My autistic daughter, who suffers with severe depression, social anxiety, OCD, intellectual disability, memory impairment, and body dysmorphia, recently informed me that she’s obsessed with gay male sex in Japanese anime films and in “deviant” art drawings. But it goes beyond that. She informed me that she wants to BECOME a gay man and reenact the porn art she sees. She’s so internalized it that she thinks she has become them.
My take on this phenomenon: Horny teens see 2 of the sex they are biologically attracted to acting out love and sex in the not-quite-real anime style. Unattached to a vigorous in-person social life, they develop an inner relationship with cartoon characters and want to BE one of the characters they see having sex with a beautiful member of the opposite sex (for which they have normal biological attraction).
I have seen this play out with a friend’s son - he wants to be a woman because lesbian porn turns him on.
Add autism, and the situation intensifies both on the social alienation and on the cognitive end.
Of course, none of this would be a problem without the culture untethering itself from reality….
I care that you are grieving and suffering. And there are so many of us that have the same pain. I am so sorry for all of this. My heart is Humpty Dumpty.
Where did she get the "introjection" from for Japanese gay porn manga? I did not know that something like this exists, am I surprised anymore? hardly.
You don't mention a Father in the picture neither, what you are telling is a story of so many layers, Why she still have "control" of what she watch or not, or have contact with or not. She is a very disable person and has to be treated like that, maybe some special school? or not school at all? Is she in medication? Have you try treatment for her autism or therapy of any kind? So many layers indeed.
Now, if I would be in your place after doctors do not have found any kind of relief for her I would take her to a priest or a church first and see how she behaves in front of sacred things like a cross or I would bring a Cross at home, preferable a blessed one, probably you do not believe in the existence of the spiritual realm, but you do not have much to lose because of the ways things are right now and who knows maybe you start to believe and pray. Her behavior looks like demonic to me, maybe not possession but oppression, that is another level of interaction in the spiritual world that still exists regardless that we believe in it or not, but if we believe we have an advantage. Good wishes!!
This is so heart wrenching.... argh it broke me a bit.....💔💔😥
Sending you love my dear one, I have no words.... your pain is real and validated..you are not the crazy one and to want to let go and forget and have some joy is a very normal human reaction to self survival.
You are not alone, we are all here for you and completely understand the pain you feel.
There is no explanation except that it is a cult. When a sufficient number of young people are harmed by the cult then Governments and public authorities will finally take note and stop providing the conditions which promote its spread. Here in the UK we finally have the Cass Review, which is the first step in removing the propitious conditions. But there is so, so much more to do. Good luck to you! I hope you find your daughter again.
I have felt the same way. I am in emotional pain with my daughter’s transition. I did read a report that kids with autism, Asperger, ADHD/ADD, have a higher than average rate of gender dysphoria than kids without the above mental disorders. My daughter has significant ADD. The doctor who conducted the research, did a retrospective study of patients from our health insurance which is a very large HMO. I hope this brings you some insight.
I can't because I have two older kids from another relationship. When my son's father and I made our wills we split the inheritance three ways. I wanted to be sure that my older children would get a fair share should I die first so my younger son was left a third and the other two each will have a third as well. There is a trustee for my younger son's portion.
I sure feel this one. My son doesn't think he's a girl, but he has a number of other delusional beliefs which give me much, much sympathy. For instance, he believes that a childhood vacation to Canada was part of a cruel scheme to trick him into never leaving the US.
I'm currently trying to detach and stop caring. It's not easy. They scream abuse at us, then charge headlong into disaster and expect our help. We provide it because we love them, but they only begin abusing us again.
What I am now trying to do is draw and enforce boundaries. Kids aren't the only ones who get to have them. One, which I've kept so far, is that I close any channel of communication which he uses for verbal abuse. If he chooses to use all channels for verbal abuse and is left with no way to reach his only benefactor ... well, that may be what he needs to understand what he's really doing.
Hang in there, and I'll do the same. This may yet pass.
At this point, I would make one last attempt at rescuing her. I would offer holiday in Portugal, and take away all devices, phone, laptop and internet, once there. No money to go to internet cafe in town and no devices. Give it all to the landlady for secure storage. Hide yours, don't let her see it in use, ever. Say that you don't have a phone either. Stay as long as necessary and sell up if needed to fund it. I would instruct an agent to auction off my stuff and sell the house, anything. Or put it all on credit card and deal with it later. Anything. S/he who saves one, saves the world entire.
Call me crazy, but the way our children are acting is demonic. A child who laughs when you cry is not normal. It seems that autistic children are most vulnerable to it. As a follower of Christ I believe in people being possessed or oppressed by the demonic. How else could normal children become so hateful of their own body, sexuality, and even their parents? I mean, has anyone ever thought of deliverance or even exorcism? Are things like anime, social media, porn, etc. opening doors to the demonic world? With my daughter it is like she turned into someone else, someone who has no empathy, kindness, or forgiveness in her. She used to be sweet, thoughtful, and loving. What is happening to them?
I'm sorry to read this and I'm ahead of you in your script. My daughter at 18 called the police and social services on me which thank goodness the police didn't take seriously.
I retired in Spain, and I met a depressed once suicidal woman who I am giving support to and I give language classes. I am also able to visit my elderly parents.
