As an academically advanced student, my daughter never quite fit in with her peers. Social isolation, dealing with substantial losses in her short life, and entering puberty before she was emotionally ready were overwhelming. Searching the internet, reading tumblr, watching YouTube, and discovering porn led her to find the meaning to her discomfort – she was transgender. With more internet time her dysphoria worsened.
Re "... entering puberty before she was emotionally ready..."
I have long wondered if the era of nervous overparenting and protectiveness might not be playing a role in the trans epidemic. Perhaps if kids were allowed to experience some of life's rougher edges they might be a tad more prepared for puberty? Just a thought.
Awkward, gifted, lonely adolescent female...connect the dots and you get social contagion, ROGD, an epidemic. How can an MD call it a testosterone deciciency? Thank you for sharing your story-I am sorry you and your daughter were treated so badly.
"It makes them SO HAPPY!"--This is from an alleged medical professional. We're back to giving junkies dope on the one hand, i.e., hormones without therapeutic insight, and lobotomizing the psychotic, i.e., surgery. This is insane and has to stop.
This is flagrant professional negligence by the schools, and possibly criminal grooming of children, like the spreading of other cults in schools in the past . Surely parents must get together and sue the schools collectively for betraying the trust which parents place in schools to WORK WITH parents to teach and raise their children, and keep them from harmful influences (safeguarding).
Here in the UK there is less secrecy, but there are still many confused kids. TransgenderTrend.com and safeschoolsallianceUK.net are challenging the legal basis for "guidance" to schools from Dept for Education, with "quiet word in the ear" approach, which is finally yielding results.
In addition an interim report from Dr Hilary Cass, past President of the Royal College of Paediatrics, into the treatment offered to children by the Gender Identity Service at the Tavistock Centre, London was published last week. It was scathing, and called for therapists and psychiatrists to look at children "in the round" and NOT focus on "gender" issues to the exclusion of other co-morbidities. This is the latest criticism of the Tavistock: in October 2021 the Care Quality Commission rated the GIS at the Tavistock "inadequate" and demanded a change of leader and proper, evidence-based treatment with long-term follow-up of patients.
The temperature is beginning to drop a bit over here. Thank God that the Royal College of Paediatrics is truly independent and not corrupted by big pharma or medical insurers (yet!)
Wow! I’m so sorry this happened and I hope you can keep your daughter safe. This is so reckless of the Michigan clinic, but sadly it’s happening all over the country. When will the madness stop? My school board put the guidelines in place in late 2014 to keep parents in the dark regarding their children identifying as transgender. They stated it’s because the parents were too “dangerous”. At least the counselor told you about the guidelines because I was kept in the dark about it and lied to by the school. I did my own research and found when the school board implemented the new rules. I think it should be against the law for the school to change our children’s names and gender. Also, the testosterone will eventually cause a lot of irreversible mental and physical problems and cause a lot more anger (“roid” rage) than happiness. These poor kids are being lied to and sold a bill of goods and it’s just so sad for them and their families.
There are guidances from genspect.org/guidance including about social transition. You can give them to a school. They are evidence based, not (not evidence based) personal theories based.
After many years taking testosterone the side effects on a girl are not monitored as these girls claim to be men. So there is no research on its effects on women. Infertility is inevitable. Nobody cares except parents. This is unethical, eugenics.
Wow entiendo por lo que estás pasando, mi hija esta pasando por la misma situación, todo comenzó por el tic tok y una aplicación llamada discor conoció a una persona trans el cual a influenciado mucho sobre ella, y también descubrí conversaciones con un niño del colegio que dice ser trans el cual me asuste ya que el mi hija me confesó que se se tía niño y que había ido al psicólogo y el mismo le dijo que se lo dijera a mas gente para ella sentirse bien, nunca me llamaron del colegio simplemente no les importa, cambie a mi hija a un colegio catolico privado, ella intento cambiar su nombre con sus compañeras el cual notificaron a sus padres de la situación de mi hija y enseguida llamaron al colegio que esas actitudes no se deben permitir, mi hija llegó llorando asustada porque no quería que todo el colegio se enterara, hoy en día estamos lidiando con sus sentimientos y junto a su psicólogo privado. Tengo esperanza de que mejore pero trabajo duro porque no me gustaría volviera al colegio público.
