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What I just cannot understand is who is pushing these stereotypes? I'm 56 years old and never felt overly bound to societal stereotypes, nor did I think that society pushed them. So where did all of this come from?

Did they need to create an 'oppression' to have something to rebel against?

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Thanks, a good long read.

The non-binary label is a fiction that we need to abandon. The teens claiming to be non-binary think they are too fragile for the real world. They are being sold the lie that they can escape reality.

The option to adopt this fictitious label did not exist before the manufacture of opposite sex hormones.

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Reading about this, I realized I was non-binary before it was cool. Before the term non-binary even existed. When being non-binary was dangerous. 

I wore skirts, because they were comfortable. I wore eyeliner and mascara because I thought it looked good on me. Nail polish because it made me standout. 

I had really long hair. Of course hippies did too but male hippies had an easily identifiable male long hair look. Totally unkempt. Like they just had long hair because they couldn't be bothered to cut it. I went to the salon to make sure mine looked perfect when it was long. Occasionally, when it was hot out, I wore it in a ponytail. Common now but back then ONLY women had pony tails. I was afraid to put it in a pony tail except around close friends. Same with skirts. Too radical and I'd be afraid of getting beat up if I wore them without friends with me in public.

When my hair was short, I dyed it blond. I would have dyed it blond when it was long but there was so much underlying red in it that it took tons of chemicals to dye it even when it was short.  

I was only interested in dating girls who accepted me as a more feminine guy. The ones that wanted a macho guy turned me off. I just wasn't that and didn't even want to be friends with women who were into 'tough guy' type men. 

I did also have male traits. I was very confrontational. I got into trouble with the police a lot. I mostly wore men's clothes. I worked in construction. I rode a motorcycle, year round, in the Midwest. I lived alone in the woods with my dogs for months on end.  

So I rejected some male stereotypes and was strongly drawn to a lot of female traits. The very definition of non-binary.  

So it is confusing that my daughter rejects me because she is claiming the socially valuable label of non-binary and I'm now a father who presents more like a traditional male than I used to. I think the main difference between us is that she was caught up in a cult, along with several of her friends. A cult that told her if she didn't cut off contact with me, she wouldn't be acceptable to them. My friends accepted me for who I was, without making such demands. There weren't any groomers lurking in the shadows. Well at least not as many as today.

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Have you shared your experience with your daughter? It might help her to figure herself out.

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A lot of it I did before I realized what was going on in the world. The trans cult thing seemed to me to be something other people had to deal with in other places. Not me. Not my family. Not my community. Now I wish she didn't know what I did tell her. It may have made her more susceptible to the social contagion that was raging around us unseen by me.

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S.A. Dad

Yes, it seems no one is immune to the contagion, no matter their upbringing. And you feel the irony of it all through your own experiences when you were younger, and how you are now just a regular dad. I, too, have things I wish I would have said or done differently. In the end, I don't know if anything would have made any difference. It's impossible to ignore the influences of this ideology when it's present in all institutions. Don't blame yourself. I think there are enough collective ribbons of guilt in this thread to go around the world once or twice (whether warranted or not, most of it probably not). I am sorry for your pain.

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These special categories to protect fragile people are utter nonsense. I feel like "non-binary" is that odd category similar to the one created for bi-sexuals. Why does a "bi-sexual" think they deserve special treatment because they are (in my humble opinion) greedy! As this article pointed out, we are all uncomfortable to a degree with certain aspects of our biological sex and I believe today's culture is elastic enough to allow for comfort.

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Literally everyone is non-binary.

It’s insulting that certain young people (and immature adults) think they’re the only special snowflakes who aren’t Barbie and Ken doll stereotypes and need a special label for their non-stereotypical selves. It says a lot about how these narcissists see the rest of us.

