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KB77's avatar

“just apologised and referred to him as ‘her’ to appease her”

I’ve stopped doing this - I either don’t use pronouns (you get used to it) or tell the person that I am not a member of the trans religion and don’t share their beliefs.

If they push back on it not being a religion, refer them to the textbook definition of transgender which explicitly states it is a “strong belief”. I don’t doubt the sincerity of trans people (or, say, the 9/11 terrorists) but it doesn’t mean I share the beliefs.

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Marc's avatar

If they push back, you pulled too strong.

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

We all draw the line somewhere, depending on so many different factors. I don't think there is one right solution of where that line is. Take-no-prisoners approach may not be strategically right for some of us (but may work for your child).

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KB77's avatar

Agreed - btw it hasn’t particularly “worked” with my child, she won’t talk to us. I use this more for when I talk with other people. We all have to judge the situation - plenty of Jews pretended to be Christian during the Inquisition, because of the obvious consequences. It’s also why I and many others are here anonymously.

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

Sorry about your daughter. I hope she comes to her senses soon. I hope they all do.

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