My heartfelt apologies to you, my youngest daughter. I am sorry I wasn’t the woman with which you could whole heartedly identify. Sorry that I wasn’t a strong enough female figure in your life, enough to help you overcome the negativities you were being bombarded with. I was supposed to be the woman you looked up to and admired even if you didn’t want to admit it. I’m sorry that femininity is something you are uncomfortable with. It’s my fault as I should have been able to help you see that most girls feel similar at some point in their lives. I know I did. I’m sorry that none of my words of wisdom reached your heart and that they didn’t aid you in your time of great need. I’m sorry that you suffered in silence and at all. You were a beautiful woman inside and out. I’m sorry I couldn’t help you realize that.
your child will never forgive you for being so disrespectful. i hope you all stop whining and regurgitating transphobic rhetoric that you hear about on fox news and go fight for actual issues in this world.
they have a mental illness . a social media contagion accepted by society under the lgbtq umbrella therefore protected. i wrote a paper in it so stop spewing your unintelligent nonsense . this is not political
Thank you for sharing this. I’m sorry too. I’m so sorry for you and myself and for all of the families and children dealing with this. It’s so hard not to blame ourselves but it’s not all down to you or me or us. It’s been the perfect storm. Society adopting theses ideas and encouraging them- social justice and being a “good person” and “ kind” which has somehow translated into lying to people in order to spare their feelings and encourage a delusion. I am so tired of it. In the case of my family an older sister with serous mental health issues who was idolized by her younger sister. Then of course covid when we all lost so much connection. My daughter lost her sports, friends, school play, and her sister was far away in a hospital. Are there things we could have done differently? Yes! Now all we can do is move forward and try to be there for them even when we feel defeated and lost and even when they reject us. We don’t have to ho along with it - we can tell them the truth and when the look at us they can’t help but remember who they really are. Hang in there- sending love and hugs from another heartbroken mom... 💔
I am so, so, so sorry. You and your daughter were ambushed by a force which you had not reckoned with. Of course you continue to pray and hope that she will find her way out of this cult. I think of you and your daughter. I wish her and you well. XXX Una
How devastating. What sickness in society. A travesty. I wonder if death is easier than this mutilation and brainwashing. All my love. May our Father in Heaven help us all.
I share your pain genuinely & these words resonate so strongly. My daughter is gone and an imposter has taken her place. Bearded, hairy, breastless but I still sense her there - I cannot see ‘him’. When I close my eyes she’s there. I miss her every day yet know she is still in there. I have accepted that it is not our fault. The world , society, our institutions, governments have gone mad. It is a force so much bigger than us - the tide is turning hopefully in this crazy cult but our kids are the sacrificial lambs. There is nothing we could’ve done to prevent this without a crystal ball or living on a remote island. Let’s commend ourselves for being the best parents we could be - we are worthy & our lives & well being are as important as theirs.
my daughter is the same . facial hair and talking surgery . a living nightmare . my baby is gone . i will as always pray to the lord to deliver our children from this satanic cult
Sometimes I read these, and feel like someone is writing words that have been going around and around in my own head-although our situations are different, that intense desire to go back and do things differently remains the same.
That's heartbreaking. Except for the way she turned out not to believe in god because she saw that belief for the fraud I believe it is too.
Often kids rebel against a parent who thinks the world has only one and true way of existing by an unforseen hand. You don't go into detail about that aspect, but there's a good chance, like many religious parents I see, that you did try to use coercive force to get her to believe a certain way about the nature of existence.
This learned rebellion against that push can then go on to manifest itself by all sorts of different branches that sprout away fom the tree trunk of defiance that grew out of the seed you helped plant in her by attempting to force her into a belief system of a certain bent.
Except some kids like your daughter, don't know when to stop rebelling.
