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Totally relate. Experienced exactly same situation. Beautifully written. I am resting on God’s faithfulness, hoping for his mercy.Hoping I can get my daughter back .

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Your world is also my own. The personality change, the heartlessness, the forced "blokiness", the affectations, the facial hair, the weight-gain, the generic voice - they all sound the same....These things are impossibly painful.

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This is poetic yet so heartbreaking, you have captured the soul of how many parents, family members think & feel. So sorry 😢

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Your pain reverberates from every word. You have encapsulated this torture perfectly. I sit with you in the depths of a hell I don’t believe in but know exists here on earth. I hold your hand.

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The pain. It’s endless. There’s rarely a break. Rarely a time in my waking hours or sleep when I do not have my thoughts invaded by awful images of my son. They’re either lovely ones of how he used to be as a child or horrible ones of how he has chosen to live his life now. I am so utterly sick of being depressed and unhappy.

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So sad. How did the world get this awful. She won’t carry on too long with this insanity. There has got to be a breaking point at some time in the future.

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Also, I wonder, what will these trans peeps realize when they have their own children?

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Oh. I just ache. For you. For her. 💕

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😭💔

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Oct 26, 2022·edited Oct 27, 2022

There is power in the brevity of this poignant story of a courageous mother having tea with her daughter. It is a harrowing portrait of the evil trans cult and its tsunami amount of damage. I understand what it's like as a mother to have your heart squeezed while sharing even limited time with a young adult child who is harming themselves, -- physically, mentally, and spiritually. With my son, it has required some disassociation, (which is apropos as he clings to his disassociated fantasy of being a "woman." )

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What a heartbreaking situation for you. Your pain is excruciating to read about, let alone experience. I’m so glad you shared it with us.

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Oh that gobbling down of food, the crass laughter - I can so relate. I am so sorry that you had to watch her slip away yet you are so loving to continue despite your own pain to show up. It reminds me to be brave. I might need that sunglasses tip too! Be well - we fellow parents hold you in the truth.

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I completely understand your pain and commend your courage. I can't even face my son who is transitioning. He's an adult so I have zero say in anything. You're not alone. Hugs.

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Hang in there - I'm experiencing the same thing. I do think people are waking up to the idea that it's a cult.

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Oh, mama. I'm so sorry. This hits all the feels.

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I felt the impact from every word you wrote. Your grief hits hard, my thoughts with you- you courageous woman----

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