Lies rule. I guess most of those taking testosterone are also on other mood enhancing drugs. Who is doing the research? Nobody cares. There is no reliable evidence.
All these kids are taught they are making "progress" toward being their authentic selves and are happy happy. Then you add happy happy drugs. How are any of these adults allowed to be in medicine and counseling?
I did not know what my school's policy was until this school year. Indeed, we have the same policy. It takes some knowledge of this issue to even see what the problem is with "privacy" in these cases. I have been trying to gently spread the word among parents but it is tough because everyone has been fed the "affirm or suicide" false dichotomy. It is very scary.
So scary, schools refuse to tell parents and privacy laws hide the horrible truth. When a young person attempts suicide under influence of testosterone overdose, nobody tells parents.
I’m sorry that your dealing with this! I live in Michigan as well and have dealt with the same situation with my daughter in her school. My daughter was 14 when she secretively “socially transitioned” at her very small rural school. I only found out that she was leading a double life at school when a co-worker informed me of this, as her son went to the same school. Apparently there were a whole group of girls (all in my daughter’s friend group) that were identifying as trans and non-binary. Wouldn’t you think the school would have thought that this was a social contagion or a fad and maybe notified me of this? My daughter never showed any sign of having issues with her gender. Just a couple months before her “social transition” she asked for a finger nail kit and makeup for Xmas and was wearing feminine clothing. I joined a parent support group ASAP that advised me to stay away from gender clinics, thankfully. I’m familiar with the University of Michigan gender clinic and how they operate after researching. Since this incident I pulled my daughter out of this school and cut all social ties with this friend group. It has cost my family dearly in many ways. We now pay around $8,000 a year in for private school tuition and not to mention the mental anguish that we as parents deal with. It is outrageous that parents and children have to go through so much pain and hardships because school systems think it’s their “duty” to “protect” children identifying as trans ect. Had the school notified me of this, I could have gotten her the help that she needed sooner. My daughter also had other secrets… Since she “came out” she was cutting herself, threatening suicide, and had disordered eating. Since switching her schools and social group, she is much happier and is living life as a female. I do see signs at times that make me wonder if she is still thinking about her gender though…. Not a perfect ending but a work in progress I suppose. Best of luck to you and your family!
Well done, you are on the right track. I hope you keep succeeding in protecting your daughter. Mine was also keeping secrets, the school was keeping secrets. In the UK I sought help from the captivated services. The worst thing I could have done. More secrets were kept. She is 23 now. After 5 years on testosterone, I am not seeing a “happy man” but a psychotic deluded female reliant on antidepressants.
I’m so sorry that this is happening to your family… had I not been in touch with parent groups such as this one, I’m not sure what path we would have been pushed down. I sought help in the form of counseling services for my daughter and had no idea that affirmative care was standard. Most of the counselors that I interviewed seemed to want to focus on her gender issue and not on her being suicidal, cutting and disordered eating. One counselor called me abusive for not seeking affirmative care and “educated” me on transgenderism and that it has been increasing so much recently, not because it is a social contagion, but because people feel more comfortable coming out in today’s world. Thankfully, I was able to ask these counselors the proper questions before allowing them to “treat” my daughter. I’m sure many more secrets would have been kept from me had I went this route.
Just wow. Why not give them opioids too? I mean. And, let's take them out of school and give them candy and have them stay online all day, if it makes them happy. What on earth is this????
You are right. It is a tough battle. Arguing does not work as trans activists are mostly irrational (transgenderism is still a mental illness). Parents are the only ones who care enough to fight. That is why they are not told!
Re "... entering puberty before she was emotionally ready..."
I have long wondered if the era of nervous overparenting and protectiveness might not be playing a role in the trans epidemic. Perhaps if kids were allowed to experience some of life's rougher edges they might be a tad more prepared for puberty? Just a thought.
I wish every medical and educational professional read this. I hope you and your daughter are doing better.