Just a guess, but I've seen the same pattern play out many times at my school where the kids who fall deepest into the world of the trans cult came from homes of strict spiritual parents that had a kid who grew to have a psrticularly wild independent streak about them. It used to be these kids would go to protests that their parents disagreed with to show how much they hated their parental system of thought. Now with the help of government and the medical community they've discovered an even deeper hurt ny which to wound their parent's psyche, even if it comes at the ultimate cost of their own.
My only suggestion is to search your past and see if you, and her father too because perhaps he showed very harsh ideological convictions that scared her- if you were perhaps both too strict with her about making her believe in a god she came to not believe in and try to apologize for your choices if you were overbearing. Might not work, but it may be the root cause that led her here.
Like I said, I've seen that path trodden many a time before with other kids whose parents I noticed are completely clueless to the new modern reality and influences that children now learn to grow up in, and that teach parental indoctrination as being the root behind an adolescent's unhappiness.
Reread her story. She says she’s sorry for not instilling a stronger belief in God. Sounds like she regrets not being more consistent about their religious conviction. Does not sound like a parent who forcibly coerced. Either way, taking advice from an atheist is like taking fruit from a poisoned tree.
It is your comment that is unhelpful - and lacking in any compassion or care. You're diagnosing a 'cause,' though the effect has already taken her daughter - and you offer no practical or possible solution that could be applied to address her current situation. So uncharitable and myopic. If you'd like to rail against religion, you are welcome to do so in a forum that is not trying to simply provide deeply terrified parents a place to express their grief over what has happened or is happening to their children. Read the room. And I pray God changes your heart.
It could be any god I go for and the result would be the same if I believed hard enough. That's why believing in myself is so much more powerful than anything made up, because I actually exist.
no i’m familiar with what the word of god says. and helping people. And i should not quote any bible but just ask you to open your heart , we’re all wounded . God does exist and wants to have a relationship with you. is there any harm in asking him to reveal himself to you? he will you know .
The timing of a comment like this after her heartfelt post is extremely uncaring.
Regardless of where you stand on your religious beliefs this is not the time to get on the platform and pontificate this way.
Oh you're trying to "help"
her understand "the root" of what she did?
What a kind way to show empathy and understanding.
Really ...good on you.
To the poster:
I am so sorry for your deep
pain. Please give yourself some grace -as a cult this sinister and insidious has a powerful way of undermining anything that you did try to do as a loving parent. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Our kids make choices... sometimes very damaging and heartbreaking ones.
Your version is just to feel sorry for them and not offer anything resembling an explanation because it could hurt them too much to cross examine themselves.
So you don't really care about the root cause, you'd rather just not saying anything that might get them to look at what they may have done to aid in her dumb decision. Stop being an enabler! cause your advice is about as helpful about as helpful as some gender affirmer in the opposite direction.
I would advise you to try coupling that with some rationality, as mere empathy is just a way of ignoring the problem that caused this to occur in the first place. That's how con artists do so well against empathetic people because the only tool in their target's toolbox is their heart while their brains gather dust on a shelf.
empathy and continuous rail against God or anyone who has a kind word is totally disgraceful. obviously youre tactless and mean spirited. You should also look in the same mirror yourself. And use your brain for some good , since your have no heart
First of all...I believe there is a time and place for everything.
To be clear..I am not one that shirks from standing up and speaking truth.
I simply believe we see things differently in this particular situation.
I feel the poster didn't need more sand kicked in her face with advice... including "what she did wrong in her daughter's life by raising her in the Christian faith"
...as she was laying face down on the beach already.
I also don't think calling me an enabler or implying that I am an irrational person based on this brief exchange of differences is the best way to continue to engage.
But one thing...
It seems I have been successful in directing your criticism and passion towards me instead of the original poster whom again I feel needed empathy...
not an armchair critical assessment of her parenting.
And may I add ... it really doesn't matter what you say...
She wrote what she did for honest feedback, you don't control for her what gets written back. I never met a trans kid yet who held the beliefs of their parents who mostly foisted it on them with domineering attitudes. IF that was her or the father's way, they should examine their own propensity for harsh persuasion.
