I wonder if it might be better to just go along with these fictions. They are not actually hurting anyone. I know trans couples who are truly happy. I don’t believe that people who take hormones or have surgery have actually
changed hair biological sex, but I see no reason to criticize them for their lifestyle once they are adults. If I had a young child who started to have these issues, that would be a different story. I have written an article on this if anyone is interested: “Humans Live In A Fantasy World.”
As for your religious beliefs, I truly sympathize there. I am Jewish and am deeply committed to my faith. It’s so difficult when a child rejects your deeply held beliefs. I know you are worried about your daughter’s soul. I can’t say what will happen to her, but can I offer the suggestion that God may be more forgiving than you think. I don’t think a loving, compassionate God who would send His son to earth for our sins would actually condemn someone to hell for eternity.
If I am remembering correctly (I studied the New Testament in University), there is nothing that explicitly says people with unconventional gender expressions are damned.
I disagree that gender identity disorder is not harmful for adults, for many, many reasons, but just to name a few: it hurts the person who takes the wrong sex hormones and mutilates themselves, (often to the point of sterilization;) it hurts the people who love them and can’t bear to watch them harm themselves; and it encroaches upon women’s rights and legal protections for little girls and victims of sexual assault.
The Bible says the sexually immoral, fornicators, and adulterers WILL NOT enter Heaven. Wrong sex identification is a mockery of God’s creation. Mankind was made in the image of a Triune, Holy God, and he created us as male and female, not as a spectrum of sexual possibilities. The movement has even adopted the image of a fallen angel with mastectomy scars and the tagline “made in his image,” referring to the fallen angel, not God. It is literal demon worship.
That is not to say that God is not able to forgive this heresy, but one must repent before they can accept the free gift of salvation. To repent means to turn away from sin. Sin is an archery term that means to miss the mark, make an error, or to fall short of the target. Gender ideology is the ultimate error of arrogance, thumbing its nose at both truth and reality. It presupposes that God makes mistakes, that children can be born into the wrong bodies. If God can make mistakes, He is no longer God, merely a construct of human whim.
I hate to be disagreeable, but there is no middle ground for me here. I respect that most won’t see it through this perspective, but I honestly believe I will have to give an account to God for my life, and I will not be complicit with this insanity by pretending it’s not the monstrosity that it is.
I hear you. Trans people are living in a fantasy world that you don’t have to validate. But, as adults, they have the right to alter their bodies. As individuals, they have the right to damn themselves if it turns out that God wants to condemn them to hell.
Whether trans women ought to be allowed into female spaces is a completely separate issue.
I personally think they should not be allowed in women’s prisons.
You can also prevent your children from attending drag story time if you think that’s bad for them, which a lot of parents do.
If you are at all interested, I have written an article on this. It’s called “Humans Live In A Fantasy World.” Cheers.
I disagree that they are living in a fantasy world, they are in fact delusional, and potentially demon possessed and/or oppressed. We all have fantasies, but we aren’t deluded into believing they are reality, nor do we force others to play along. We are adults who live in the real world. That’s the difference. They are so deluded, they insist that everyone else must believe in their delusions, too.
While adults have the right to alter their own bodies, they don’t have the right to make the rest of us pay for it, nor to force medical persons to disregard their education and training and intentionally inflict harm on their patients. You’re giving them rights that infringe upon the rights of the rest of us and softening the effect with language like that. It’s not a fantasy, it’s mass psychosis, and I will not concede to mass hysteria.
I believe that living in a fantasy world and being delusional are synonymous. And society should definitely not have to pay for unnecessary surgeries or hormone treatments. Otherwise, think we will have to agree to disagree on this issue.But I applaud you for continuing to fight for your rights. You deserve so much better than what your daughter is putting you through.
I suppose the difference I see is that most people with fantasies recognize that they are not real. I don’t believe that is the case with gender disorders. They actually believe they can become (or are) the opposite sex. It’s not a fantasy to them, it’s their distorted version of reality. I have fantasies about winning the lottery and traveling the world to feed hungry children, but I don’t live like a millionaire and expect others to accommodate my fantasy. However, they with threaten to “unalive” you if you don’t agree that their delusions are real. That’s not a fantasy, that’s profound mental illness.