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Australia's national public broadcaster is pushing the non binary agenda via ABC Queer on their Instagram account. They must be very proud to accrue more ACON=Oz Stonewall, inclusion points by branching out their propaganda to social media. Here's a critique of this by Edie and Kit, two prominent GC women discussing/exposing this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=how5TfmPACs

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I Hope this brings your hurting hearts some peace. I love Yall stay strong!

https://youtu.be/tQkX8PtCP_U

And this, https://youtu.be/AeKvayVHxGs

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Here is another live stream of the same protest by Jennifer and her team, it has better sound and vision. Fast forward to 20 mins in for speakers to start, and the sonic assault of trans cult arriving. The police protected these women fiercely for a change. Strong speeches and read out testimonies of female inmates. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LPD2O90uYEM&t=6263s

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I was reprimand at work for refusing to use they/them for a guy who says he’s NB. He decided to “come out” as NB during a work training session. I simply said, “sorry I don’t believe in that.” He complained to his boss that he was very upset by my comment. I actually have a written complaint letter in my personnel file. 🙄

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I think next time I'm in a pronoun sharing situation I'll say, "My subject pronoun is she, my object pronoun is he, and my possessive pronoun in they. I expect everyone to remember that."

But on a serious note, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I worry that if I don't use the they/them pronouns when referring to NB-identifying students in written communication with colleagues, that could be used later as justification to fire me. It's a scary time we are living in.

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You might have a basis to sue if you wish to. Check out FIRE’s site.

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Wow. I'd probably never address him again. If I had to for work, I'd go out of my way to just repeat his name whenever a pronoun is needed. Fk that guy.

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Yup, that’s basically what I’ve done. He’s only 22, one year out of college, and wears nail polish. 🙄

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1 yr out of college...yeah, that checks out. Lol Indoctrination Centers these days.

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You have the right to not believe in that i.m.o. But this is still a stressful situation for you, especially with that written complaint. OMG, what's next? I identify as the elephant in the room?

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Try "are you hexadecimal? " instead. Computer nerd joke.

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Hear hear! Some of us have always been willing to be our so-called gender non-conforming selves and we do not want nor need a special label. And anyone who knows me well enough to invite me to their wedding knows I will attire myself decently but not in a dress. And I always dressed professionally when going to court but never in a dress or skirt and managed just fine. I agree that these people need to grow up and grow some courage and personal integrity.

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To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose... if pants suits are acceptable they're acceptable. If I was asked to be in a bridal party and it meant the most uncomfortable crap ever, even say a wool kilt, I'd grump to myself and wear it.

At some point I'd draw a line, not doing a clear vinyl tux for example.

But for everyday living wear what allows you to live and work comfortably.

No chainmail bikini at the MRI shop.

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Mom here, of a "non-binary" identified daughter. I have puzzled over this idea, as the writer has. Yes, non-conformity to either male or female stereotypes seems to be at play, but it also strikes me as the rejection of a sexed body. My kiddo might be on the autism spectrum and I feel there is a lack of sexual identity at play. To consider yourself non-binary is to reject any notion of being attracted to someone else, whether same-sex or opposite, although I think she is opposite-sex attracted. I also think she is scared of sexuality and immature on many levels. Attraction and/or sexual desire is, in part, based on the physical characteristics of another person. My daughter talks about top surgery. She doesn't realize that this wouldn't make her a non-binary person, it would make her a woman who has had a double mastectomy. It keeps me awake at night, as does the ridiculous idea of the whole identity.

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You have put into words so much that isn't "allowed" to say but needs to be heard. Oddly enough one thing I think socially awkward (with attached diagnosis or not) young girls need to hear these days is "it's okay to be straight." There is so much noise coming at them from various directions that it makes them fight against their natural instincts. I noticed already when my young adult daughter was back in 6th grade that the girls all started calling themselves insipid things like "demigirl" and "pansexual" in order to avoid the natural awkwardness of starting to notice boys and be noticed by them. Toxic culture run by narcissistic adults has driven these girls insane.

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What's particularly infantilizing about these mastectomies (I cannot wrap my brain around doctors actually doing this to young people, it makes less than zero sense) is that the nipples are an erogenous zone. The mastectomy then denies a form of sexual pleasure. The whole transgender industry is creating a sub-class deluded into seeing themselves as a special class. They are willfully rendering themselves butchered perennial children without the capacity to engage in pleasurable sexual activity.

