I wonder if it might be better to just go along with these fictions. They are not actually hurting anyone. I know trans couples who are truly happy. I don’t believe that people who take hormones or have surgery have actually
changed hair biological sex, but I see no reason to criticize them for their lifestyle once they are adults. If I had a young child who started to have these issues, that would be a different story. I have written an article on this if anyone is interested: “Humans Live In A Fantasy World.”
As for your religious beliefs, I truly sympathize there. I am Jewish and am deeply committed to my faith. It’s so difficult when a child rejects your deeply held beliefs. I know you are worried about your daughter’s soul. I can’t say what will happen to her, but can I offer the suggestion that God may be more forgiving than you think. I don’t think a loving, compassionate God who would send His son to earth for our sins would actually condemn someone to hell for eternity.
If I am remembering correctly (I studied the New Testament in University), there is nothing that explicitly says people with unconventional gender expressions are damned.
As a survivor of early childhood s*xual trafficking, I am shocked & appalled at what is being termed "abuse" while actual molestation & mutilation are celebrated. For many years now I have noted that young girls are simply indoctrinated with a similar level of trauma around males as myself, only without ever having been abused by any. The trauma itself is no less real than my own, & ultimately will require the same treatment, which is to FACE REALITY, no matter how painful. For me, that meant developing an adult understanding of how my body was violated. But for a lot of today's young women, it's going to be more along the lines of facing their OWN roles in victimizing THEMSELVES. Even as a survivor of early childhood s*x trafficking & witness to my own mother's murder at the hands of those traffickers who received no adult acknowledgement let alone treatment for more than a decade after, I pity these people for the hard road ahead.
Seven long years you have clung to hope. You told a very sad story that is not foreign to this sub stack. Estrangement. Blame. Rejection. It is heartbreaking what parents are being forced to endure while their children live this evil-cult lie. The groomers will have a difficult time standing before God one day, as I believe He will not show any mercy. While we still have our voices, we must continue to speak the truth and fight this ideology. We cannot give up this fight or the evil monsters will win. All children need us to cling to each other as one voice and as one mighty force because we know the truth: a boy cannot become a girl and a girl cannot become a boy. Ever.
This is very sad. I do feel the "micro manage" and "helicopter parent" labels were meant to have parents back off. I do feel this was part of the plan to make those words and put parents in a bad light. I never cared what they called me. I was going to parent and talk, talk ,talk about what is out there and teach them how to detect the indoctrination, fraud and lies. My niece was captured at college. I think it is great to support and let them become who they are WHILE instilling truths that are not always easy to say. I do micromanage, I pulled my son when his teacher told him the girl next to him in the 7th grade BOYS locker room was a girl. and that if he and his friends came to her uncomfortable again they would be suspended. I did helicopter over him and choose what parents were not paying attention while they were in elementary school & gravitated the one's that had more rules and didn't give their young children smart phones with no restrictions. My boys play video games in my living room. They have no computer, tv or phones in their rooms. They are teens now. But I can tell you they don't complain, and they can detect indoctrination a mile away, better than I can at this point. So the helicopter micromanaging mom may not be so bad afterall.
You took the words right out of my heart. I thank you. I am printing off your submission to refer to when I feel alone, defeated, and distressed over our daughter going no-contact with me last July. Only me. I am just so grateful to have found in your writing an echo of my own experience, heartache, and feelings. I surrender her daily and hope for better days. God be with you and your husband and family, always and all ways.
Thank you— your compassion is so appreciated ❤️. That is one of the hardest things isnt it? realizing we can’t save our children. I abandoned prayer ages ago, but this situation has brought me back. I hope and pray for all our sons and daughters to see the light.
Yes, absolutely, it's the same story. I'm not American, not Christian but I love your powerful words which are exactly what I'd like to say to my son if he had not cruelly estranged himself from me.
"You did not even say “thank you” when we finished paying off your debts (which we did not agree to bear on your behalf indefinitely when we co-signed for your loans.)"