You can throw in your own two cents as much as I can tell you how wrong your strategy is for another way to look at making amends by recognizing something she maybe didn't see before as so many theists only sees their religion as an abstract good.
But mostly my original comment you know wasn't meant for you, so don't ignore your own suggestion about not armchair quarterbacking but which you did anyway, or what respect does your opinion hold?
As a mother, I feel your mother's raw pain & heartache expressed so eloquently in your post. Your daughter has been exposed to the most heinous & evil affront ever perpetuated on children in the history of mankind. Please try not to blame yourself for this, I believe this has been caused by evil forces that have unleashed ferocious attacks upon the younger generation to break up families & fill the young ones minds with lies. These forces are emanating from the medical fraternity, universities, scientists who play God and propagated & advertised by the media. All are complicit in deceiving the younger generation that they have the power to change their beautifully created God-given bodies, but too young to grasp the long-term pain & suffering as their bodies will reject these experiments, for that is what is going on, scientific experiments on young bodies & minds.
As a Christian mother, its so sad to read that you in many ways are blaming yourself for this evil, try not to. We are definitely living in end times & evil spiritual forces are empowering the enemy to sweep innocent children into this vile propaganda cesspool, their innocent minds believes their lies, they are too young & immature to truly grasp the long-term biological consequences of what they are doing to their bodies. I have at the age of 68 needed medical care, I truly grasp now how important good health is & to suffer physical pain has been unknown to me, until now. These little ones don't realise the harm they are doing to their bodies, its nightmarish thinking about it, one example is osteoporosis/osteopenia/osteo arthritis all are painful conditions suffered mainly by people of my age, not intended to be inflicted on young ones, if only they felt for one day that type of pain they might change their minds.
I don't have any answers to what's going on in this western world, its literally a living nightmare for families & I further contend that something must be done to stop it, before more innocents are harmed........it just breaks my heart reading the stories of parents suffering through this nightmare. They say you can't put an old head on a young body, I just pray that enough young de-transitioners get their messages out into the public square to put an end to this madness.
The loss of a daughter who wants to be a son, I can't get my head around it, this must be at the top of the list of emotional pain. However, nothing is forever, one can only hope & pray that she wakes up to the reality that she is being lied to. They say love is letting go, which is a very hard thing to do, I know from personal experience. Letting go and letting God deal with this will give you strength, for a mother's love knows no bounds. Try to keep loving her as your beloved daughter, for whatever horrendous changes she brings upon herself, love will one day heal all the pain you feel. Pray that she one day wakes up from this evil, its never too late for love to heal all of this & become a memory.
Live your life one day & believe this, constant prayer to God will give you strength, to endure with love.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
You are an honourable person to take responsibility for your part in this. Don't be too hard on yourself though, no-one could have predicted the development of the janus-faced monster called the net. Who could have imagined strangers would try to steal your kid to destroy it. Your post sparked a powerful debate about controlling your child's Internet life. I remember laughing (secretly)at an associate who monitored his kids Internet use (he's a tech geek). His son now says he's non-binary and goes by a female name. He was a lovely boy. I suspect his parents' hyper liberal attitudes on politics are what has gone wrong with him. There's work liberals have to do to be a bit less liberal. Time to stop signalling virtue.
Its so easy as a parent to feel like a failure, but I want to encourage you not to. I truly feel you are as much a victim of this hideous ideology as your child is. You are a loving mother against impossible odds and not a failure. This is a culture problem and not a mom or dad problem. We can all take credit for being too busy to see that the culture we created/allowed (as the adults in the room) is toxic to basic human flourishing. Other than that you are a victim. Don't choose to be a helpless victim.