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Yes! I was thinking exactly this after I had posted my comment! Men's nipples are also an erogenous zone, another reason that having "top surgery" to make your chest appear/feel male is not based in reality. It's a lack of sexual desire/knowledge, perhaps coupled with a dissociation from one's own body. It's so very sad and disturbing, doubly so when it's your own child. Not to mention the painful scars and issues with healing that I have read about from Chloe Cole and recently Camille Kiefel.

https://www.ibtimes.com/woman-detransitioning-being-non-binary-sues-doctors-who-removed-her-breasts-3643530

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Brilliant piece thank you.

My experience of the entity is that many of the "nonbinary" teens are in fact autistic (whether diagnosed or not) and the NB label being actively promoted by society is something that they grab onto to make sense of their difficulty in comprehending and adhering to gender stereotypes. That is certainly the case with my own kid.

Of course it is still dangerous as some (especially but not only the girls) will go on to have harmful medical and surgical interventions. Given the emotional immaturity and poor decision making abilities of teen and young adult autistics, subjecting these kids these kids to permanent disgfiguring interventions is, in my view, nothing short of disability abuse and eugenics.

I agree with others that many NB adults are insufferably self absorbed and entitled. I am not excusing them at all. However, society is promoting their narcissistic behaviour . Many of them will also be autistic, and so look to society around them to "learn" how to present and behave, since they lack the instinctive abilities which neurotypical people have in this area. No one is doing them any favours by encouraging them.

In many cases, the parents may also be encouraging this behaviour in their teen or young adult kids, in the name of "kindness".

Other NB adults, of course, are just straight up narcissists and misogynists, like this moron who wants access for his p***s and moustache to the girls facilities because the men will not like his high heels!

https://twitter.com/TwisterFilm/status/1643200367293759491

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You have laid it all out perfectly here. There is little left to say!

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Well thank god some gay men like Malcolm actually 'get it' and are calling out these insufferable gay men who are narcissist bullies who have no consideration for women.

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They are frequently socially awkward, unable to read basic social cues. They react inappropriately in social situations and become afraid of interacting. This makes them ruminate over the lack of social success and latch on to trans as a way out. They want interaction and friends they get love bombed online when they find this stuff and think they've found the silver bullet.

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Moms should have stayed home

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I do wonder if I could have protected my child if I had spent more time with her. However the forces against parents are huge.

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I stayed home with my son for many years. Now I read that many TIMs were too close to their moms and had trouble differentiating. Damned if you do and damned if you don’t.

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I Did for the last 4 years of this. The brainwashing came with a new family to love her.

Unfortunatelly the wrong kinda love.

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We all are on a masculine/feminine spectrum where some of us stay more often on one side or another or like you mentioned, depending on the social situation we are in. And sometimes its how we “feel” on any particular day! I’m mostly a jeans and t shirt kinda lady but sometimes feel like wearing a dress. It doesn’t make us more or less than who we are as male or female. Its how diverse we are in how we express ourselves as male or female. I wish my gender confused daughter understood this.

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I have precious little respect for non-binary people; in some ways, I find them even more irritating than original flavor trans people, who are at least pretending to be something that actually exists (the opposite sex). It's an affront to my dignity to call an obvious man "she" or an obvious woman "he," but at least I am producing a grammatical sentence when I lie.

However, my personal feelings of irritation aside, I think non-binary identities are usually the lesser of two evils, particularly when it comes to adolescents. Yes, some non-binary youth seek medical affirmation of their bespoke genders or graduate to full-on trans identification. But many of them just play around with silly names and silly pronouns and silly haircuts before eventually growing out of it. Compared to NB, MtF and FtM tend to be harder traps for teens to escape. And when they do escape, they often do so not by rejecting their trans identity outright but by rolling it back to a nonbinary identity—a face-saving maneuver that I've seen described as "soft detransition."

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