When you co-sign on a loan you are, in fact, agreeing to bear the full amount of the agreed upon sum in the event that the other person flakes out.
That is my only major criticism of this entire letter.
Thanks Sue— such a long time our son has been out of our lives, I believe he has probably had some surgery and I feel I don’t know where to start. But I will take heart and inspiration from your words ❤️.
I’m Jewish, but I’m noticing an overall vilification of Christianity, not just in trans spaces, but overall in the culture, and not just in the USA. I find this to be very cynical and frightening turn of events bc say what you will, but Christianity in all its forms is the basis for western morality. Where will we wind up without it?
It is stunning as to how all of our stories have many of the same earmarks. My daughter is not trans but she says she is now pansexual and lives with a cross dressing male. She was also becoming more and more distant which finally led to her cutting communication all together (2 years now). She is also into anime and furry fandom., and as a young girl she loved theater. We were very close and had a strong bond.
Now, she is like a different person all together. It is like she has been hijacked and taught to hate by some unknown force. As a Christian I am convinced there must be some demonic oppression or possession involved. As parents we must continue to pray against this evil and refuse to give any permission or rights to these hijackers of our children.
“For to me, to live is Christ, and to die us gain.” Philippians 1:21
It is a very painful loss, but it is an even greater loss for He who made them, for He loves our children even more than we do. ❤️ Thank you for the translation, and the encouragement. Let’s help each other stay strong! 🤜🤛
I agree there is a demonic aspect to this. Much of what the cult demands is counter to what the Christian faith teaches. In particular, Honor thy Father and Mother is completely trashed, and the opposite is taught: Defer to the child no matter how evil his lifestyle.
I find it quite telling that in all of these cases, it seems the only thing that isn't rejected by these lil' darlings is the money in their parent's outstretched hand. They will take that, and THEN bite the hand.... after spitting on it for good measure.
I wonder if it might be better to just go along with these fictions. They are not actually hurting anyone. I know trans couples who are truly happy. I don’t believe that people who take hormones or have surgery have actually
changed hair biological sex, but I see no reason to criticize them for their lifestyle once they are adults. If I had a young child who started to have these issues, that would be a different story. I have written an article on this if anyone is interested: “Humans Live In A Fantasy World.”
As for your religious beliefs, I truly sympathize there. I am Jewish and am deeply committed to my faith. It’s so difficult when a child rejects your deeply held beliefs. I know you are worried about your daughter’s soul. I can’t say what will happen to her, but can I offer the suggestion that God may be more forgiving than you think. I don’t think a loving, compassionate God who would send His son to earth for our sins would actually condemn someone to hell for eternity.
If I am remembering correctly (I studied the New Testament in University), there is nothing that explicitly says people with unconventional gender expressions are damned.
I hope this helps.
Heart wrenching.
As a survivor of early childhood s*xual trafficking, I am shocked & appalled at what is being termed "abuse" while actual molestation & mutilation are celebrated. For many years now I have noted that young girls are simply indoctrinated with a similar level of trauma around males as myself, only without ever having been abused by any. The trauma itself is no less real than my own, & ultimately will require the same treatment, which is to FACE REALITY, no matter how painful. For me, that meant developing an adult understanding of how my body was violated. But for a lot of today's young women, it's going to be more along the lines of facing their OWN roles in victimizing THEMSELVES. Even as a survivor of early childhood s*x trafficking & witness to my own mother's murder at the hands of those traffickers who received no adult acknowledgement let alone treatment for more than a decade after, I pity these people for the hard road ahead.
Seven long years you have clung to hope. You told a very sad story that is not foreign to this sub stack. Estrangement. Blame. Rejection. It is heartbreaking what parents are being forced to endure while their children live this evil-cult lie. The groomers will have a difficult time standing before God one day, as I believe He will not show any mercy. While we still have our voices, we must continue to speak the truth and fight this ideology. We cannot give up this fight or the evil monsters will win. All children need us to cling to each other as one voice and as one mighty force because we know the truth: a boy cannot become a girl and a girl cannot become a boy. Ever.