Living in a fantasy world is not the same as having fantasies. But nevertheless, I quite agree with you here. Some trans women are dangerous and violent. Because they are actually men. Some transmen are also aggressive. There are correlations between narcissism, autism, and other mental illnesses with trans issues. They should, for the most part, be treated for mental illness rather than for gender identity issues IMHO.
As a survivor of early childhood s*xual trafficking, I am shocked & appalled at what is being termed "abuse" while actual molestation & mutilation are celebrated. For many years now I have noted that young girls are simply indoctrinated with a similar level of trauma around males as myself, only without ever having been abused by any. The trauma itself is no less real than my own, & ultimately will require the same treatment, which is to FACE REALITY, no matter how painful. For me, that meant developing an adult understanding of how my body was violated. But for a lot of today's young women, it's going to be more along the lines of facing their OWN roles in victimizing THEMSELVES. Even as a survivor of early childhood s*x trafficking & witness to my own mother's murder at the hands of those traffickers who received no adult acknowledgement let alone treatment for more than a decade after, I pity these people for the hard road ahead.
I have empathy for their plight as well, and pity for the parents who chose to “affirm and celebrate” what can only be called medicalized child abuse. Someday they will face God and realize what they’ve done.
You have been through so much, and yet you seem to be able to separate yourself from what was done to you, with understanding that it does not define who you are. I can only assume you have done a great deal of introspection and healing to reach such a level of empathy and understanding. That takes courage and fortitude, and I just wanted to commend you for facing your own demons, and not avoiding the responsibility of your own well-being. It’s easy for most to slip into victimhood and stay there, but you’re an actual Phoenix! 🐦🔥
Seven long years you have clung to hope. You told a very sad story that is not foreign to this sub stack. Estrangement. Blame. Rejection. It is heartbreaking what parents are being forced to endure while their children live this evil-cult lie. The groomers will have a difficult time standing before God one day, as I believe He will not show any mercy. While we still have our voices, we must continue to speak the truth and fight this ideology. We cannot give up this fight or the evil monsters will win. All children need us to cling to each other as one voice and as one mighty force because we know the truth: a boy cannot become a girl and a girl cannot become a boy. Ever.
This is very sad. I do feel the "micro manage" and "helicopter parent" labels were meant to have parents back off. I do feel this was part of the plan to make those words and put parents in a bad light. I never cared what they called me. I was going to parent and talk, talk ,talk about what is out there and teach them how to detect the indoctrination, fraud and lies. My niece was captured at college. I think it is great to support and let them become who they are WHILE instilling truths that are not always easy to say. I do micromanage, I pulled my son when his teacher told him the girl next to him in the 7th grade BOYS locker room was a girl. and that if he and his friends came to her uncomfortable again they would be suspended. I did helicopter over him and choose what parents were not paying attention while they were in elementary school & gravitated the one's that had more rules and didn't give their young children smart phones with no restrictions. My boys play video games in my living room. They have no computer, tv or phones in their rooms. They are teens now. But I can tell you they don't complain, and they can detect indoctrination a mile away, better than I can at this point. So the helicopter micromanaging mom may not be so bad afterall.
You took the words right out of my heart. I thank you. I am printing off your submission to refer to when I feel alone, defeated, and distressed over our daughter going no-contact with me last July. Only me. I am just so grateful to have found in your writing an echo of my own experience, heartache, and feelings. I surrender her daily and hope for better days. God be with you and your husband and family, always and all ways.
Thank you— your compassion is so appreciated ❤️. That is one of the hardest things isnt it? realizing we can’t save our children. I abandoned prayer ages ago, but this situation has brought me back. I hope and pray for all our sons and daughters to see the light.
Yes, absolutely, it's the same story. I'm not American, not Christian but I love your powerful words which are exactly what I'd like to say to my son if he had not cruelly estranged himself from me.
"You did not even say “thank you” when we finished paying off your debts (which we did not agree to bear on your behalf indefinitely when we co-signed for your loans.)"
When you co-sign on a loan you are, in fact, agreeing to bear the full amount of the agreed upon sum in the event that the other person flakes out.
That is my only major criticism of this entire letter.
