What's most curious to me is that most parents (presumably; hopefully!) would not defer to their children on any other matter of such permanence and import—why this one?
In part, I fault decades of "child centered" parenting, which has led to such not uncommon absurdities as weepy parents declaring that their 9-year-old is their "hero" and suchlike. So many contemporary parents seem to virtually idolize immature humans of their particular genetic lineage, and I don't understand it. At all.
So powerful! You are 100% right! Children need to be children and should not be allowed to make adult decisions until they are an adult. The world needs to help these confused children - not encourage them to change who they are and label them “trans-kids” - you have a strong voice. Thank you for sharing. I am praying that the truth as you explained here will be heard far and wide!
I don't label such kids in that way at all and never have. Do try not to misrepresent me, pet, I am not a fan of feminists. Plus your figures are completely wrong. I am familiar with the paper you got this nonsense from and they are not reliable. The fact is that amongst persistently sex non-conforming children, the vast majority will be either homosexual or transsexual. Clearly the latter is a better option.
People beat their heads against the wall asking WHY WHY WHY??? You could do your own research but the answer has been fully researched and documented in scores of learned reports. Abigail Shrier has written a brilliant SubStack Article, her handle: the Truth Fairy. Read twitter: Tish has written extensively see @STILLTish, Jennifer Bilek has written and researched prolifically is also found on Twitter @bjportraits @11thblog.
It comes down to PROFITS. By way of a few examples consider the lowly medical doc at 450 Sutter S.F. who boasts having done in excess of 2000 double mastectomies on minor girls. Talk to Big Pharma, ask them about the addictive nature of T. Testosterone, but also contemplate the life long necessity to maintain the preferred appearance.
Imagine each person undergoes about 10 elective cosmetic surgeries. 100s of thousands of school text books need all be replaced to add the new terminology. Trainers of employees, in all career endeavors promoting the changes.
If you ask someone “can a child be born in the wrong body?” I bet you, in the absence of any precipitating discussion of “trans”, 9/10 people would say no. “Would you tell a child that their body is a mistake?” Who can say “yes” with a straight face?
I just don’t see how reasonable people do not see this. But then we have “the other side” that does not really care about the kids but their own interests. I agree that age 25 or 30 is the right age for these decisions. The medical profession and the left are failing these kids and their parents. Many on the right are using this issue to bolster their own interests. How did something so personal become such a political hot potato? I agree this is like anorexia. I agree autistic kids are affected. I agree we are pandering to what teenagers say. I hope some reasonableness can somehow be saved. Look at the science and doctors wake the f***k up!
Brilliant perspective. I found myself saying “yes, yes, YES” throughout my reading of the piece.
The only problem is that it is far too common sense for where we are as a society. But more of this kind of information will help the pendulum swing back to sanity. And even better if shared face-to-face in a kind manner.
The real problem is today’s kids can’t handle typical adolescent angst. Parents fall all over themselves to fix the problem versus making kids suck it up and endure. Social media makes it worse by labeling. I hated my body and was very self conscious for years It was humbling- another trait kids need to learn. Finally I grew up and out of it. Kids aren’t given the luxury of time to do that these days
I made my kid suck it up and endure for 6 years. Then she turned 18 and was brought to Planned Parenthood by her trans-identifying friend who'd already gotten their T prescription there the year before. My kid checks off every box of the kids who are most drawn to this. There is nothing a parent can do once they're of legal age and are given free access to addictive cross-sex hormones without any psychiatric evaluation.
I am so sorry and I didn't mean to paint all parents of these kids as doting, etc. My intentions were focused on parents who are allowing their minor children to transition. PP is evil
But the parents who affirm are not all to blame. Sure there are some who use their child or adolescent's trans-ID to virtue signal their progressiveness and for social clout. But more of them are parents who are just following their doctor's recommendations. Two of my daughter's close childhood friends came to the "I am trans" conclusion at age 12-13 and their parents (who had concerns about medicalization before that point) took them to our local university gender clinic. Bingo, they were gaslighted into thinking their child would commit suicide if they didn't acquiesce; their kids started hormones at age 14 and had mastectomies at age 15. It's really the "health care" professionals (planned parenthood, gender clinics, endocrinologists, therapists, etc.) who are to blame for perpetuating and promoting this.
Yes,I would agree with you. I get that parents are afraid of the suicide claims - I really do. Its shameful how everyone in the medical communities back this claim with nothing to support it.
Sex reassigning surgery is not a cosmetic procedure. It leaves body mutilated and dysfunctional. Every magic has its price. Adults have serious emotional problems and they may not admit that is not worth it
Agree children are not trans.They do not have to confirm to any gender.They can play whatever they want to and they should be left in peace. You born in the body and is yours and if is healthy doesn't need to be altered. It is enough to tell children and adolescents that they belong they are OK the way they are. Adolescents are always frustrated by the way their body looks and ipuberty is hard.So do not lie to teens that if they alter their body they will be different gender.They will malfunction in their own body and it is tragic
Sorry, but you're wrong and Maher is right. While the term 'transkid' is not one I have ever liked, there are sex-non-conforming children (sometimes called 'gender non-conforming' but that is misleading). These are well documented in the peer-reviewed literature and have been for many decades. I agree that the present hysteria is ridiculous but in the first place the current issue is really over adolescent females -- who were a tiny percentage of those presenting as 'trans' until about 12 years ago but are now a majority. Most of these have a socially induced neurosis akin to bulimia, self-harm etc; in other words they are not trans and should not be encouraged. Secondly, you cannot erase a vulnerable class of people just because you want them to not exist. The West once went to war to stop a man with exactly those ideas.
