Yes, excellent writing, and a great analogy to describe drag queens or Dylan Mulvaney. But trivializes the mental anguish and suffering of gender dysphoric males, always afflicted by multiple comorbid psychological disorders that are ignored by healthcare professionals in favor of opposite hormone theRapey. Most gender dysphoric males a…
Yes, excellent writing, and a great analogy to describe drag queens or Dylan Mulvaney. But trivializes the mental anguish and suffering of gender dysphoric males, always afflicted by multiple comorbid psychological disorders that are ignored by healthcare professionals in favor of opposite hormone theRapey. Most gender dysphoric males are extremely sensitive and have endured extreme bullying and/or other childhood trauma, and have been subjected to video game addiction and porn exposure due the our pervasive and inescapable culture. They have also been told that they are born misogynistic oppressors, especially if they are "white". Given that boys are generally treated less gently than girls, who are protected as the "weaker" sex, it's easy to make a mockery of them. I know that light hearted humor can take the edge off of difficult topics, but this borders on malice and serves no role in healing our boys. I can't see this story written to represent a female garnering such enthusiastic praise. At least not from mothers of sons.
My description of my now dead Trans ex-H is of a previous generation (or possibly 2 generations ago!) I do wonder what triggered his GD. He only told me that it "comes and goes". He didn't bother to explain what caused it to come, what caused it to go.... And he didn't seem to think that it might be useful for HIM as well as US to ask himself these questions. His lack of curiosity was astounding. The current generation (twenties and thirties) will, I hope, be asked more, a lot more about how they came to adopt such utterly alienating beliefs.
I wrestled with gender dysphoria in much of my life. At this point I could, maybe, boast about being "Cured" but I wager it's the same kind of cure of the sober alcoholic, who might one binge away from a relapse.
A list of some of the things that pulled me back from the brink.
1) Authors who write to support the present dilemma of men. Warren Farrell, Robert Bly. Today I think Jordan Peterson would be good for this generation.
2) A growing understanding of G-d, and it's not "hate" that he forbids men from wearing women's garments (or vice versa) but a protection from danger.
3) Becoming a father. Seeing my wife in action showed I'm not a woman, because I cannot do what she can. But no less, because I can do things that she cannot.
And I'll add:
4) Understanding autogynphelia. Framing my confusion as a fetish rather than an actual bedrock identity reduced its power over me. You can enjoy a fetish, if that's all it is. And that's better than denying it and having it control you.
Do you have a blog or website? Mine is transwidows.com where you can send me an email. I would like to have a conversation with you. I Tweet @STranswidows and if you are on Twitter we can DM. I have many questions and you seem open to exchange, which I really value. Thank you.
Okay, I opened an old Twitter account, followed, and tried to DM you. I got the message "STranswidows cannot be messaged." Do you have another method of contact?
I... don't. Not really. I keep trying to set up a blog related to one of my hobbies, but I can't quite get the knack for it.
But I would be glad to have contact with you. Perhaps I can make a twitter account for that purpose.
I don't know if you're the same trans widow website; I think I saw more than one But there is one... I think her story was a bit different, but she had a blog with a similar name. She had a dreadful break-up with her ex, and he seemed to go off the deep end. Her blog was very powerful and hard hitting. When my own inner confusion struck me hard, I would read her blog and the crazy things her ex did to her, to remind myself of what was important and how much damage I would do to the people I care about if I let myself be overtaken by the urges.
I'll take a look into Twitter and see if I can figure it out.
Beautifully said. Thank you for your sensitivity to gender dysphoric young males, who, as you state, are generally very sensitive and have endured much bullying. Transition is a coping mechanism for their traumas.
This essay, "The Emperor's New Body" is brilliant and will help others wake up. But we shouldn't forget the gentle, sensitive boys who are currently struggling. I hope you may use your writing talents to expound further what you have so eloquently stated in your comment.
Yes, excellent writing, and a great analogy to describe drag queens or Dylan Mulvaney. But trivializes the mental anguish and suffering of gender dysphoric males, always afflicted by multiple comorbid psychological disorders that are ignored by healthcare professionals in favor of opposite hormone theRapey. Most gender dysphoric males are extremely sensitive and have endured extreme bullying and/or other childhood trauma, and have been subjected to video game addiction and porn exposure due the our pervasive and inescapable culture. They have also been told that they are born misogynistic oppressors, especially if they are "white". Given that boys are generally treated less gently than girls, who are protected as the "weaker" sex, it's easy to make a mockery of them. I know that light hearted humor can take the edge off of difficult topics, but this borders on malice and serves no role in healing our boys. I can't see this story written to represent a female garnering such enthusiastic praise. At least not from mothers of sons.
My description of my now dead Trans ex-H is of a previous generation (or possibly 2 generations ago!) I do wonder what triggered his GD. He only told me that it "comes and goes". He didn't bother to explain what caused it to come, what caused it to go.... And he didn't seem to think that it might be useful for HIM as well as US to ask himself these questions. His lack of curiosity was astounding. The current generation (twenties and thirties) will, I hope, be asked more, a lot more about how they came to adopt such utterly alienating beliefs.
I wrestled with gender dysphoria in much of my life. At this point I could, maybe, boast about being "Cured" but I wager it's the same kind of cure of the sober alcoholic, who might one binge away from a relapse.
A list of some of the things that pulled me back from the brink.
1) Authors who write to support the present dilemma of men. Warren Farrell, Robert Bly. Today I think Jordan Peterson would be good for this generation.
2) A growing understanding of G-d, and it's not "hate" that he forbids men from wearing women's garments (or vice versa) but a protection from danger.
3) Becoming a father. Seeing my wife in action showed I'm not a woman, because I cannot do what she can. But no less, because I can do things that she cannot.
And I'll add:
4) Understanding autogynphelia. Framing my confusion as a fetish rather than an actual bedrock identity reduced its power over me. You can enjoy a fetish, if that's all it is. And that's better than denying it and having it control you.
Do you have a blog or website? Mine is transwidows.com where you can send me an email. I would like to have a conversation with you. I Tweet @STranswidows and if you are on Twitter we can DM. I have many questions and you seem open to exchange, which I really value. Thank you.
Answer was staring me in the face. I sent you a message via your website.
Okay, I opened an old Twitter account, followed, and tried to DM you. I got the message "STranswidows cannot be messaged." Do you have another method of contact?
I... don't. Not really. I keep trying to set up a blog related to one of my hobbies, but I can't quite get the knack for it.
But I would be glad to have contact with you. Perhaps I can make a twitter account for that purpose.
I don't know if you're the same trans widow website; I think I saw more than one But there is one... I think her story was a bit different, but she had a blog with a similar name. She had a dreadful break-up with her ex, and he seemed to go off the deep end. Her blog was very powerful and hard hitting. When my own inner confusion struck me hard, I would read her blog and the crazy things her ex did to her, to remind myself of what was important and how much damage I would do to the people I care about if I let myself be overtaken by the urges.
I'll take a look into Twitter and see if I can figure it out.
Beautifully said. Thank you for your sensitivity to gender dysphoric young males, who, as you state, are generally very sensitive and have endured much bullying. Transition is a coping mechanism for their traumas.
This essay, "The Emperor's New Body" is brilliant and will help others wake up. But we shouldn't forget the gentle, sensitive boys who are currently struggling. I hope you may use your writing talents to expound further what you have so eloquently stated in your comment.