What I just cannot understand is who is pushing these stereotypes? I'm 56 years old and never felt overly bound to societal stereotypes, nor did I think that society pushed them. So where did all of this come from?
Did they need to create an 'oppression' to have something to rebel against?
The non-binary label is a fiction that we need to abandon. The teens claiming to be non-binary think they are too fragile for the real world. They are being sold the lie that they can escape reality.
The option to adopt this fictitious label did not exist before the manufacture of opposite sex hormones.
Reading about this, I realized I was non-binary before it was cool. Before the term non-binary even existed. When being non-binary was dangerous.
I wore skirts, because they were comfortable. I wore eyeliner and mascara because I thought it looked good on me. Nail polish because it made me standout.
I had really long hair. Of course hippies did too but male hippies had an easily identifiable male long hair look. Totally unkempt. Like they just had long hair because they couldn't be bothered to cut it. I went to the salon to make sure mine looked perfect when it was long. Occasionally, when it was hot out, I wore it in a ponytail. Common now but back then ONLY women had pony tails. I was afraid to put it in a pony tail except around close friends. Same with skirts. Too radical and I'd be afraid of getting beat up if I wore them without friends with me in public.
When my hair was short, I dyed it blond. I would have dyed it blond when it was long but there was so much underlying red in it that it took tons of chemicals to dye it even when it was short.
I was only interested in dating girls who accepted me as a more feminine guy. The ones that wanted a macho guy turned me off. I just wasn't that and didn't even want to be friends with women who were into 'tough guy' type men.
I did also have male traits. I was very confrontational. I got into trouble with the police a lot. I mostly wore men's clothes. I worked in construction. I rode a motorcycle, year round, in the Midwest. I lived alone in the woods with my dogs for months on end.
So I rejected some male stereotypes and was strongly drawn to a lot of female traits. The very definition of non-binary.
So it is confusing that my daughter rejects me because she is claiming the socially valuable label of non-binary and I'm now a father who presents more like a traditional male than I used to. I think the main difference between us is that she was caught up in a cult, along with several of her friends. A cult that told her if she didn't cut off contact with me, she wouldn't be acceptable to them. My friends accepted me for who I was, without making such demands. There weren't any groomers lurking in the shadows. Well at least not as many as today.
These special categories to protect fragile people are utter nonsense. I feel like "non-binary" is that odd category similar to the one created for bi-sexuals. Why does a "bi-sexual" think they deserve special treatment because they are (in my humble opinion) greedy! As this article pointed out, we are all uncomfortable to a degree with certain aspects of our biological sex and I believe today's culture is elastic enough to allow for comfort.
It’s insulting that certain young people (and immature adults) think they’re the only special snowflakes who aren’t Barbie and Ken doll stereotypes and need a special label for their non-stereotypical selves. It says a lot about how these narcissists see the rest of us.
Australia's national public broadcaster is pushing the non binary agenda via ABC Queer on their Instagram account. They must be very proud to accrue more ACON=Oz Stonewall, inclusion points by branching out their propaganda to social media. Here's a critique of this by Edie and Kit, two prominent GC women discussing/exposing this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=how5TfmPACs
I was reprimand at work for refusing to use they/them for a guy who says he’s NB. He decided to “come out” as NB during a work training session. I simply said, “sorry I don’t believe in that.” He complained to his boss that he was very upset by my comment. I actually have a written complaint letter in my personnel file. 🙄
Hear hear! Some of us have always been willing to be our so-called gender non-conforming selves and we do not want nor need a special label. And anyone who knows me well enough to invite me to their wedding knows I will attire myself decently but not in a dress. And I always dressed professionally when going to court but never in a dress or skirt and managed just fine. I agree that these people need to grow up and grow some courage and personal integrity.
Mom here, of a "non-binary" identified daughter. I have puzzled over this idea, as the writer has. Yes, non-conformity to either male or female stereotypes seems to be at play, but it also strikes me as the rejection of a sexed body. My kiddo might be on the autism spectrum and I feel there is a lack of sexual identity at play. To consider yourself non-binary is to reject any notion of being attracted to someone else, whether same-sex or opposite, although I think she is opposite-sex attracted. I also think she is scared of sexuality and immature on many levels. Attraction and/or sexual desire is, in part, based on the physical characteristics of another person. My daughter talks about top surgery. She doesn't realize that this wouldn't make her a non-binary person, it would make her a woman who has had a double mastectomy. It keeps me awake at night, as does the ridiculous idea of the whole identity.