"there are sex-non-conforming children" -- almost no one I've ever met completely conforms to sex stereotypes. We are encouraging the medicalization of kids, many with ADHD/ASD, and many who under watchful guidance, wait for it, grow up & later come out as gay/lesbian.
The move away from the term transsexual to transgender is so stealthy, because if we were told there are "transsexual children," people would be less eager to jump on this bandwagon. The shift from "sex" to "gender," which I always like to remind people was coined by child-abusing sexologist (John Money), is intentional because most people let their guards down when the word "sex" is removed.
Kids cannot give consent to give up something they don't understand -- their future sexual function, and the risk to fertility, which is not something anyone should hand wave aside. Mental distress bc fertility issues are very real, and we're trying to spare kids discomfort here & now, bc its's easier to think of the NOW instead of the future sterile, asexual adult.
You're quick to point out who *isn't* trans, yet we're told that NO ONE can question someone that has declared themselves to be trans. No one's "erasing a vulnerable class," which is an inflammatory response to a piece just asking for the adults in the room to use some amount of caution.
Sex non-conforming is the same as gender non-conforming because they are both based solely on sex stereotypes. Read the DSM V description of gender dysphoria in children; it's all based on sex stereotypes. In the peer-reviewed literature you refer to, when "watchful waiting" was used to treat children with gender dysphoria, 80-90% grew up to be comfortable in their natal sex and the majority of them were gay. Because no one can tell which child will desist and which will persist, there really are no trans kids. Labeling a child as trans before they have gone through puberty presumes you have knowledge of their future mindset.
I liked your mention of the lack of statistics on past suicide rates among presumed trans population. And your comparison between sensible responses to a child's wishes, and the undiscuted abiding to children 's demands once they claim a trans identity. It says a lot about why many kids are tempted by the empowering transgender label.
What's most curious to me is that most parents (presumably; hopefully!) would not defer to their children on any other matter of such permanence and import—why this one?
In part, I fault decades of "child centered" parenting, which has led to such not uncommon absurdities as weepy parents declaring that their 9-year-old is their "hero" and suchlike. So many contemporary parents seem to virtually idolize immature humans of their particular genetic lineage, and I don't understand it. At all.
So powerful! You are 100% right! Children need to be children and should not be allowed to make adult decisions until they are an adult. The world needs to help these confused children - not encourage them to change who they are and label them “trans-kids” - you have a strong voice. Thank you for sharing. I am praying that the truth as you explained here will be heard far and wide!
I don't label such kids in that way at all and never have. Do try not to misrepresent me, pet, I am not a fan of feminists. Plus your figures are completely wrong. I am familiar with the paper you got this nonsense from and they are not reliable. The fact is that amongst persistently sex non-conforming children, the vast majority will be either homosexual or transsexual. Clearly the latter is a better option.
Fantastic 👏🏻👏🏻
People beat their heads against the wall asking WHY WHY WHY??? You could do your own research but the answer has been fully researched and documented in scores of learned reports. Abigail Shrier has written a brilliant SubStack Article, her handle: the Truth Fairy. Read twitter: Tish has written extensively see @STILLTish, Jennifer Bilek has written and researched prolifically is also found on Twitter @bjportraits @11thblog.
It comes down to PROFITS. By way of a few examples consider the lowly medical doc at 450 Sutter S.F. who boasts having done in excess of 2000 double mastectomies on minor girls. Talk to Big Pharma, ask them about the addictive nature of T. Testosterone, but also contemplate the life long necessity to maintain the preferred appearance.
Imagine each person undergoes about 10 elective cosmetic surgeries. 100s of thousands of school text books need all be replaced to add the new terminology. Trainers of employees, in all career endeavors promoting the changes.
If you ask someone “can a child be born in the wrong body?” I bet you, in the absence of any precipitating discussion of “trans”, 9/10 people would say no. “Would you tell a child that their body is a mistake?” Who can say “yes” with a straight face?
I just don’t see how reasonable people do not see this. But then we have “the other side” that does not really care about the kids but their own interests. I agree that age 25 or 30 is the right age for these decisions. The medical profession and the left are failing these kids and their parents. Many on the right are using this issue to bolster their own interests. How did something so personal become such a political hot potato? I agree this is like anorexia. I agree autistic kids are affected. I agree we are pandering to what teenagers say. I hope some reasonableness can somehow be saved. Look at the science and doctors wake the f***k up!
Brilliant perspective. I found myself saying “yes, yes, YES” throughout my reading of the piece.
