My heart breaks for you and your family! Your story has brought me to tears as so many of our stories do. I wish that you weren't going through this even though it helps knowing that I'm not alone.
"I have decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and move on and find the joy in everyday life." This was me yesterday. Today hasn't been a go…
My heart breaks for you and your family! Your story has brought me to tears as so many of our stories do. I wish that you weren't going through this even though it helps knowing that I'm not alone.
"I have decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and move on and find the joy in everyday life." This was me yesterday. Today hasn't been a good day. I feel myself falling into the abyss. Tomorrow I'll pick myself up and find joy in the day again.
I, too, look forward to the day that my prodigal comes home. Prayers for you and your family.
It is hard isn't it? Folks tell us to move on in our lives and do what is best for us. Sounds easy and maybe even wise and there are days when I can follow that path. Then days like today, my birthday, I stay in my jammies all day. So broken hearted. For those who think the advice to 'move on' is helpful.....they haven't walked in our shoes every day. I'm not sure about that prodigal son thing. Maybe if he is at all sorry for the pain he has caused. The door is always open, but I can't handle more pain.
People can't possibly understand that it's like grief, but it never changes. It doesn't get any better. Whenever we see our child, or think of him or her, it is a fresh grief.
I think I could forgive my daughter if she ever desists, but I don't think things would ever be the same. I'd probably be walking around wondering what tragedy would strike next.
I would be worried about pushing my daughter away more. I don't think I would send it either.
I have an added layer to all this. My daughter has a daughter of her own. So, my granddaughter is so confused. She asks me why she has two daddys and no mommy? I tell her she does have a mommy, but she wants to be a boy.
It's so hard watching the multi-generational hurt this is causing! I keep hoping it will end. But even if it does, how will we put the pieces back together?
I feel like if it does end and they come to their senses, we have to welcome them home, back to normality, without discussing our pain, and move forward with hope and love, without demanding an apology.
Yes, I agree. We will have to welcome them back without making it about us and how we hurt. Forgive without being asked. That kind of forgiveness is difficult, but freeing.
My heart breaks for you and your family! Your story has brought me to tears as so many of our stories do. I wish that you weren't going through this even though it helps knowing that I'm not alone.
"I have decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and move on and find the joy in everyday life." This was me yesterday. Today hasn't been a good day. I feel myself falling into the abyss. Tomorrow I'll pick myself up and find joy in the day again.
I, too, look forward to the day that my prodigal comes home. Prayers for you and your family.
It is hard isn't it? Folks tell us to move on in our lives and do what is best for us. Sounds easy and maybe even wise and there are days when I can follow that path. Then days like today, my birthday, I stay in my jammies all day. So broken hearted. For those who think the advice to 'move on' is helpful.....they haven't walked in our shoes every day. I'm not sure about that prodigal son thing. Maybe if he is at all sorry for the pain he has caused. The door is always open, but I can't handle more pain.
People can't possibly understand that it's like grief, but it never changes. It doesn't get any better. Whenever we see our child, or think of him or her, it is a fresh grief.
I think I could forgive my daughter if she ever desists, but I don't think things would ever be the same. I'd probably be walking around wondering what tragedy would strike next.
I feel exactly the same. It’s so painful. I wrote my son a letter that I never sent, saying much of what you just said.
Did it help you to write a letter just for yourself? Maybe I should try that.
I helped for about a day. I wanted to send it to him but one friend said no because she said it may push him away more. So I didn’t.
I would be worried about pushing my daughter away more. I don't think I would send it either.
I have an added layer to all this. My daughter has a daughter of her own. So, my granddaughter is so confused. She asks me why she has two daddys and no mommy? I tell her she does have a mommy, but she wants to be a boy.
It's so hard watching the multi-generational hurt this is causing! I keep hoping it will end. But even if it does, how will we put the pieces back together?
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I feel like if it does end and they come to their senses, we have to welcome them home, back to normality, without discussing our pain, and move forward with hope and love, without demanding an apology.
Yes, I agree. We will have to welcome them back without making it about us and how we hurt. Forgive without being asked. That kind of forgiveness is difficult, but freeing.