I have a PhD in Gender Studies. Well, not literally of course, but you get what I mean. I earned it by spending hundreds of hours researching how to rescue my brilliant, quirky, socially awkward, probably mildly autistic daughter from the transgender cult. I can now refute every “born in the wrong body, lifesaving medically necessary, not actually happening to children, why do you care so much, just be kind” talking point with ease. Never one to settle for mediocrity I actually “double majored”. While earning a PhD in gender I also earned an honorary nursing degree being the primary caregiver to a son with leukemia. I can now make sense of a CBC, silence the alarm on an IV infusion pump, and probably even place the needle to access a chemotherapy port.
Oh please publish your notes on talking point refutation! I'm working on the same notebook, but I'm so overwhelmed, and I can't keep my counterpoints mentally handy. I'd love to see what you have!
If you haven’t already read Lord of the Rings, do it! I can’t think of a more powerful meditation on a series of people who encounter extraordinary painful things and are changed by it. They come through, but not untouched by it. The films don’t really do that aspect of it justice.
I’m rereading it now as a reward for finishing my thesis. It just nurtures a human soul in so many ways.
I love what you wrote here. You are incredibly strong and wise. I've been in the gender ideology trenches , hoping to save my young adult ROGD son, for a decade come April. I think we may have the same PhD, at least, in gender studies. I can't imagine having to face a cancer diagnosis in another child as well. I hope to write my story soon. I have cherished each and every one of these stories since I found PITT almost a year ago. I thank you so much for sharing and pray for continued remission for both your kids and a chance to relax and exhale for you.
This is a beautiful story. We never know what life will throw at us. I have been wanting to write about my own cancer battle alongside an adult child lost in transition. Perhaps this will give me courage to do just that. Hugs and prayers for continued remission. Trans ideology is a horrible, predatory cult.
I too was diagnosed in the middle of the drama. I was so out of whack due to all I was going through and there was no compassion coming from my 'child' which was so weird. My heart goes out to you. Surely not anything we could have imagine.
I can't imagine what you've been through, with TWO children under threat. Your sister is right to remind you to look after yourself now, but I completely understand the need to stay active until the gender monster is dead in our society. I hope one day you will share in more detail your observations on how your daughter desisted. A lot of us could really use that . . .
Tears. You have me in tears. You seem like such a wonderful human being that I would live to share a cuppa with. Thank you! thank you for sharing your story & your words of encouragement . This here …ugh, i have been searching for the words on how I feel & you managed it …”I have a lot to be grateful for. And yet, I still feel clenched inside. Like I can’t quite exhale completely. …I think it’s my body trying to release the persistent feelings of trauma and anxiety”. It’s difficult to release because those of us who are in this hell are often suffering alone.
Sounds like PTSD, I have it too from something other than my daughter so as you were talking about your immediate thoughts I was feeling it as I read...while reading first I cried, then I smiled, then back to crying then smiling...God bless you and your family. Prayers for bright future ahead for all...I have a feeling your son will be just fine.
What a kind & honest piece. Whilst I am nowhere near any kind of desistance or reconciliation…I hadn’t thought about ‘the afterwards’ & how forever changed & difficult that might be. I read somewhere recently that we are morally obligated to put pain somewhere else…otherwise we will just become embittered & live in a dark, dark world. Be the best you can be at whatever that might be. Hard to do…but it is something of a mindset. I used to get really annoyed at people not saying anything because ‘they don’t want to upset you’. Totally normal to be upset
Thank you for this beautiful, strong piece that affirmed life and clued me in to how to continue to do this “motherhood thing” in a way that is true and respectful to all parties involved. 💜
I applaud your bravery and gathering of knowledge of transgenderism and cancer. I wish you and your family all the best. Thanks to people like you, the knowledge of these two horrors is being fought by awesome people like you!
What a hard time that must have been and what a story of strength and resilience. Your hard work and research skills have paid off for both of your children and I hope for a durable remission for them both. I wish you luck on your healing journey.
God bless you. Wow! I cant imagine all the stress and sleepless nights you had during this time.
God gives you only what he thinks you can handle and you surely have proven that and you should be so proud of yourself. I’m at awe with your story.
I can’t imagine any more pain than having a transgender child and you actually got to pull her out of the cult. I’m so happy for your family.
I can’t even talk about the subject cuz my son basically shuts his family off except if there is a lunch involved for either my birthday or his brothers. He allows this because we are in public and done in one hour. Then he goes back to ignoring us. Sad.
