There are days that I wish I didn’t know everything I do about gender ideology, elective youth medicalization, radical transgender politics and the terrifying changes they have made to our society as a whole. I wish I didn’t know that my fourteen year old daughter is currently on a path that could see her heavily medicated and surgically modified before her eighteenth birthday. I don’t want to think about my child becoming a permanent medical patient if she persists in her self-proclaimed, likely socially induced, transgenderism. I wish I didn’t sit, worry and wait while she spends time with her affirming father, wondering how much deeper she is sinking into a dangerous ideology while she’s gone. I want to be rid of my understanding that as a Canadian mother I have no right to protect my child and that, if her other parent decided she would be better off on testosterone and would benefit from a double mastectomy, I would be legally unable to challenge the decision.
"I wish it need not have happened in my time," said Frodo.
"So do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us."
I wish I didn’t know it at my age. I wish all the kids I go to high school with wouldn’t mutilate themselves. I wish the teachers would actually do something about it instead of breaking their backs to accommodate their fantasy. But I’m better off knowing then allowing it to happen.
I’m so grateful to have found people with like mind. We are struggling with a 19 year old son with autism and gender dysphoria. We feel so alone. All the therapists we have found are affirming this sickness
It did occur to me that I know way more about this trans stuff than I ever wanted to know. It is a curious subject and I'm sure that someone with is knowledge could help a lot of people or hurt a lot of people. There are other things I'd like to do with my time. Unfortunately, I'm not in a position where I have a choice.
I think it’s very important for people, who are concerned about the current flood of transgender alignment medicalization, to emphasize that they object to dangerous and irresponsible misapplication or disregard of vetting protocols, the inappropriate exposure of young children before they are able to understand the topic, and the illegal usurping of parental rights regarding their children. We do not hate trans people, nor are we transphobic. The political debate over transgender affecting laws is a totally separate issue.
This quote from British psychiatrist and author Theodore Dalrymple -- a pen name, real name Anthony Daniels -- seems most apropos to transmania:
“Political correctness is communist propaganda writ small. In my study of communist societies, I came to the conclusion that the purpose of communist propaganda was not to persuade or convince, not to inform, but to humiliate; and therefore, the less it corresponded to reality the better.
When people are forced to remain silent when they are being told the most obvious lies, or even worse when they are forced to repeat the lies themselves, they lose once and for all their sense of probity. To assent to obvious lies is in some small way to become evil oneself. One's standing to resist anything is thus eroded, and even destroyed. A society of emasculated liars is easy to control. I think if you examine political correctness, it has the same effect and is intended to.”
Same here - I think about those blissful days when a binder was just a three ring notebook, my kids were happy just being themselves, and I didn’t lie awake at night completely filled with dread.
It's so incredibly painful and disturbing--and I'm glad I know. I can't believe how long this mind-altering, insidious virus had to spread and take hold of our institutions with so few reasonable people resisting it. Any longer and we'd already be lost. I'm glad I know and sick that it's happening. Our children are inspiring and preparing US to be the ones to stop it.
Thank God that we all get together on this and other platforms to fight this ignorance and evil. We spread the truth and one day, when the lawsuits from detransitioners and their parents fill the lists of various Courts, heart-rending accounts like yours will be part of the testimonies.
Courage to you and like-minded protective moms! Since we are not yet seeing push-back in Canada (as we are begining to see in the UK) I hope that your daughter somehow "sees the light of truth" that she is a beautiful whole human being who does not need to alter her body. I hope that she finds other activities, not the navel-gazing and the spells of "influencers" on the little screens 24/7. We have to break the social media obsession. Perhaps you could suggest that to her father, to test just how much of this "real new person" comes from her and how much from social media?
Just a suggestion.
My heart is breaking reading about this chaos and despair. X Una
Thank you for your compelling description of what I also wish I didn't know. For over a year, I know my vulnerable, confused 20 year old son falls deeper into the pit of gender ideology. But I can't block out this knowledge because I love my son. My precious son. He takes multiple pills a day, has HRT induced small breasts, dresses in stereotypical female clothes, and is alienated from his parents' guidance. I know that this is devastating. I hold hope that this trail of destruction will be dismantled. In the meantime, I know distressed children and young adults deserve better care that does not do further harm. So do their families.
I wish I didn’t know too. I wish I didn’t talk to the school counselor, I wish I didn’t know that she changed name and pronoun. I wish I didn’t read her journal.