Beautifully written. Please don’t be too hard on yourself. We brought our son up with a very, very STRONG faith (which he “claims” he still has, but now at college has not attempted to find a church home and has allowed himself to fall victim to the culture and an ideology that goes completely against our faith), he comes from a stable family environment where he was provided with all the opportunities he needed to succeed, a wonderful father as a male role model and NO true “trauma” to send him into this tailspin straight into this fantasy world of pretend play. This world is broken, our culture has shattered them and we have had to learn how to parent children who were/are secretly being preyed upon by the dark side of the internet and social media. We had no idea it was this dark. But now that it’s done, all we can do is stand our ground, pray and give them to God. We can’t change their hearts and minds, but HE can…I pray that our children’s eyes are open to this horrific cult-like lifestyle they have been brainwashed into being a part of and that they someday understand again that they were always beautifully and wonderfully made from the very start.
Satan has a way of attacking the weakest and strongest in faith. I am sure he will not go off the cliff. Not sure where he is on the road to trans, but I know many left the church during college but never strayed too far away from its core beliefs, even if they thought they were rebelling. The first 18 years of their lives were too foundational and lifestyles that are not coherent with their early upbringing will be too uncomfortable for them to continue forever. In the meantime, may His protective hands cover him every day.
Amen. For me it's my daughter. I got a card from a friend this past week where my friend wrote that she is praying for my daughter to recall her teachings to my daughter when she was little, when my friend was my daughter's Sunday school teacher. That's all we can "do" now... PRAY for God to protect our babes and change their hearts and SAVE them... PRAY WITHOUT CEASING...
Most folks are either unaware or totally underestimate the gravity of what is happening.
Sit in on a legislative session or a school board meeting. Read the directives to doctors from the American Pediatrics Association and the American Endocrinologist Society regarding “Gender Affirming Care”.
These are educated professionals who are endorsing things that we will all look back on one day, the way we view our practice of lobotomies. Educate yourself people.
DO NOT vote for brain dead democrats who push this shit. And they think trump is the problem. You vote for any democrat and I have ZERO, NADA, NO sympathy for you. NONE. Whine elsewhere.
Many who say "I don't like the fact that only conservatives oppose gender mutilation" just seem so clueless to me. For the Democratic Party, trannie pimping is the law. They are gonna pimp the trannie mutilation. They make it possible, in multiple states, for children < 18 to mutilate themselves without parental consent. In some states like CA, if you do not affirm, you may lose custody of your minor child. This is the Democratic Party. The Dems whine about Republicans interfering with physician care. The Democrats interfere with the relationship between parent and child.
To be honest...I hate this post because it puts blame where blame should not be if in fact you can blame any one thing for this cult behavior. For almost 100% of it, we had nothing to do with our child choosing this situation and i won't accept blame for something that was not in my control. How is a child not accepting who they are your fault? What more could we do - those who have done everything to love and support their child. Raise them the right way with good values and morals and belief in God.
The writer is desperate. She doesn’t have any answers or agency so she goes to inflict further pain on herself. Of course she isn’t to blame, but it underscores the ruthless nature of this trans regime that it would have the victim blame herself.
I think it’s fair to say, none of us saw it coming. We’re apologizing for doing or not doing something we were blissfully unaware of. There’s also such a strong sense of self righteousness that if/when this movement ever folds, I just can’t see anyone admitting wrong doing. Sorry...having a hopeless day. Hard to stay positive sometimes
Saw it coming back in the 2000’s when I used to listen to NPR. But many parents didn’t have the free time to run into it. I’m sorry it blindsided you. It got worse when LGBTQ clubs started entering into the schools as a legitimate extracurricular activity.
your child will never forgive you for being so disrespectful. i hope you all stop whining and regurgitating transphobic rhetoric that you hear about on fox news and go fight for actual issues in this world.
they have a mental illness . a social media contagion accepted by society under the lgbtq umbrella therefore protected. i wrote a paper in it so stop spewing your unintelligent nonsense . this is not political
Thank you for sharing this. I’m sorry too. I’m so sorry for you and myself and for all of the families and children dealing with this. It’s so hard not to blame ourselves but it’s not all down to you or me or us. It’s been the perfect storm. Society adopting theses ideas and encouraging them- social justice and being a “good person” and “ kind” which has somehow translated into lying to people in order to spare their feelings and encourage a delusion. I am so tired of it. In the case of my family an older sister with serous mental health issues who was idolized by her younger sister. Then of course covid when we all lost so much connection. My daughter lost her sports, friends, school play, and her sister was far away in a hospital. Are there things we could have done differently? Yes! Now all we can do is move forward and try to be there for them even when we feel defeated and lost and even when they reject us. We don’t have to ho along with it - we can tell them the truth and when the look at us they can’t help but remember who they really are. Hang in there- sending love and hugs from another heartbroken mom... 💔
i will be praying for you .