My experience of the entity is that many of the "nonbinary" teens are in fact autistic (whether diagnosed or not) and the NB label being actively promoted by society is something that they grab onto to make sense of their difficulty in comprehending and adhering to gender stereotypes. That is certainly the case with my own kid.
Of course it is still dangerous as some (especially but not only the girls) will go on to have harmful medical and surgical interventions. Given the emotional immaturity and poor decision making abilities of teen and young adult autistics, subjecting these kids these kids to permanent disgfiguring interventions is, in my view, nothing short of disability abuse and eugenics.
I agree with others that many NB adults are insufferably self absorbed and entitled. I am not excusing them at all. However, society is promoting their narcissistic behaviour . Many of them will also be autistic, and so look to society around them to "learn" how to present and behave, since they lack the instinctive abilities which neurotypical people have in this area. No one is doing them any favours by encouraging them.
In many cases, the parents may also be encouraging this behaviour in their teen or young adult kids, in the name of "kindness".
Other NB adults, of course, are just straight up narcissists and misogynists, like this moron who wants access for his p***s and moustache to the girls facilities because the men will not like his high heels!
We all are on a masculine/feminine spectrum where some of us stay more often on one side or another or like you mentioned, depending on the social situation we are in. And sometimes its how we “feel” on any particular day! I’m mostly a jeans and t shirt kinda lady but sometimes feel like wearing a dress. It doesn’t make us more or less than who we are as male or female. Its how diverse we are in how we express ourselves as male or female. I wish my gender confused daughter understood this.
I have precious little respect for non-binary people; in some ways, I find them even more irritating than original flavor trans people, who are at least pretending to be something that actually exists (the opposite sex). It's an affront to my dignity to call an obvious man "she" or an obvious woman "he," but at least I am producing a grammatical sentence when I lie.
However, my personal feelings of irritation aside, I think non-binary identities are usually the lesser of two evils, particularly when it comes to adolescents. Yes, some non-binary youth seek medical affirmation of their bespoke genders or graduate to full-on trans identification. But many of them just play around with silly names and silly pronouns and silly haircuts before eventually growing out of it. Compared to NB, MtF and FtM tend to be harder traps for teens to escape. And when they do escape, they often do so not by rejecting their trans identity outright but by rolling it back to a nonbinary identity—a face-saving maneuver that I've seen described as "soft detransition."
What I just cannot understand is who is pushing these stereotypes? I'm 56 years old and never felt overly bound to societal stereotypes, nor did I think that society pushed them. So where did all of this come from?
Did they need to create an 'oppression' to have something to rebel against?
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Thanks, a good long read.
The non-binary label is a fiction that we need to abandon. The teens claiming to be non-binary think they are too fragile for the real world. They are being sold the lie that they can escape reality.
The option to adopt this fictitious label did not exist before the manufacture of opposite sex hormones.
Reading about this, I realized I was non-binary before it was cool. Before the term non-binary even existed. When being non-binary was dangerous.
I wore skirts, because they were comfortable. I wore eyeliner and mascara because I thought it looked good on me. Nail polish because it made me standout.
I had really long hair. Of course hippies did too but male hippies had an easily identifiable male long hair look. Totally unkempt. Like they just had long hair because they couldn't be bothered to cut it. I went to the salon to make sure mine looked perfect when it was long. Occasionally, when it was hot out, I wore it in a ponytail. Common now but back then ONLY women had pony tails. I was afraid to put it in a pony tail except around close friends. Same with skirts. Too radical and I'd be afraid of getting beat up if I wore them without friends with me in public.
When my hair was short, I dyed it blond. I would have dyed it blond when it was long but there was so much underlying red in it that it took tons of chemicals to dye it even when it was short.
I was only interested in dating girls who accepted me as a more feminine guy. The ones that wanted a macho guy turned me off. I just wasn't that and didn't even want to be friends with women who were into 'tough guy' type men.
I did also have male traits. I was very confrontational. I got into trouble with the police a lot. I mostly wore men's clothes. I worked in construction. I rode a motorcycle, year round, in the Midwest. I lived alone in the woods with my dogs for months on end.
So I rejected some male stereotypes and was strongly drawn to a lot of female traits. The very definition of non-binary.
So it is confusing that my daughter rejects me because she is claiming the socially valuable label of non-binary and I'm now a father who presents more like a traditional male than I used to. I think the main difference between us is that she was caught up in a cult, along with several of her friends. A cult that told her if she didn't cut off contact with me, she wouldn't be acceptable to them. My friends accepted me for who I was, without making such demands. There weren't any groomers lurking in the shadows. Well at least not as many as today.
