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EyesOpen's avatar

I hear you. Years of parental healing can be undone if we ask for a kid to come back to us when they are unwell and deep into the new identity. If they care nothing for the impact of their choices on the parent and family, it may not be good self-care to ask for their return. And they are often complete strangers in their new identity.

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MirandaIV's avatar

Not to mention that sheer horror of seeing my handsome masculine tractor driving son dressed up and acting as a woman. I would be completely traumatised.

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Mom22's avatar

Oh I can relate. I can barely look at my once beautiful daughter.

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MirandaIV's avatar

Again, IтАЩm so sorry. This whole thing is completely insane. I just canтАЩt even begin to contemplate why so many people have been deceived into supporting this ridiculous trend, instead of clearly seeing it for the madness that it is.

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Jennifer Bond Baker's avatar

Exactly. This is why I have avoided contact, to protect myself. The idea is horrifying and traumatizing enough, and he sent me pictures to kind of rub my face in his new identity... so I have seen him, in a way. As a mother, it goes against everything in me to be in this situation where I cannot see him, love on him, help him. But until there is some change on his part, some turning, I don't see what choice we have but to pray and wait. We've written the letters. We've said all the things. It is entirely in God's hands, and He is able to do all that we can't.

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EyesOpen's avatar

As I would be seeing my daughter bare chested, showing her scars and with facial hair and a deep voice

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MirandaIV's avatar

IтАЩm sorry. ItтАЩs just so awful. How could we ever have imagined such a thing when we gave birth to them?

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Susan Z's avatar

I have repeated the a mantra thousands of times "I never thought something like this would happen one of my children" I still cant believe it is happening after over 8 years. Like, how can this be my life?

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EyesOpen's avatar

It was unimaginable then and also now.

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