It a great Tragedy.
I am so, so, so sorry. You and your daughter were ambushed by a force which you had not reckoned with. Of course you continue to pray and hope that she will find her way out of this cult. I think of you and your daughter. I wish her and you well. XXX Una
Oh how I feel your pain.
How devastating. What sickness in society. A travesty. I wonder if death is easier than this mutilation and brainwashing. All my love. May our Father in Heaven help us all.
I share your pain genuinely & these words resonate so strongly. My daughter is gone and an imposter has taken her place. Bearded, hairy, breastless but I still sense her there - I cannot see ‘him’. When I close my eyes she’s there. I miss her every day yet know she is still in there. I have accepted that it is not our fault. The world , society, our institutions, governments have gone mad. It is a force so much bigger than us - the tide is turning hopefully in this crazy cult but our kids are the sacrificial lambs. There is nothing we could’ve done to prevent this without a crystal ball or living on a remote island. Let’s commend ourselves for being the best parents we could be - we are worthy & our lives & well being are as important as theirs.
There is nothing to forgive 💔
my daughter is the same . facial hair and talking surgery . a living nightmare . my baby is gone . i will as always pray to the lord to deliver our children from this satanic cult
Sometimes I read these, and feel like someone is writing words that have been going around and around in my own head-although our situations are different, that intense desire to go back and do things differently remains the same.
Same
That's heartbreaking. Except for the way she turned out not to believe in god because she saw that belief for the fraud I believe it is too.
Often kids rebel against a parent who thinks the world has only one and true way of existing by an unforseen hand. You don't go into detail about that aspect, but there's a good chance, like many religious parents I see, that you did try to use coercive force to get her to believe a certain way about the nature of existence.
This learned rebellion against that push can then go on to manifest itself by all sorts of different branches that sprout away fom the tree trunk of defiance that grew out of the seed you helped plant in her by attempting to force her into a belief system of a certain bent.
Except some kids like your daughter, don't know when to stop rebelling.
Just a guess, but I've seen the same pattern play out many times at my school where the kids who fall deepest into the world of the trans cult came from homes of strict spiritual parents that had a kid who grew to have a psrticularly wild independent streak about them. It used to be these kids would go to protests that their parents disagreed with to show how much they hated their parental system of thought. Now with the help of government and the medical community they've discovered an even deeper hurt ny which to wound their parent's psyche, even if it comes at the ultimate cost of their own.
My only suggestion is to search your past and see if you, and her father too because perhaps he showed very harsh ideological convictions that scared her- if you were perhaps both too strict with her about making her believe in a god she came to not believe in and try to apologize for your choices if you were overbearing. Might not work, but it may be the root cause that led her here.
Like I said, I've seen that path trodden many a time before with other kids whose parents I noticed are completely clueless to the new modern reality and influences that children now learn to grow up in, and that teach parental indoctrination as being the root behind an adolescent's unhappiness.
Reread her story. She says she’s sorry for not instilling a stronger belief in God. Sounds like she regrets not being more consistent about their religious conviction. Does not sound like a parent who forcibly coerced. Either way, taking advice from an atheist is like taking fruit from a poisoned tree.
what even bother replying to this evil ?
Ooops. Not helpful or even very likely
Disagree but you don't know their family situation either so you can't be sure you're right about your unhelpful remark anyway.
