I love that you're asking this question. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!!!
Because it's taking responsibility (even though it's not *all* on you - nor was your daughter's colic) and not just railing at the Evil Transgender/Activists. I think parents of trans kids need to take a hard look at progressive parenting, in which children are treated as littl…
I love that you're asking this question. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!!!
Because it's taking responsibility (even though it's not *all* on you - nor was your daughter's colic) and not just railing at the Evil Transgender/Activists. I think parents of trans kids need to take a hard look at progressive parenting, in which children are treated as little adults rather than the little people my mother considered my brother and I - *people* with feelings, wants, desires, and certain rights, but not *adults* - we were, after all, still children. So some self- and group-analysis is in order, I think, but also--and some are not going to like to hear this--maybe examine how conservative parents raise *their* kids, because research shows conservative kids have higher levels of happiness and joy in life (Jonathan Haidt) and a helluva lot fewer 'trans' kids, who are going to the same schools *your* kids got this nonsense from. How are conservative parents counteracting it? Or are they sending their kids to private schools? (They can't *all* be doing that.)
It doesn't mean conservative parents have ALL the answers--they don't, and I personally could testify to how conservative and especially conservative Christian parents can really screw their kids up--I've known *so many* over the years. BUT...just as progressive parents don't do everything right, or wrong, neither do conservative parents. I wonder how well they treat their gay kids, for example. Pretty sure it ain't easy to grow up gay in a conservative Christian household, still. But...at least their parents aren't butchering their genitals.
The other thing is is you can't control everything. There's still the cultic nonsense they get in the schools and from their peer groups and 'affirming' parents of their friends. Author, reading about your attempts to 'control' your daughter's colic indicate maybe you could have spent more time alleviating it than controlling it. Because I was a colicky baby (my brother wasn't) and I'm 60. So if they don't know *now* how to prevent colic, your best bet is to do what parents of yore did - hold the baby on your shoulder and rub its back. It doesn't always help but sometimes it does and it doesn't hurt!
I say these things NOT TO MAKE ANYONE FEEL BAD OR SELF-CRITICAL. I offer this as a 'post-mortem', which is what project managers in companies that do jobs for others. They built a house; installed a complex computer system; held a protest; whatever. The team sits down later and says, "What did we do right? What did we do wrong?" Especially if the project didn't go well. The point is not to beat yourselves up because you're awful, stupid, incompetent people, but to logically and rationally *analyze your mistakes*, *determine what you should do better next time*, and figure out a process everyone follows so you don't accidentally drop a load of bricks from a crane or take out the payroll system with the ERP implementation. The purpose is to continuously improve, not beat yourself (or others) up.
I'll be honest: I don't have kids but we have perspectives too, that you *can't* have *because* you've never had kids. I don't want to beat up parents and tell them they did a lousy job of raising their kids; you might have done a pretty damn good job all things considered and s/he still got sucked into the trans cult (and in the olden days, religious cults like the numerous Jesus ones, the Moonies, Jim Jones, etc.) (Christian CULTS, not mainstream Christian religions!) But I do encourage personal responsibility (it's the basis of my own Substack and a personal journey I myself am on) and being able to honestly critique ourselves with the intention of improving rather than abusing ourselves is incredibly important.
I love that you're asking this question. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!!!
Because it's taking responsibility (even though it's not *all* on you - nor was your daughter's colic) and not just railing at the Evil Transgender/Activists. I think parents of trans kids need to take a hard look at progressive parenting, in which children are treated as little adults rather than the little people my mother considered my brother and I - *people* with feelings, wants, desires, and certain rights, but not *adults* - we were, after all, still children. So some self- and group-analysis is in order, I think, but also--and some are not going to like to hear this--maybe examine how conservative parents raise *their* kids, because research shows conservative kids have higher levels of happiness and joy in life (Jonathan Haidt) and a helluva lot fewer 'trans' kids, who are going to the same schools *your* kids got this nonsense from. How are conservative parents counteracting it? Or are they sending their kids to private schools? (They can't *all* be doing that.)
It doesn't mean conservative parents have ALL the answers--they don't, and I personally could testify to how conservative and especially conservative Christian parents can really screw their kids up--I've known *so many* over the years. BUT...just as progressive parents don't do everything right, or wrong, neither do conservative parents. I wonder how well they treat their gay kids, for example. Pretty sure it ain't easy to grow up gay in a conservative Christian household, still. But...at least their parents aren't butchering their genitals.
The other thing is is you can't control everything. There's still the cultic nonsense they get in the schools and from their peer groups and 'affirming' parents of their friends. Author, reading about your attempts to 'control' your daughter's colic indicate maybe you could have spent more time alleviating it than controlling it. Because I was a colicky baby (my brother wasn't) and I'm 60. So if they don't know *now* how to prevent colic, your best bet is to do what parents of yore did - hold the baby on your shoulder and rub its back. It doesn't always help but sometimes it does and it doesn't hurt!
I say these things NOT TO MAKE ANYONE FEEL BAD OR SELF-CRITICAL. I offer this as a 'post-mortem', which is what project managers in companies that do jobs for others. They built a house; installed a complex computer system; held a protest; whatever. The team sits down later and says, "What did we do right? What did we do wrong?" Especially if the project didn't go well. The point is not to beat yourselves up because you're awful, stupid, incompetent people, but to logically and rationally *analyze your mistakes*, *determine what you should do better next time*, and figure out a process everyone follows so you don't accidentally drop a load of bricks from a crane or take out the payroll system with the ERP implementation. The purpose is to continuously improve, not beat yourself (or others) up.
I'll be honest: I don't have kids but we have perspectives too, that you *can't* have *because* you've never had kids. I don't want to beat up parents and tell them they did a lousy job of raising their kids; you might have done a pretty damn good job all things considered and s/he still got sucked into the trans cult (and in the olden days, religious cults like the numerous Jesus ones, the Moonies, Jim Jones, etc.) (Christian CULTS, not mainstream Christian religions!) But I do encourage personal responsibility (it's the basis of my own Substack and a personal journey I myself am on) and being able to honestly critique ourselves with the intention of improving rather than abusing ourselves is incredibly important.