Awkward, gifted, lonely adolescent female...connect the dots and you get social contagion, ROGD, an epidemic. How can an MD call it a testosterone deciciency? Thank you for sharing your story-I am sorry you and your daughter were treated so badly.
"Awkward, gifted, lonely adolescent female" = my girl!
"It makes them SO HAPPY!"--This is from an alleged medical professional. We're back to giving junkies dope on the one hand, i.e., hormones without therapeutic insight, and lobotomizing the psychotic, i.e., surgery. This is insane and has to stop.
This is flagrant professional negligence by the schools, and possibly criminal grooming of children, like the spreading of other cults in schools in the past . Surely parents must get together and sue the schools collectively for betraying the trust which parents place in schools to WORK WITH parents to teach and raise their children, and keep them from harmful influences (safeguarding).
Here in the UK there is less secrecy, but there are still many confused kids. TransgenderTrend.com and safeschoolsallianceUK.net are challenging the legal basis for "guidance" to schools from Dept for Education, with "quiet word in the ear" approach, which is finally yielding results.
In addition an interim report from Dr Hilary Cass, past President of the Royal College of Paediatrics, into the treatment offered to children by the Gender Identity Service at the Tavistock Centre, London was published last week. It was scathing, and called for therapists and psychiatrists to look at children "in the round" and NOT focus on "gender" issues to the exclusion of other co-morbidities. This is the latest criticism of the Tavistock: in October 2021 the Care Quality Commission rated the GIS at the Tavistock "inadequate" and demanded a change of leader and proper, evidence-based treatment with long-term follow-up of patients.
The temperature is beginning to drop a bit over here. Thank God that the Royal College of Paediatrics is truly independent and not corrupted by big pharma or medical insurers (yet!)
This is so wrong.. expose the clinic... at minimum on https://www.gendermapper.org/
Wow! I’m so sorry this happened and I hope you can keep your daughter safe. This is so reckless of the Michigan clinic, but sadly it’s happening all over the country. When will the madness stop? My school board put the guidelines in place in late 2014 to keep parents in the dark regarding their children identifying as transgender. They stated it’s because the parents were too “dangerous”. At least the counselor told you about the guidelines because I was kept in the dark about it and lied to by the school. I did my own research and found when the school board implemented the new rules. I think it should be against the law for the school to change our children’s names and gender. Also, the testosterone will eventually cause a lot of irreversible mental and physical problems and cause a lot more anger (“roid” rage) than happiness. These poor kids are being lied to and sold a bill of goods and it’s just so sad for them and their families.
There are guidances from genspect.org/guidance including about social transition. You can give them to a school. They are evidence based, not (not evidence based) personal theories based.
After many years taking testosterone the side effects on a girl are not monitored as these girls claim to be men. So there is no research on its effects on women. Infertility is inevitable. Nobody cares except parents. This is unethical, eugenics.
You’re so right, people don’t care except their families. Most of the others are in it for the money.
Wow entiendo por lo que estás pasando, mi hija esta pasando por la misma situación, todo comenzó por el tic tok y una aplicación llamada discor conoció a una persona trans el cual a influenciado mucho sobre ella, y también descubrí conversaciones con un niño del colegio que dice ser trans el cual me asuste ya que el mi hija me confesó que se se tía niño y que había ido al psicólogo y el mismo le dijo que se lo dijera a mas gente para ella sentirse bien, nunca me llamaron del colegio simplemente no les importa, cambie a mi hija a un colegio catolico privado, ella intento cambiar su nombre con sus compañeras el cual notificaron a sus padres de la situación de mi hija y enseguida llamaron al colegio que esas actitudes no se deben permitir, mi hija llegó llorando asustada porque no quería que todo el colegio se enterara, hoy en día estamos lidiando con sus sentimientos y junto a su psicólogo privado. Tengo esperanza de que mejore pero trabajo duro porque no me gustaría volviera al colegio público.
Lo siento para tu hija. Vía con Dios. (Perdón mi español; yo hablo muy pequeño.) 💚
"It makes them SO HAPPY"????? So that's now the criteria by which we prescribe medical treatments? Evidence based treatments are overrated, I guess.