It is your comment that is unhelpful - and lacking in any compassion or care. You're diagnosing a 'cause,' though the effect has already taken her daughter - and you offer no practical or possible solution that could be applied to address her current situation. So uncharitable and myopic. If you'd like to rail against religion, you are welcome to do so in a forum that is not trying to simply provide deeply terrified parents a place to express their grief over what has happened or is happening to their children. Read the room. And I pray God changes your heart.
Thank Jay!!
"happy soul" has decided it's more fun to attack me instead of the original poster.
Which is fine as I know who I am in Him!
I really wish whoever moderated this forum would remove all of "HS" comments.
As they are frequently insulting and hateful.
It seems very counter to the intent of this entire sub stack.
my daughter said she does believe in Jesus thank god . and no one shoved it down her throat. however it is he who saves and i’m
sorry you don’t believe that. Ask Jesus to reveal himself to you and i guarantee he will
It could be any god I go for and the result would be the same if I believed hard enough. That's why believing in myself is so much more powerful than anything made up, because I actually exist.
sorry you feel that way but i have witnessed the power of our lord! multiple times. he knocks at the door , won’t you open it
I see you're very familiar with platitudes.
no i’m familiar with what the word of god says. and helping people. And i should not quote any bible but just ask you to open your heart , we’re all wounded . God does exist and wants to have a relationship with you. is there any harm in asking him to reveal himself to you? he will you know .
"That's heartbreaking...except..."
The timing of a comment like this after her heartfelt post is extremely uncaring.
Regardless of where you stand on your religious beliefs this is not the time to get on the platform and pontificate this way.
Oh you're trying to "help"
her understand "the root" of what she did?
What a kind way to show empathy and understanding.
Really ...good on you.
To the poster:
I am so sorry for your deep
pain. Please give yourself some grace -as a cult this sinister and insidious has a powerful way of undermining anything that you did try to do as a loving parent. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Our kids make choices... sometimes very damaging and heartbreaking ones.
Your version is just to feel sorry for them and not offer anything resembling an explanation because it could hurt them too much to cross examine themselves.
So you don't really care about the root cause, you'd rather just not saying anything that might get them to look at what they may have done to aid in her dumb decision. Stop being an enabler! cause your advice is about as helpful about as helpful as some gender affirmer in the opposite direction.
Root cause? Oh I see all the liberal socially progressive parents with the larger percentage of trans kids were also hardcore Jesus freaks. Who knew?
It's called empathy and compassion.
Try it sometime "Happy Soul"
It used to be quite common to show kindness to another person who is in deep pain.
Have a good day.
I would advise you to try coupling that with some rationality, as mere empathy is just a way of ignoring the problem that caused this to occur in the first place. That's how con artists do so well against empathetic people because the only tool in their target's toolbox is their heart while their brains gather dust on a shelf.
i’ll say this lastly to you. your lack of
empathy and continuous rail against God or anyone who has a kind word is totally disgraceful. obviously youre tactless and mean spirited. You should also look in the same mirror yourself. And use your brain for some good , since your have no heart
You attack me because you have no good argument. Stop being a horrible person and use your head more.
Wow.
You've have gift for writing for sure.
First of all...I believe there is a time and place for everything.
To be clear..I am not one that shirks from standing up and speaking truth.
I simply believe we see things differently in this particular situation.
I feel the poster didn't need more sand kicked in her face with advice... including "what she did wrong in her daughter's life by raising her in the Christian faith"
...as she was laying face down on the beach already.
I also don't think calling me an enabler or implying that I am an irrational person based on this brief exchange of differences is the best way to continue to engage.
But one thing...
It seems I have been successful in directing your criticism and passion towards me instead of the original poster whom again I feel needed empathy...
not an armchair critical assessment of her parenting.
And may I add ... it really doesn't matter what you say...
As it is well with my soul. ☝️🙏
Again...happy soul ...have a good day.
👋👋👋
She wrote what she did for honest feedback, you don't control for her what gets written back. I never met a trans kid yet who held the beliefs of their parents who mostly foisted it on them with domineering attitudes. IF that was her or the father's way, they should examine their own propensity for harsh persuasion.