The only problem is that it is far too common sense for where we are as a society. But more of this kind of information will help the pendulum swing back to sanity. And even better if shared face-to-face in a kind manner.
trans women = men. trans men = women. trans kids = confused, manipulated, indoctrinated kids.
The real problem is today’s kids can’t handle typical adolescent angst. Parents fall all over themselves to fix the problem versus making kids suck it up and endure. Social media makes it worse by labeling. I hated my body and was very self conscious for years It was humbling- another trait kids need to learn. Finally I grew up and out of it. Kids aren’t given the luxury of time to do that these days
I made my kid suck it up and endure for 6 years. Then she turned 18 and was brought to Planned Parenthood by her trans-identifying friend who'd already gotten their T prescription there the year before. My kid checks off every box of the kids who are most drawn to this. There is nothing a parent can do once they're of legal age and are given free access to addictive cross-sex hormones without any psychiatric evaluation.
I am so sorry and I didn't mean to paint all parents of these kids as doting, etc. My intentions were focused on parents who are allowing their minor children to transition. PP is evil
But the parents who affirm are not all to blame. Sure there are some who use their child or adolescent's trans-ID to virtue signal their progressiveness and for social clout. But more of them are parents who are just following their doctor's recommendations. Two of my daughter's close childhood friends came to the "I am trans" conclusion at age 12-13 and their parents (who had concerns about medicalization before that point) took them to our local university gender clinic. Bingo, they were gaslighted into thinking their child would commit suicide if they didn't acquiesce; their kids started hormones at age 14 and had mastectomies at age 15. It's really the "health care" professionals (planned parenthood, gender clinics, endocrinologists, therapists, etc.) who are to blame for perpetuating and promoting this.
Yes,I would agree with you. I get that parents are afraid of the suicide claims - I really do. Its shameful how everyone in the medical communities back this claim with nothing to support it.
A+++++++++. But shame on Bill Maher for feeling he had to throw that belief out there to save is hide from the Cancellation Committee
Sex reassigning surgery is not a cosmetic procedure. It leaves body mutilated and dysfunctional. Every magic has its price. Adults have serious emotional problems and they may not admit that is not worth it
Agree children are not trans.They do not have to confirm to any gender.They can play whatever they want to and they should be left in peace. You born in the body and is yours and if is healthy doesn't need to be altered. It is enough to tell children and adolescents that they belong they are OK the way they are. Adolescents are always frustrated by the way their body looks and ipuberty is hard.So do not lie to teens that if they alter their body they will be different gender.They will malfunction in their own body and it is tragic
Sorry, but you're wrong and Maher is right. While the term 'transkid' is not one I have ever liked, there are sex-non-conforming children (sometimes called 'gender non-conforming' but that is misleading). These are well documented in the peer-reviewed literature and have been for many decades. I agree that the present hysteria is ridiculous but in the first place the current issue is really over adolescent females -- who were a tiny percentage of those presenting as 'trans' until about 12 years ago but are now a majority. Most of these have a socially induced neurosis akin to bulimia, self-harm etc; in other words they are not trans and should not be encouraged. Secondly, you cannot erase a vulnerable class of people just because you want them to not exist. The West once went to war to stop a man with exactly those ideas.
"there are sex-non-conforming children" -- almost no one I've ever met completely conforms to sex stereotypes. We are encouraging the medicalization of kids, many with ADHD/ASD, and many who under watchful guidance, wait for it, grow up & later come out as gay/lesbian.
The move away from the term transsexual to transgender is so stealthy, because if we were told there are "transsexual children," people would be less eager to jump on this bandwagon. The shift from "sex" to "gender," which I always like to remind people was coined by child-abusing sexologist (John Money), is intentional because most people let their guards down when the word "sex" is removed.
Kids cannot give consent to give up something they don't understand -- their future sexual function, and the risk to fertility, which is not something anyone should hand wave aside. Mental distress bc fertility issues are very real, and we're trying to spare kids discomfort here & now, bc its's easier to think of the NOW instead of the future sterile, asexual adult.
You're quick to point out who *isn't* trans, yet we're told that NO ONE can question someone that has declared themselves to be trans. No one's "erasing a vulnerable class," which is an inflammatory response to a piece just asking for the adults in the room to use some amount of caution.
👏🏻 Well said.
Thank you
Sex non-conforming is the same as gender non-conforming because they are both based solely on sex stereotypes. Read the DSM V description of gender dysphoria in children; it's all based on sex stereotypes. In the peer-reviewed literature you refer to, when "watchful waiting" was used to treat children with gender dysphoria, 80-90% grew up to be comfortable in their natal sex and the majority of them were gay. Because no one can tell which child will desist and which will persist, there really are no trans kids. Labeling a child as trans before they have gone through puberty presumes you have knowledge of their future mindset.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Yes.
Thank you for articulating this. I couldn't agree more. How do we stop this? How on earth can we get those who are well intentioned to listen?
I liked your mention of the lack of statistics on past suicide rates among presumed trans population. And your comparison between sensible responses to a child's wishes, and the undiscuted abiding to children 's demands once they claim a trans identity. It says a lot about why many kids are tempted by the empowering transgender label.