Thanks for giving me faith that someday maybe my son will come out of it. Go treat yourself because you earned it.
Oh please publish your notes on talking point refutation! I'm working on the same notebook, but I'm so overwhelmed, and I can't keep my counterpoints mentally handy. I'd love to see what you have!
Oh, my goodness. You have been through so much! If I ever have to face such hardship, I hope I can do it as well as you.
If you haven’t already read Lord of the Rings, do it! I can’t think of a more powerful meditation on a series of people who encounter extraordinary painful things and are changed by it. They come through, but not untouched by it. The films don’t really do that aspect of it justice.
I’m rereading it now as a reward for finishing my thesis. It just nurtures a human soul in so many ways.
As my grandfather used to say, "Bless your little heart." Take care of yourself ❤️. What you wrote is beautiful.
I love what you wrote here. You are incredibly strong and wise. I've been in the gender ideology trenches , hoping to save my young adult ROGD son, for a decade come April. I think we may have the same PhD, at least, in gender studies. I can't imagine having to face a cancer diagnosis in another child as well. I hope to write my story soon. I have cherished each and every one of these stories since I found PITT almost a year ago. I thank you so much for sharing and pray for continued remission for both your kids and a chance to relax and exhale for you.
This is a beautiful story. We never know what life will throw at us. I have been wanting to write about my own cancer battle alongside an adult child lost in transition. Perhaps this will give me courage to do just that. Hugs and prayers for continued remission. Trans ideology is a horrible, predatory cult.
I too was diagnosed in the middle of the drama. I was so out of whack due to all I was going through and there was no compassion coming from my 'child' which was so weird. My heart goes out to you. Surely not anything we could have imagine.
I can't imagine what you've been through, with TWO children under threat. Your sister is right to remind you to look after yourself now, but I completely understand the need to stay active until the gender monster is dead in our society. I hope one day you will share in more detail your observations on how your daughter desisted. A lot of us could really use that . . .
Bless you. Let Hashem (Hebrew for the Name, G-d) bless your entire family and heal all your maladies
Tears. You have me in tears. You seem like such a wonderful human being that I would live to share a cuppa with. Thank you! thank you for sharing your story & your words of encouragement . This here …ugh, i have been searching for the words on how I feel & you managed it …”I have a lot to be grateful for. And yet, I still feel clenched inside. Like I can’t quite exhale completely. …I think it’s my body trying to release the persistent feelings of trauma and anxiety”. It’s difficult to release because those of us who are in this hell are often suffering alone.
Sounds like PTSD, I have it too from something other than my daughter so as you were talking about your immediate thoughts I was feeling it as I read...while reading first I cried, then I smiled, then back to crying then smiling...God bless you and your family. Prayers for bright future ahead for all...I have a feeling your son will be just fine.
What a kind & honest piece. Whilst I am nowhere near any kind of desistance or reconciliation…I hadn’t thought about ‘the afterwards’ & how forever changed & difficult that might be. I read somewhere recently that we are morally obligated to put pain somewhere else…otherwise we will just become embittered & live in a dark, dark world. Be the best you can be at whatever that might be. Hard to do…but it is something of a mindset. I used to get really annoyed at people not saying anything because ‘they don’t want to upset you’. Totally normal to be upset
My heart & hugs go out to you
Thank you for this beautiful, strong piece that affirmed life and clued me in to how to continue to do this “motherhood thing” in a way that is true and respectful to all parties involved. 💜
I applaud your bravery and gathering of knowledge of transgenderism and cancer. I wish you and your family all the best. Thanks to people like you, the knowledge of these two horrors is being fought by awesome people like you!
What a hard time that must have been and what a story of strength and resilience. Your hard work and research skills have paid off for both of your children and I hope for a durable remission for them both. I wish you luck on your healing journey.
What an amazing parent you are. Your children are lucky to have you.
God bless you. Wow! I cant imagine all the stress and sleepless nights you had during this time.
God gives you only what he thinks you can handle and you surely have proven that and you should be so proud of yourself. I’m at awe with your story.
I can’t imagine any more pain than having a transgender child and you actually got to pull her out of the cult. I’m so happy for your family.
I can’t even talk about the subject cuz my son basically shuts his family off except if there is a lunch involved for either my birthday or his brothers. He allows this because we are in public and done in one hour. Then he goes back to ignoring us. Sad.
Thanks for giving me faith that someday maybe my son will come out of it. Go treat yourself because you earned it.