Generally speaking, yes, but that was not the agreement we made when we co-signed for her. I elaborated on your repost, but we did honor what we signed, we did pay it. But it wasn’t what we agreed to, and she knew it. She forced us to finance a lifestyle we do not agree with. And I’ll admit I’m a little bit angry about that.
I was definitely speaking generally on the subject. You should be angry with her for not honoring the agreement, heck, I'm angry with her. Ungrateful people really piss me off.
I don't think co-signing on loans should be legal for any reason, especially for college tuition. Co-signing is usually practiced between family members and it always leads to damaged relationships when someone can't or won't pay.
Any loans for tuition should only be issued by the educational institution that is setting the price for tuition and only to the student receiving the education. That would drop tuition price, eliminate most useless degrees, and end most of the garbage that is happening on college campuses now. Professors would not be interested in waisting time on their student's gender discovery journeys if it might have a negative impact on their paycheck.
I like your ideas! Loans and their actual repayment costs should be required to be explained on an actuary graph that is signed by every student as well. Even as mature adults, we had no idea that each $10k dorm loan = $25k in actual repayment costs. You think you understand math, but that was a wake up call! It’s why we paid off as much as we could as fast as we could. We didn’t want her to be burdened with debt for the rest of her life. We lost everything once, bankrupt, house, everything but the car and the clothes on our backs. Now I realize that hardship gave us strength and character,and we probably sheltered our children from it too much. Everyone needs a little hardship once in a while.
Thanks Sue— such a long time our son has been out of our lives, I believe he has probably had some surgery and I feel I don’t know where to start. But I will take heart and inspiration from your words ❤️.
I can imagine how deep that wound is. My heart sends you love. ❤️ Some things are truly out of our hands. That is why my husband and I have adopted “Shikata ga nai” as our mantra. We can’t protect them from themselves.
When they were small, we could scare away the monsters under their beds, keep them out of the street, and scope out the bad people at the park. But we can’t protect them from making their own mistakes. Lord knows I made plenty, in my youth especially! I tried to teach them well, and to protect the, but they are in the Father’s hands, always, and He loves them more than we know. I put my trust in Him.
I’m Jewish, but I’m noticing an overall vilification of Christianity, not just in trans spaces, but overall in the culture, and not just in the USA. I find this to be very cynical and frightening turn of events bc say what you will, but Christianity in all its forms is the basis for western morality. Where will we wind up without it?
Extremism grabs attention. And headlines. Most people are much closer to the middle. Lukewarm, even. I prefer absolute truths over extremes. I find that truth in God.
God set the example for us in that He has a set, written standard of law, of how the universe works, how we should live, an “extreme” if you will, but He has also granted us all free will and sovereignty. We are protected within the covenant that He gave us in Christ, and though it seems restrictive from a carnal perspective, it’s actually freedom from bondage to the flesh and the wages of our err. (Sin is an archery term, it literally means “to miss the mark.”) We suffer both natural and eternal consequences when we exercise our free will outside of His grace.
Not to keep using children’s stories as metaphors, but it’s like Pleasure Island in Pinocchio. We can feed our carnal natures for a season, but there are natural consequences woven into the fabric of reality, by divine creation, by an intelligent, eternal God. And it’s not as though He doesn’t warn us of these consequences, but the lure of the carnival lights is just too strong for some. Some visit and indulge and realize our mistake, we repent, we turn away from it and beg for mercy, forgiveness. And God is long suffering, much more so than I! He desires all to be saved from the consequences of our mistakes. He even made a way, paid for it, so as not to rumple the fabric of reality and the divine laws that must be honored. He doesn’t want us to die in our sin, nor to live in it. He wants us to have life, and that more abundantly! He created this beautiful-everything that we know, and more that we don’t, for our pleasure! Because of that great Love. But we become infatuated with a temporal perversion of what is truly meant for us.
I dream in archetypes, and I think of our daughter as Sleeping Beauty. She went to college where gender ideology was a bright, shiny object. I don’t think she understood what she was touching. We didn’t understand it for a long time, either. But I intuited it immediately, and resisted.