These special categories to protect fragile people are utter nonsense. I feel like "non-binary" is that odd category similar to the one created for bi-sexuals. Why does a "bi-sexual" think they deserve special treatment because they are (in my humble opinion) greedy! As this article pointed out, we are all uncomfortable to a degree with certain aspects of our biological sex and I believe today's culture is elastic enough to allow for comfort.
Literally everyone is non-binary.
It’s insulting that certain young people (and immature adults) think they’re the only special snowflakes who aren’t Barbie and Ken doll stereotypes and need a special label for their non-stereotypical selves. It says a lot about how these narcissists see the rest of us.
Australia's national public broadcaster is pushing the non binary agenda via ABC Queer on their Instagram account. They must be very proud to accrue more ACON=Oz Stonewall, inclusion points by branching out their propaganda to social media. Here's a critique of this by Edie and Kit, two prominent GC women discussing/exposing this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=how5TfmPACs
I Hope this brings your hurting hearts some peace. I love Yall stay strong!
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I was reprimand at work for refusing to use they/them for a guy who says he’s NB. He decided to “come out” as NB during a work training session. I simply said, “sorry I don’t believe in that.” He complained to his boss that he was very upset by my comment. I actually have a written complaint letter in my personnel file. 🙄
Hear hear! Some of us have always been willing to be our so-called gender non-conforming selves and we do not want nor need a special label. And anyone who knows me well enough to invite me to their wedding knows I will attire myself decently but not in a dress. And I always dressed professionally when going to court but never in a dress or skirt and managed just fine. I agree that these people need to grow up and grow some courage and personal integrity.
Mom here, of a "non-binary" identified daughter. I have puzzled over this idea, as the writer has. Yes, non-conformity to either male or female stereotypes seems to be at play, but it also strikes me as the rejection of a sexed body. My kiddo might be on the autism spectrum and I feel there is a lack of sexual identity at play. To consider yourself non-binary is to reject any notion of being attracted to someone else, whether same-sex or opposite, although I think she is opposite-sex attracted. I also think she is scared of sexuality and immature on many levels. Attraction and/or sexual desire is, in part, based on the physical characteristics of another person. My daughter talks about top surgery. She doesn't realize that this wouldn't make her a non-binary person, it would make her a woman who has had a double mastectomy. It keeps me awake at night, as does the ridiculous idea of the whole identity.
Brilliant piece thank you.
My experience of the entity is that many of the "nonbinary" teens are in fact autistic (whether diagnosed or not) and the NB label being actively promoted by society is something that they grab onto to make sense of their difficulty in comprehending and adhering to gender stereotypes. That is certainly the case with my own kid.
Of course it is still dangerous as some (especially but not only the girls) will go on to have harmful medical and surgical interventions. Given the emotional immaturity and poor decision making abilities of teen and young adult autistics, subjecting these kids these kids to permanent disgfiguring interventions is, in my view, nothing short of disability abuse and eugenics.
I agree with others that many NB adults are insufferably self absorbed and entitled. I am not excusing them at all. However, society is promoting their narcissistic behaviour . Many of them will also be autistic, and so look to society around them to "learn" how to present and behave, since they lack the instinctive abilities which neurotypical people have in this area. No one is doing them any favours by encouraging them.
In many cases, the parents may also be encouraging this behaviour in their teen or young adult kids, in the name of "kindness".
Other NB adults, of course, are just straight up narcissists and misogynists, like this moron who wants access for his p***s and moustache to the girls facilities because the men will not like his high heels!
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We all are on a masculine/feminine spectrum where some of us stay more often on one side or another or like you mentioned, depending on the social situation we are in. And sometimes its how we “feel” on any particular day! I’m mostly a jeans and t shirt kinda lady but sometimes feel like wearing a dress. It doesn’t make us more or less than who we are as male or female. Its how diverse we are in how we express ourselves as male or female. I wish my gender confused daughter understood this.
I have precious little respect for non-binary people; in some ways, I find them even more irritating than original flavor trans people, who are at least pretending to be something that actually exists (the opposite sex). It's an affront to my dignity to call an obvious man "she" or an obvious woman "he," but at least I am producing a grammatical sentence when I lie.
However, my personal feelings of irritation aside, I think non-binary identities are usually the lesser of two evils, particularly when it comes to adolescents. Yes, some non-binary youth seek medical affirmation of their bespoke genders or graduate to full-on trans identification. But many of them just play around with silly names and silly pronouns and silly haircuts before eventually growing out of it. Compared to NB, MtF and FtM tend to be harder traps for teens to escape. And when they do escape, they often do so not by rejecting their trans identity outright but by rolling it back to a nonbinary identity—a face-saving maneuver that I've seen described as "soft detransition."