Such a powerful piece. This is me too. I wish I didn't know. Used to talk about my "pre-covid" life. Look at pics of my 11yr old last summer. 8 months later, here I am wishing for the "pre-trans" days again.
"I wish it need not have happened in my time," said Frodo.
"So do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us."
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
I totally understand you and feel your pain but you’re right, we have to turn the pain into actions against these evil agendas.
I wish I didn’t know it at my age. I wish all the kids I go to high school with wouldn’t mutilate themselves. I wish the teachers would actually do something about it instead of breaking their backs to accommodate their fantasy. But I’m better off knowing then allowing it to happen.
I’m so grateful to have found people with like mind. We are struggling with a 19 year old son with autism and gender dysphoria. We feel so alone. All the therapists we have found are affirming this sickness
It did occur to me that I know way more about this trans stuff than I ever wanted to know. It is a curious subject and I'm sure that someone with is knowledge could help a lot of people or hurt a lot of people. There are other things I'd like to do with my time. Unfortunately, I'm not in a position where I have a choice.
I think it’s very important for people, who are concerned about the current flood of transgender alignment medicalization, to emphasize that they object to dangerous and irresponsible misapplication or disregard of vetting protocols, the inappropriate exposure of young children before they are able to understand the topic, and the illegal usurping of parental rights regarding their children. We do not hate trans people, nor are we transphobic. The political debate over transgender affecting laws is a totally separate issue.
This quote from British psychiatrist and author Theodore Dalrymple -- a pen name, real name Anthony Daniels -- seems most apropos to transmania:
“Political correctness is communist propaganda writ small. In my study of communist societies, I came to the conclusion that the purpose of communist propaganda was not to persuade or convince, not to inform, but to humiliate; and therefore, the less it corresponded to reality the better.
When people are forced to remain silent when they are being told the most obvious lies, or even worse when they are forced to repeat the lies themselves, they lose once and for all their sense of probity. To assent to obvious lies is in some small way to become evil oneself. One's standing to resist anything is thus eroded, and even destroyed. A society of emasculated liars is easy to control. I think if you examine political correctness, it has the same effect and is intended to.”
Do you know @BillboardChris? He may be able to give you contacts for parent support groups and activists.
Same here - I think about those blissful days when a binder was just a three ring notebook, my kids were happy just being themselves, and I didn’t lie awake at night completely filled with dread.
I also say that I wish I could unknow most of the things I now know because of gender identity ideology, but that I'm also glad I do know. It's evil.
Beautifully written. Heartbreaking. Am in Canada too. So sorry you're going through this.
It's so incredibly painful and disturbing--and I'm glad I know. I can't believe how long this mind-altering, insidious virus had to spread and take hold of our institutions with so few reasonable people resisting it. Any longer and we'd already be lost. I'm glad I know and sick that it's happening. Our children are inspiring and preparing US to be the ones to stop it.
You are right. We know. As a parent, educator, and gay woman, I can't live with being quiet about this scandal, as dark and horrifying as it is.
Thank God that we all get together on this and other platforms to fight this ignorance and evil. We spread the truth and one day, when the lawsuits from detransitioners and their parents fill the lists of various Courts, heart-rending accounts like yours will be part of the testimonies.
Courage to you and like-minded protective moms! Since we are not yet seeing push-back in Canada (as we are begining to see in the UK) I hope that your daughter somehow "sees the light of truth" that she is a beautiful whole human being who does not need to alter her body. I hope that she finds other activities, not the navel-gazing and the spells of "influencers" on the little screens 24/7. We have to break the social media obsession. Perhaps you could suggest that to her father, to test just how much of this "real new person" comes from her and how much from social media?
Just a suggestion.
My heart is breaking reading about this chaos and despair. X Una
Thank you for your compelling description of what I also wish I didn't know. For over a year, I know my vulnerable, confused 20 year old son falls deeper into the pit of gender ideology. But I can't block out this knowledge because I love my son. My precious son. He takes multiple pills a day, has HRT induced small breasts, dresses in stereotypical female clothes, and is alienated from his parents' guidance. I know that this is devastating. I hold hope that this trail of destruction will be dismantled. In the meantime, I know distressed children and young adults deserve better care that does not do further harm. So do their families.
I wish I didn’t know too. I wish I didn’t talk to the school counselor, I wish I didn’t know that she changed name and pronoun. I wish I didn’t read her journal.
Such a powerful piece. This is me too. I wish I didn't know. Used to talk about my "pre-covid" life. Look at pics of my 11yr old last summer. 8 months later, here I am wishing for the "pre-trans" days again.