You can throw in your own two cents as much as I can tell you how wrong your strategy is for another way to look at making amends by recognizing something she maybe didn't see before as so many theists only sees their religion as an abstract good.
But mostly my original comment you know wasn't meant for you, so don't ignore your own suggestion about not armchair quarterbacking but which you did anyway, or what respect does your opinion hold?
thank you for standing up for me . you know how painful this is
I will be praying for you my friend.
Isaiah 33:2
"Lord, be gracious to us;
we long for You.
Be our strength every morning,
our salvation in time of distress." 🙏🙏🙏
As a mother, I feel your mother's raw pain & heartache expressed so eloquently in your post. Your daughter has been exposed to the most heinous & evil affront ever perpetuated on children in the history of mankind. Please try not to blame yourself for this, I believe this has been caused by evil forces that have unleashed ferocious attacks upon the younger generation to break up families & fill the young ones minds with lies. These forces are emanating from the medical fraternity, universities, scientists who play God and propagated & advertised by the media. All are complicit in deceiving the younger generation that they have the power to change their beautifully created God-given bodies, but too young to grasp the long-term pain & suffering as their bodies will reject these experiments, for that is what is going on, scientific experiments on young bodies & minds.
As a Christian mother, its so sad to read that you in many ways are blaming yourself for this evil, try not to. We are definitely living in end times & evil spiritual forces are empowering the enemy to sweep innocent children into this vile propaganda cesspool, their innocent minds believes their lies, they are too young & immature to truly grasp the long-term biological consequences of what they are doing to their bodies. I have at the age of 68 needed medical care, I truly grasp now how important good health is & to suffer physical pain has been unknown to me, until now. These little ones don't realise the harm they are doing to their bodies, its nightmarish thinking about it, one example is osteoporosis/osteopenia/osteo arthritis all are painful conditions suffered mainly by people of my age, not intended to be inflicted on young ones, if only they felt for one day that type of pain they might change their minds.
I don't have any answers to what's going on in this western world, its literally a living nightmare for families & I further contend that something must be done to stop it, before more innocents are harmed........it just breaks my heart reading the stories of parents suffering through this nightmare. They say you can't put an old head on a young body, I just pray that enough young de-transitioners get their messages out into the public square to put an end to this madness.
The loss of a daughter who wants to be a son, I can't get my head around it, this must be at the top of the list of emotional pain. However, nothing is forever, one can only hope & pray that she wakes up to the reality that she is being lied to. They say love is letting go, which is a very hard thing to do, I know from personal experience. Letting go and letting God deal with this will give you strength, for a mother's love knows no bounds. Try to keep loving her as your beloved daughter, for whatever horrendous changes she brings upon herself, love will one day heal all the pain you feel. Pray that she one day wakes up from this evil, its never too late for love to heal all of this & become a memory.
Live your life one day & believe this, constant prayer to God will give you strength, to endure with love.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
To change the things I can
The wisdom to know the difference.
Bless you, sending you comfort & God's love,
Deb
thank you
You are an honourable person to take responsibility for your part in this. Don't be too hard on yourself though, no-one could have predicted the development of the janus-faced monster called the net. Who could have imagined strangers would try to steal your kid to destroy it. Your post sparked a powerful debate about controlling your child's Internet life. I remember laughing (secretly)at an associate who monitored his kids Internet use (he's a tech geek). His son now says he's non-binary and goes by a female name. He was a lovely boy. I suspect his parents' hyper liberal attitudes on politics are what has gone wrong with him. There's work liberals have to do to be a bit less liberal. Time to stop signalling virtue.
Its so easy as a parent to feel like a failure, but I want to encourage you not to. I truly feel you are as much a victim of this hideous ideology as your child is. You are a loving mother against impossible odds and not a failure. This is a culture problem and not a mom or dad problem. We can all take credit for being too busy to see that the culture we created/allowed (as the adults in the room) is toxic to basic human flourishing. Other than that you are a victim. Don't choose to be a helpless victim.
