This is the first segment of an essay in six parts. Desistance, for me, is coming to terms with the fact that I believed a lie that messed me up and figuring out where to go from here. I stretched myself so far to comprehend what the hell happened to me that I nearly came emotionally dislocated.
Great post, thank you. I am so excited for the whole series. I too have read the Walter Isaacson biography of Elon Musk and was saddened by what I read about his son. This scenario is all too common when parents respond differently to the trans announcement, with one questioning and trying to uphold biological reality while the other unquestioningly embraces the gender madness.
Thank you for being so brave and thank you for writing this excellent essay which hopefully reaches many confused parents to keep fighting against this created craziness...
Thank you for speaking out. I believe the most powerful voices in stopping this runaway train are the voices of those who have lived the experience and seek to get out. You have a better understanding of how you may have been influenced into this 'community' and how loving parents can help keep their children out of its tentacles. I spend a lot of time with youth, and I see how deeply they have been propagandized on this subject. I don't try to attack it head on, but I consciously work to build self confidence and community with these youngters in ways that don't involve gender politics. Throughout human history, young people have benefited by having life skills, multiple adults to trust, and a strong community around them. Cults are notorious for appealing to young people who feel lost and alone by offering belonging. Mentoring youth is something many of us can do to reduce the vulnerability of children in our commnities.
Desistors and detransitioners cut through the pseudoscientific gobbledygook with 20:20 vision and clarity.
We must all keep calling out the dangerous lie that is responsible for a medical scandal to dwarf all historical medical scandals.
Never before, apart from in Aztec times, have adults, governments and social institutions enthusiastically sacrificed kids’ bodies and futures in service of a religious delusion.
This is a heartfelt and true message ! Your observations of this cult are well written and intelligent! The conclusion that this inhumane experiment must be outlawed is absolutely correct! We need more writers like you to fight this dangerous authoritarian ideology! We need legislators who recognize the danger and d who are willing to put their careers on line to fight this. Unfortunately, there are no liberals who will do this, so even if one disagrees with much of the conservatives, we need to support them ..since it’s only Conservatives who are on the right (sic) side of this issue.. I would put the abortion issue on hold for now and vote for anyone who is against the trans / queer agenda. It’s the most important issue now.
The story about the young man whose parents were lesbians is a cautionary tale. We are told, over and over, that lesbian/gay couples make fine parents.
I have increasing doubts about this. The lesbian couple cannot make a child without a contribution from some male. When the child is male, he has no male role model. Such male children are raised in a distorted and inappropriate environment.
Thank you so much for writing this! In Ohio, we could use some letters in support of the Safe Act by December 4th. There are 6 major clinics tucked into Children's Hospitals. They are lying about not doing surgeries on kids. If anyone could please write to the committee in favor of the bill, we would greatly appreciate it. You can change your name if you need to.
Please work on it this weekend or just contact the committee to vote next week and protect Ohio children now. We had several doctors come forward as well. We have had Helena, Chloe, Alex, and now a new set of detransitioners including one from Ohio. In Cincinnati, the CCHC boast transitioning 4,000 since 2015, many from other states. In court case against parents who refused testosterone for their daughter, the clinic director, Conard, stated that they transition 100% of the kids in 2015. So as Kentucky and Indiana has outlawed this, they are fast tracking patients and surgeries. Cincinnati doubled down on therapists by passing a local gender identity conversion therapy ban.
The reason progressive people are so all in for transitioning transgender kids is because they see efforts to dissuade them from being allowed to express their "true" authentic selves as running parallel along the same lines as conversion therapy's homophobic attempts to change gay kids into straight kids, done by homophobes who think being gay is somehow repugnant and immoral to nature's, and often god's, sensibilities.
They truly believe kids feel they're trans the same way gay kids come to feel gay and straight people learn to discover they're straight! They're convinced these people aren't making a mistake in their self identity and that it's not a disorder, the same way we now recognize gay as not being a mental disorder the way we all once thought it was.
Once you understand their mentality you can come to accept it and realize you're never going to change the way those tyoes of people think. Instead you need to find ways to convince them that children can be wrong about the way they think and that they need to be given time to mature into adults before being allowed to make such an irredeemable decision towards their body, no different than we consider a rush to tattooing or harmful alcohol use among still developing minors today.
Who is the writer? Will we know on the sixth episode? She writes well and in the kind of detail such an experience would leave on someone. The question is why so many people join forces to allow pre-teens to be swept up in a choice none of those involved should make. Maturation takes a long time and the brain seems to be at the end of that process, somewhere around 25. I await the first of many lawsuits against hospitals, clinics, therapists, schools, Drs and Nurses. Only significant financial punishment will change this insane activity.
The unfortunate part, is you had to go through this, to be the immutable voice you are today.
This reminds me of many passages in the bible, but Job's story echoes here.
I'm sure the hell you've been through, was consuming and I know you're not here for accolades, cheers or pats on the back. So I will simply say "Thank You" and you have my immense respect, for saddling up your righteous anger and riding back into the battle, to expose and annihilate the lies, scam and criminals - still capturing millions of children out there - drowning in the insanity.
The idea that a parent would support gender fluid seems to support the ideology as a whole. As a 50 something Mom who grew up singing "William has a Doll" and "Free to be You and Me" This entire bullocks load of crap needs to just be abolished.. There is no right way to be a boy or girl - just be!
Brilliant.
Great post, thank you. I am so excited for the whole series. I too have read the Walter Isaacson biography of Elon Musk and was saddened by what I read about his son. This scenario is all too common when parents respond differently to the trans announcement, with one questioning and trying to uphold biological reality while the other unquestioningly embraces the gender madness.
Thank you for being so brave and thank you for writing this excellent essay which hopefully reaches many confused parents to keep fighting against this created craziness...