My take on this phenomenon: Horny teens see 2 of the sex they are biologically attracted to acting out love and sex in the not-quite-real anime style. Unattached to a vigorous in-person social life, they develop an inner relationship with cartoon characters and want to BE one of the characters they see having sex with a beautiful member of the opposite sex (for which they have normal biological attraction).
I have seen this play out with a friend’s son - he wants to be a woman because lesbian porn turns him on.
Add autism, and the situation intensifies both on the social alienation and on the cognitive end.
Of course, none of this would be a problem without the culture untethering itself from reality….
I care that you are grieving and suffering. And there are so many of us that have the same pain. I am so sorry for all of this. My heart is Humpty Dumpty.
Where did she get the "introjection" from for Japanese gay porn manga? I did not know that something like this exists, am I surprised anymore? hardly.
You don't mention a Father in the picture neither, what you are telling is a story of so many layers, Why she still have "control" of what she watch or not, or have contact with or not. She is a very disable person and has to be treated like that, maybe some special school? or not school at all? Is she in medication? Have you try treatment for her autism or therapy of any kind? So many layers indeed.
Now, if I would be in your place after doctors do not have found any kind of relief for her I would take her to a priest or a church first and see how she behaves in front of sacred things like a cross or I would bring a Cross at home, preferable a blessed one, probably you do not believe in the existence of the spiritual realm, but you do not have much to lose because of the ways things are right now and who knows maybe you start to believe and pray. Her behavior looks like demonic to me, maybe not possession but oppression, that is another level of interaction in the spiritual world that still exists regardless that we believe in it or not, but if we believe we have an advantage. Good wishes!!
Hell displayed here as the bottomless pit, it can always be worse as we see here. My heart breaks for us all.
That is heavy. I can see elements of my situation in there. If you have a Christian faith - dig in.
All my love to you. I hope she turns 18 very soon, and you can fly wherever you want. You don't deserve this.
This is so heart wrenching.... argh it broke me a bit.....💔💔😥
Sending you love my dear one, I have no words.... your pain is real and validated..you are not the crazy one and to want to let go and forget and have some joy is a very normal human reaction to self survival.
You are not alone, we are all here for you and completely understand the pain you feel.
💔💔😥🙏😥💔💔
There is no explanation except that it is a cult. When a sufficient number of young people are harmed by the cult then Governments and public authorities will finally take note and stop providing the conditions which promote its spread. Here in the UK we finally have the Cass Review, which is the first step in removing the propitious conditions. But there is so, so much more to do. Good luck to you! I hope you find your daughter again.
I have felt the same way. I am in emotional pain with my daughter’s transition. I did read a report that kids with autism, Asperger, ADHD/ADD, have a higher than average rate of gender dysphoria than kids without the above mental disorders. My daughter has significant ADD. The doctor who conducted the research, did a retrospective study of patients from our health insurance which is a very large HMO. I hope this brings you some insight.
I can't because I have two older kids from another relationship. When my son's father and I made our wills we split the inheritance three ways. I wanted to be sure that my older children would get a fair share should I die first so my younger son was left a third and the other two each will have a third as well. There is a trustee for my younger son's portion.
I sure feel this one. My son doesn't think he's a girl, but he has a number of other delusional beliefs which give me much, much sympathy. For instance, he believes that a childhood vacation to Canada was part of a cruel scheme to trick him into never leaving the US.
I'm currently trying to detach and stop caring. It's not easy. They scream abuse at us, then charge headlong into disaster and expect our help. We provide it because we love them, but they only begin abusing us again.
What I am now trying to do is draw and enforce boundaries. Kids aren't the only ones who get to have them. One, which I've kept so far, is that I close any channel of communication which he uses for verbal abuse. If he chooses to use all channels for verbal abuse and is left with no way to reach his only benefactor ... well, that may be what he needs to understand what he's really doing.
Hang in there, and I'll do the same. This may yet pass.
At this point, I would make one last attempt at rescuing her. I would offer holiday in Portugal, and take away all devices, phone, laptop and internet, once there. No money to go to internet cafe in town and no devices. Give it all to the landlady for secure storage. Hide yours, don't let her see it in use, ever. Say that you don't have a phone either. Stay as long as necessary and sell up if needed to fund it. I would instruct an agent to auction off my stuff and sell the house, anything. Or put it all on credit card and deal with it later. Anything. S/he who saves one, saves the world entire.
As one mother to another, I feel the pain in each word. I am so sorry
Let her run away. You are being terrorized in your own home. She's made her choice.
Call me crazy, but the way our children are acting is demonic. A child who laughs when you cry is not normal. It seems that autistic children are most vulnerable to it. As a follower of Christ I believe in people being possessed or oppressed by the demonic. How else could normal children become so hateful of their own body, sexuality, and even their parents? I mean, has anyone ever thought of deliverance or even exorcism? Are things like anime, social media, porn, etc. opening doors to the demonic world? With my daughter it is like she turned into someone else, someone who has no empathy, kindness, or forgiveness in her. She used to be sweet, thoughtful, and loving. What is happening to them?
I'm sorry to read this and I'm ahead of you in your script. My daughter at 18 called the police and social services on me which thank goodness the police didn't take seriously.
I retired in Spain, and I met a depressed once suicidal woman who I am giving support to and I give language classes. I am also able to visit my elderly parents.