Beautifully written. Please don’t be too hard on yourself. We brought our son up with a very, very STRONG faith (which he “claims” he still has, but now at college has not attempted to find a church home and has allowed himself to fall victim to the culture and an ideology that goes completely against our faith), he comes from a stable family environment where he was provided with all the opportunities he needed to succeed, a wonderful father as a male role model and NO true “trauma” to send him into this tailspin straight into this fantasy world of pretend play. This world is broken, our culture has shattered them and we have had to learn how to parent children who were/are secretly being preyed upon by the dark side of the internet and social media. We had no idea it was this dark. But now that it’s done, all we can do is stand our ground, pray and give them to God. We can’t change their hearts and minds, but HE can…I pray that our children’s eyes are open to this horrific cult-like lifestyle they have been brainwashed into being a part of and that they someday understand again that they were always beautifully and wonderfully made from the very start.
Satan has a way of attacking the weakest and strongest in faith. I am sure he will not go off the cliff. Not sure where he is on the road to trans, but I know many left the church during college but never strayed too far away from its core beliefs, even if they thought they were rebelling. The first 18 years of their lives were too foundational and lifestyles that are not coherent with their early upbringing will be too uncomfortable for them to continue forever. In the meantime, may His protective hands cover him every day.
Amen. For me it's my daughter. I got a card from a friend this past week where my friend wrote that she is praying for my daughter to recall her teachings to my daughter when she was little, when my friend was my daughter's Sunday school teacher. That's all we can "do" now... PRAY for God to protect our babes and change their hearts and SAVE them... PRAY WITHOUT CEASING...
amen
Most folks are either unaware or totally underestimate the gravity of what is happening.
Sit in on a legislative session or a school board meeting. Read the directives to doctors from the American Pediatrics Association and the American Endocrinologist Society regarding “Gender Affirming Care”.
These are educated professionals who are endorsing things that we will all look back on one day, the way we view our practice of lobotomies. Educate yourself people.
Exactly. Lobotomies of the soul spirit and body. May the perpetrators gnaw and gnash their teeth in hell where they belong if they don’t repent.
DO NOT vote for brain dead democrats who push this shit. And they think trump is the problem. You vote for any democrat and I have ZERO, NADA, NO sympathy for you. NONE. Whine elsewhere.
Many who say "I don't like the fact that only conservatives oppose gender mutilation" just seem so clueless to me. For the Democratic Party, trannie pimping is the law. They are gonna pimp the trannie mutilation. They make it possible, in multiple states, for children < 18 to mutilate themselves without parental consent. In some states like CA, if you do not affirm, you may lose custody of your minor child. This is the Democratic Party. The Dems whine about Republicans interfering with physician care. The Democrats interfere with the relationship between parent and child.
Yes PIMPs ALL.
To be honest...I hate this post because it puts blame where blame should not be if in fact you can blame any one thing for this cult behavior. For almost 100% of it, we had nothing to do with our child choosing this situation and i won't accept blame for something that was not in my control. How is a child not accepting who they are your fault? What more could we do - those who have done everything to love and support their child. Raise them the right way with good values and morals and belief in God.
The writer is desperate. She doesn’t have any answers or agency so she goes to inflict further pain on herself. Of course she isn’t to blame, but it underscores the ruthless nature of this trans regime that it would have the victim blame herself.
I think it’s fair to say, none of us saw it coming. We’re apologizing for doing or not doing something we were blissfully unaware of. There’s also such a strong sense of self righteousness that if/when this movement ever folds, I just can’t see anyone admitting wrong doing. Sorry...having a hopeless day. Hard to stay positive sometimes
Saw it coming back in the 2000’s when I used to listen to NPR. But many parents didn’t have the free time to run into it. I’m sorry it blindsided you. It got worse when LGBTQ clubs started entering into the schools as a legitimate extracurricular activity.