Thank you for speaking out. I believe the most powerful voices in stopping this runaway train are the voices of those who have lived the experience and seek to get out. You have a better understanding of how you may have been influenced into this 'community' and how loving parents can help keep their children out of its tentacles. I spend a lot of time with youth, and I see how deeply they have been propagandized on this subject. I don't try to attack it head on, but I consciously work to build self confidence and community with these youngters in ways that don't involve gender politics. Throughout human history, young people have benefited by having life skills, multiple adults to trust, and a strong community around them. Cults are notorious for appealing to young people who feel lost and alone by offering belonging. Mentoring youth is something many of us can do to reduce the vulnerability of children in our commnities.
Well said!
Desistors and detransitioners cut through the pseudoscientific gobbledygook with 20:20 vision and clarity.
We must all keep calling out the dangerous lie that is responsible for a medical scandal to dwarf all historical medical scandals.
Never before, apart from in Aztec times, have adults, governments and social institutions enthusiastically sacrificed kids’ bodies and futures in service of a religious delusion.
This is a heartfelt and true message ! Your observations of this cult are well written and intelligent! The conclusion that this inhumane experiment must be outlawed is absolutely correct! We need more writers like you to fight this dangerous authoritarian ideology! We need legislators who recognize the danger and d who are willing to put their careers on line to fight this. Unfortunately, there are no liberals who will do this, so even if one disagrees with much of the conservatives, we need to support them ..since it’s only Conservatives who are on the right (sic) side of this issue.. I would put the abortion issue on hold for now and vote for anyone who is against the trans / queer agenda. It’s the most important issue now.
Thank you for writing and sharing this. I'm thinking of sharing it with one of my desisting clients.
The story about the young man whose parents were lesbians is a cautionary tale. We are told, over and over, that lesbian/gay couples make fine parents.
I have increasing doubts about this. The lesbian couple cannot make a child without a contribution from some male. When the child is male, he has no male role model. Such male children are raised in a distorted and inappropriate environment.
This is such a well argued piece. You are to be congratulated and I very much look forward to reading other upcoming pieces. Well done
Thank you so much for writing this! In Ohio, we could use some letters in support of the Safe Act by December 4th. There are 6 major clinics tucked into Children's Hospitals. They are lying about not doing surgeries on kids. If anyone could please write to the committee in favor of the bill, we would greatly appreciate it. You can change your name if you need to.
Here is the bill: https://search-prod.lis.state.oh.us/solarapi/v1/general_assembly_135/bills/hb68/IN/00/hb68_00_IN?format=pdf
Here is the committee:
https://ohiosenate.gov/committees/government-oversight
We had several destransitioners who came to testify in addition to Corinna Cohn if you care to watch.
Testimony should be sent to the Chair, Kristina D. Roegner: https://ohiosenate.gov/members/kristina-d-roegner
Please work on it this weekend or just contact the committee to vote next week and protect Ohio children now. We had several doctors come forward as well. We have had Helena, Chloe, Alex, and now a new set of detransitioners including one from Ohio. In Cincinnati, the CCHC boast transitioning 4,000 since 2015, many from other states. In court case against parents who refused testosterone for their daughter, the clinic director, Conard, stated that they transition 100% of the kids in 2015. So as Kentucky and Indiana has outlawed this, they are fast tracking patients and surgeries. Cincinnati doubled down on therapists by passing a local gender identity conversion therapy ban.
If you would like to connect with parents, go to: www.CardinalSupportNetwork.com
Please help us.
Thanks!
https://ohiochannel.org/collections/ohio-senate-government-oversight-committee
The reason progressive people are so all in for transitioning transgender kids is because they see efforts to dissuade them from being allowed to express their "true" authentic selves as running parallel along the same lines as conversion therapy's homophobic attempts to change gay kids into straight kids, done by homophobes who think being gay is somehow repugnant and immoral to nature's, and often god's, sensibilities.
They truly believe kids feel they're trans the same way gay kids come to feel gay and straight people learn to discover they're straight! They're convinced these people aren't making a mistake in their self identity and that it's not a disorder, the same way we now recognize gay as not being a mental disorder the way we all once thought it was.
Once you understand their mentality you can come to accept it and realize you're never going to change the way those tyoes of people think. Instead you need to find ways to convince them that children can be wrong about the way they think and that they need to be given time to mature into adults before being allowed to make such an irredeemable decision towards their body, no different than we consider a rush to tattooing or harmful alcohol use among still developing minors today.
you rock. thank you.
Who is the writer? Will we know on the sixth episode? She writes well and in the kind of detail such an experience would leave on someone. The question is why so many people join forces to allow pre-teens to be swept up in a choice none of those involved should make. Maturation takes a long time and the brain seems to be at the end of that process, somewhere around 25. I await the first of many lawsuits against hospitals, clinics, therapists, schools, Drs and Nurses. Only significant financial punishment will change this insane activity.
The unfortunate part, is you had to go through this, to be the immutable voice you are today.
This reminds me of many passages in the bible, but Job's story echoes here.
I'm sure the hell you've been through, was consuming and I know you're not here for accolades, cheers or pats on the back. So I will simply say "Thank You" and you have my immense respect, for saddling up your righteous anger and riding back into the battle, to expose and annihilate the lies, scam and criminals - still capturing millions of children out there - drowning in the insanity.
Very well done!!
Absolutely true, and very well said. Thank you for your efforts to curb this really terrible and regrettable fad or cult.
The idea that a parent would support gender fluid seems to support the ideology as a whole. As a 50 something Mom who grew up singing "William has a Doll" and "Free to be You and Me" This entire bullocks load of crap needs to just be abolished.. There is no right way to be a boy or girl - just be!