Lies rule. I guess most of those taking testosterone are also on other mood enhancing drugs. Who is doing the research? Nobody cares. There is no reliable evidence.
Yeah, so will heroin, good to know a supposed counsellor has clear ethical guidelines 🙄
well said
All these kids are taught they are making "progress" toward being their authentic selves and are happy happy. Then you add happy happy drugs. How are any of these adults allowed to be in medicine and counseling?
I did not know what my school's policy was until this school year. Indeed, we have the same policy. It takes some knowledge of this issue to even see what the problem is with "privacy" in these cases. I have been trying to gently spread the word among parents but it is tough because everyone has been fed the "affirm or suicide" false dichotomy. It is very scary.
Same for me. Our school district just changed their policy this year and most parents have no idea, but it's tricky to spread the word.
So scary, schools refuse to tell parents and privacy laws hide the horrible truth. When a young person attempts suicide under influence of testosterone overdose, nobody tells parents.
I’m sorry that your dealing with this! I live in Michigan as well and have dealt with the same situation with my daughter in her school. My daughter was 14 when she secretively “socially transitioned” at her very small rural school. I only found out that she was leading a double life at school when a co-worker informed me of this, as her son went to the same school. Apparently there were a whole group of girls (all in my daughter’s friend group) that were identifying as trans and non-binary. Wouldn’t you think the school would have thought that this was a social contagion or a fad and maybe notified me of this? My daughter never showed any sign of having issues with her gender. Just a couple months before her “social transition” she asked for a finger nail kit and makeup for Xmas and was wearing feminine clothing. I joined a parent support group ASAP that advised me to stay away from gender clinics, thankfully. I’m familiar with the University of Michigan gender clinic and how they operate after researching. Since this incident I pulled my daughter out of this school and cut all social ties with this friend group. It has cost my family dearly in many ways. We now pay around $8,000 a year in for private school tuition and not to mention the mental anguish that we as parents deal with. It is outrageous that parents and children have to go through so much pain and hardships because school systems think it’s their “duty” to “protect” children identifying as trans ect. Had the school notified me of this, I could have gotten her the help that she needed sooner. My daughter also had other secrets… Since she “came out” she was cutting herself, threatening suicide, and had disordered eating. Since switching her schools and social group, she is much happier and is living life as a female. I do see signs at times that make me wonder if she is still thinking about her gender though…. Not a perfect ending but a work in progress I suppose. Best of luck to you and your family!
Well done, you are on the right track. I hope you keep succeeding in protecting your daughter. Mine was also keeping secrets, the school was keeping secrets. In the UK I sought help from the captivated services. The worst thing I could have done. More secrets were kept. She is 23 now. After 5 years on testosterone, I am not seeing a “happy man” but a psychotic deluded female reliant on antidepressants.
I’m so sorry that this is happening to your family… had I not been in touch with parent groups such as this one, I’m not sure what path we would have been pushed down. I sought help in the form of counseling services for my daughter and had no idea that affirmative care was standard. Most of the counselors that I interviewed seemed to want to focus on her gender issue and not on her being suicidal, cutting and disordered eating. One counselor called me abusive for not seeking affirmative care and “educated” me on transgenderism and that it has been increasing so much recently, not because it is a social contagion, but because people feel more comfortable coming out in today’s world. Thankfully, I was able to ask these counselors the proper questions before allowing them to “treat” my daughter. I’m sure many more secrets would have been kept from me had I went this route.
Well done to you!
I’m in Michigan too, just curious what area of Michigan this happened? I’m in the metro detroit area.
I’m in the Jackson area. This seems to be happening everywhere, big and small…. It’s amazing that parent’s voices are being silenced about this topic…
Well done! You probably saved your daughter. Best wishes. LM
Just wow. Why not give them opioids too? I mean. And, let's take them out of school and give them candy and have them stay online all day, if it makes them happy. What on earth is this????
You are right. It is a tough battle. Arguing does not work as trans activists are mostly irrational (transgenderism is still a mental illness). Parents are the only ones who care enough to fight. That is why they are not told!