had a toy stove/oven and loved to play with it "cooking foods." I always like making the Christmas cookies with my mom and aunt. I am definitely a heterosexual but in todays world, what would have happened to me with some snowflake parents who see having a trans child as a badge of honor?
I think you just provided an example what the studies show, that a portion of transitioning kids come to grips with their homosexuality sometime after puberty I think telling your story puts a face to that portion and offers parents another view of what their child might be doing other than the current gender dysphoria craze. Thank you for your honesty.
Wow! Awesome story! Kids got to be kids unlike now! Hey, I played with my brothers planes & trains when I was a kid in the 50s. I also played war instead of cowboys & indians. I'd hate to be a child now! And I used to copy my sister-in-law, my aunt, my uncle, other kids; it was called being a kid and exploring; we had no real clue about our sexuality till we hit puberty. Puberty was about styles, hair cuts or dos, slang; we were left alone to be kids. Now, kids lives are ruined by turning them into something they're not nore can every be. As a teen I wore men's shirts and jeans for about a year or so, then it was into stylish empire waist dresses in the 60s; I wasn't thrilled about puberty but I was happy to be growing up and not being considered a child, and my brain was maturing slowly. Today, a lot of kids will miss out on that with all the dangerous drugs and experimental surgery. Governments and medical personal need to give parents their children back and stop making them sick and sterile with a shorter life span and no real understanding of life whatsoever. More people are waking up to the medicalization & butchery of children who really need emotional/mental help; the tide with turn against transgenderism but the pace is slow. You are lucky to have been a kid in the 70s & 80s; the same time as my two boys and they figured life out, too. Those transgender kids don't get to figure things out or mature properly.
Thank you so much for this very well written synopsis of just how wrong your life could have gone. "Transing the gay away" is official policy in Iran, where homosexuality is illegal and never forget that Susie Green (recently resigned CEO of Mermaids) proudly declared on her TEDX talk that her fear of having a gay son was the reason she took him to Thailand to be mutilated for his 16th birthday. "Transkids" are indeed an adult invention that causes permanent harm to children. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/follow-the-yellow-brick-road
Gary thank you so much for this incredibly well written article. I hope we can save some from under the rainbow. I wish my son could share your happiness and contentment.