Because I believe in preserving the relationship with my child above all and they only make a big deal out of that. They know how I feel about other things like binders, hormones, and JK Rowling (haha). So if this is the one thing that keeps them from shutting me out of their life, its worth it. Giving them ammunition to brand me as a ho…
Because I believe in preserving the relationship with my child above all and they only make a big deal out of that. They know how I feel about other things like binders, hormones, and JK Rowling (haha). So if this is the one thing that keeps them from shutting me out of their life, its worth it. Giving them ammunition to brand me as a horrible transphobe who disrespects their pronouns will just drive my kid further into the the hands of the trans-agenda. Plus, I am all for a gender neutral pronoun if we find a good one that anyone can use.
Does your daughter read your PITT comments? Don't you have an anonymous PITT posting name? I respectfully disagree on your wish for a gender neutral pronoun. His and Her are the reality pronouns for biological sex. The word "gender"has been mangled. Gender needs to go back to its meaning as biological sex.
With all respect -- and speaking as someone who refuses to refer to my child as “they” -- the term “gender,” as I understand it, is used to mean biological sex only as a euphemism because of our collective prudishness about a word that also refers to coitus and other sexual activity. Wasn’t “gender” originally a linguistic term (in languages that have grammatical gender, where words for even inanimate objects are “masculine” or “feminine” or sometimes “neuter”)?
IMO, using “gender” when what is meant is (biological, actual, real, male or female) sex is mangling the language. I am a woman, I am of the female sex, I do not have a “gender” because I don’t know what that means (and have never seen a good definition of the term).
Well, I choose not make pronouns the hill to die on because my priority is my child. And since neither of us are linguists, I don't think we should get into a back and forth about what are the right words for things and what they mean.
Yeah, I understand that you do what you feel you need to do when you speak with your daughter... But, let's please try to use real language when conversing among ourselves. We won't be able to beat the RGT cult if we use their language. With the cult language, cis/trans, "using pronouns", etc. we make no sense and then we cannot push back. First it's the mind and then it's the body... There is a PITT article on that.
I thought language police was only the purview of Trans activists. I do think that trying to callout every nitpicky thing is just mimicking the strategies we find annoying about the activists. And I do think making some concessions to relatively inconsequential things is the way to push the tide back. PITT articles are all opinion pieces and everyone is allowed to think for themselves-Goodness, I do hope our tactics don't end up being just like theirs. I don't have a problem with they or using anyone else's requested pronouns, I just don't signify pronouns when asked myself--not an illegitimate position in this group, I hope. If the Chinese can don't distinguish between he and she, I have no umbrage.
For my part, I think it is important not to agree with the confused/mentally disordered/fetished, etc. or to lie to ourselves/perpetuate RGT language as I think it does more harm than good. Naive young people then think it's all fine. But, that is my position. :-)
Because I believe in preserving the relationship with my child above all and they only make a big deal out of that. They know how I feel about other things like binders, hormones, and JK Rowling (haha). So if this is the one thing that keeps them from shutting me out of their life, its worth it. Giving them ammunition to brand me as a horrible transphobe who disrespects their pronouns will just drive my kid further into the the hands of the trans-agenda. Plus, I am all for a gender neutral pronoun if we find a good one that anyone can use.
Does your daughter read your PITT comments? Don't you have an anonymous PITT posting name? I respectfully disagree on your wish for a gender neutral pronoun. His and Her are the reality pronouns for biological sex. The word "gender"has been mangled. Gender needs to go back to its meaning as biological sex.
With all respect -- and speaking as someone who refuses to refer to my child as “they” -- the term “gender,” as I understand it, is used to mean biological sex only as a euphemism because of our collective prudishness about a word that also refers to coitus and other sexual activity. Wasn’t “gender” originally a linguistic term (in languages that have grammatical gender, where words for even inanimate objects are “masculine” or “feminine” or sometimes “neuter”)?
IMO, using “gender” when what is meant is (biological, actual, real, male or female) sex is mangling the language. I am a woman, I am of the female sex, I do not have a “gender” because I don’t know what that means (and have never seen a good definition of the term).
Well, I choose not make pronouns the hill to die on because my priority is my child. And since neither of us are linguists, I don't think we should get into a back and forth about what are the right words for things and what they mean.
Yeah, I understand that you do what you feel you need to do when you speak with your daughter... But, let's please try to use real language when conversing among ourselves. We won't be able to beat the RGT cult if we use their language. With the cult language, cis/trans, "using pronouns", etc. we make no sense and then we cannot push back. First it's the mind and then it's the body... There is a PITT article on that.
I thought language police was only the purview of Trans activists. I do think that trying to callout every nitpicky thing is just mimicking the strategies we find annoying about the activists. And I do think making some concessions to relatively inconsequential things is the way to push the tide back. PITT articles are all opinion pieces and everyone is allowed to think for themselves-Goodness, I do hope our tactics don't end up being just like theirs. I don't have a problem with they or using anyone else's requested pronouns, I just don't signify pronouns when asked myself--not an illegitimate position in this group, I hope. If the Chinese can don't distinguish between he and she, I have no umbrage.
Agree to disagree. You made me think of these:
https://lgbdropthet.com/
"Merry Mayhem"
https://twitter.com/Merryb2184/status/1556819915662888960
"It's Wrong to Play the Pronoun Game"
https://pitt.substack.com/p/its-wrong-to-play-the-pronoun-game
For my part, I think it is important not to agree with the confused/mentally disordered/fetished, etc. or to lie to ourselves/perpetuate RGT language as I think it does more harm than good. Naive young people then think it's all fine. But, that is my position. :-)