This is very sad. I do feel the "micro manage" and "helicopter parent" labels were meant to have parents back off. I do feel this was part of the plan to make those words and put parents in a bad light. I never cared what they called me. I was going to parent and talk, talk ,talk about what is out there and teach them how to detect the indoctrination, fraud and lies. My niece was captured at college. I think it is great to support and let them become who they are WHILE instilling truths that are not always easy to say. I do micromanage, I pulled my son when his teacher told him the girl next to him in the 7th grade BOYS locker room was a girl. and that if he and his friends came to her uncomfortable again they would be suspended. I did helicopter over him and choose what parents were not paying attention while they were in elementary school & gravitated the one's that had more rules and didn't give their young children smart phones with no restrictions. My boys play video games in my living room. They have no computer, tv or phones in their rooms. They are teens now. But I can tell you they don't complain, and they can detect indoctrination a mile away, better than I can at this point. So the helicopter micromanaging mom may not be so bad afterall.
You took the words right out of my heart. I thank you. I am printing off your submission to refer to when I feel alone, defeated, and distressed over our daughter going no-contact with me last July. Only me. I am just so grateful to have found in your writing an echo of my own experience, heartache, and feelings. I surrender her daily and hope for better days. God be with you and your husband and family, always and all ways.
Thank you— your compassion is so appreciated ❤️. That is one of the hardest things isnt it? realizing we can’t save our children. I abandoned prayer ages ago, but this situation has brought me back. I hope and pray for all our sons and daughters to see the light.
Yes, absolutely, it's the same story. I'm not American, not Christian but I love your powerful words which are exactly what I'd like to say to my son if he had not cruelly estranged himself from me.
"You did not even say “thank you” when we finished paying off your debts (which we did not agree to bear on your behalf indefinitely when we co-signed for your loans.)"
When you co-sign on a loan you are, in fact, agreeing to bear the full amount of the agreed upon sum in the event that the other person flakes out.
That is my only major criticism of this entire letter.
Thanks Sue— such a long time our son has been out of our lives, I believe he has probably had some surgery and I feel I don’t know where to start. But I will take heart and inspiration from your words ❤️.
I’m Jewish, but I’m noticing an overall vilification of Christianity, not just in trans spaces, but overall in the culture, and not just in the USA. I find this to be very cynical and frightening turn of events bc say what you will, but Christianity in all its forms is the basis for western morality. Where will we wind up without it?
It is stunning as to how all of our stories have many of the same earmarks. My daughter is not trans but she says she is now pansexual and lives with a cross dressing male. She was also becoming more and more distant which finally led to her cutting communication all together (2 years now). She is also into anime and furry fandom., and as a young girl she loved theater. We were very close and had a strong bond.
Now, she is like a different person all together. It is like she has been hijacked and taught to hate by some unknown force. As a Christian I am convinced there must be some demonic oppression or possession involved. As parents we must continue to pray against this evil and refuse to give any permission or rights to these hijackers of our children.
“For to me, to live is Christ, and to die us gain.” Philippians 1:21
It is a very painful loss, but it is an even greater loss for He who made them, for He loves our children even more than we do. ❤️ Thank you for the translation, and the encouragement. Let’s help each other stay strong! 🤜🤛
I wish I had the courage to say your words to my long-estranged son-turned-transwoman. They shine with the brightness of truth.
Much respect mother.
I agree there is a demonic aspect to this. Much of what the cult demands is counter to what the Christian faith teaches. In particular, Honor thy Father and Mother is completely trashed, and the opposite is taught: Defer to the child no matter how evil his lifestyle.
I find it quite telling that in all of these cases, it seems the only thing that isn't rejected by these lil' darlings is the money in their parent's outstretched hand. They will take that, and THEN bite the hand.... after spitting on it for good measure.