I could’ve been okay with a new name, androgynous fashion, make up, weird hair, that sort of self expression. I was a weird kid, too. Goth in the 80’s. But I would not be compelled to use intentionally misleading speech (lies) in my own home, and I did express very grave concerns about using wrong sex hormones and surgical castration (of her boyfriend.) I am still in shock that his mother immediately cut me off for not renouncing my God and picking up a trans-flag to wave proudly on social media, as she did. I pray for her, for someday she, too, will face God. She’s hardened her own heart to truth and sacrificed her own son on the alter of a false religion.
Right now, our daughter is under a spell. All we can do is pray for her to WAKE UP. I wish I could add “before irreversible harm has been done,” but after seven years, a lot of irreversible harm has been done. To her. To him. To us all.
Christianity is patriarchal at its core. God identifies himself as the Father to humanity and sets clear commandments regarding hierarchy in human relationships.
Saying that a "patriarchal brand" of Christianity is extreme would be like saying a "meditative brand" of Buddhism is extreme.
The same can be said of your idea that evangelism is an extreme activity for a Christian. It would be like saying promoting pacifism is is an extreme activity for a Buddhist. You could argue that either evangelism or pacifism are extreme on their own merits or demerits, but arguing that either is extreme in their respective faiths is laughable when they are both core tenants of their respective faiths.
Any person who calls themselves a Christian but denies God's proper order and/or refuses to seek to share God's word with unbelievers is not really a Christian.
It is stunning as to how all of our stories have many of the same earmarks. My daughter is not trans but she says she is now pansexual and lives with a cross dressing male. She was also becoming more and more distant which finally led to her cutting communication all together (2 years now). She is also into anime and furry fandom., and as a young girl she loved theater. We were very close and had a strong bond.
Now, she is like a different person all together. It is like she has been hijacked and taught to hate by some unknown force. As a Christian I am convinced there must be some demonic oppression or possession involved. As parents we must continue to pray against this evil and refuse to give any permission or rights to these hijackers of our children.
I am in agreement, as much as I wish it weren’t so. The enemy’s desire is to steal, kill, and destroy what is precious to the Lord, and when he selects someone, I’m sure he does so strategically in order to do as much damage to as many of God’s children as possible. He didn’t merely steal our daughter, he destroyed our hopes and dreams for the future, filled our lives with grief and sorrow, and successfully silenced two of God’s faithful children for seven years. But the Lord put a burning coal in my throat so I must speak, even if I spit fire.
“Get behind me Satan, I’m not afraid of you!” I rebuke the demons that clutch at our precious children in Jesus’ name!
“For to me, to live is Christ, and to die us gain.” Philippians 1:21
It is a very painful loss, but it is an even greater loss for He who made them, for He loves our children even more than we do. ❤️ Thank you for the translation, and the encouragement. Let’s help each other stay strong! 🤜🤛
I agree there is a demonic aspect to this. Much of what the cult demands is counter to what the Christian faith teaches. In particular, Honor thy Father and Mother is completely trashed, and the opposite is taught: Defer to the child no matter how evil his lifestyle.
I find it quite telling that in all of these cases, it seems the only thing that isn't rejected by these lil' darlings is the money in their parent's outstretched hand. They will take that, and THEN bite the hand.... after spitting on it for good measure.
I’ve heard this a lot. In our case, she waiting for six years while we paid off her college debts before going dark. We even had a conversation about what she would get when we die mere weeks before. But if we die tomorrow, she is in for a rude awakening. We plan to give a portion of our estate to a child we sponsor in another country in her place, as she is no longer in our will.
We barely left ours in- 10% only for the sake of the good years we spent together. When you cut someone out entirely, it's customary to notify them, along with your reason why. It's bad enough that she'll inherent a large portion of my mom's estate when she turns 25! Boy, that burns me up- it was meant to help with college and she dropped out after her sophomore year! Plus, she had a full ride with grants & loans- threw it all away for this demonic cult! Grrrrrr....
I wonder if it might be better to just go along with these fictions. They are not actually hurting anyone. I know trans couples who are truly happy. I don’t believe that people who take hormones or have surgery have actually
changed hair biological sex, but I see no reason to criticize them for their lifestyle once they are adults. If I had a young child who started to have these issues, that would be a different story. I have written an article on this if anyone is interested: “Humans Live In A Fantasy World.”
As for your religious beliefs, I truly sympathize there. I am Jewish and am deeply committed to my faith. It’s so difficult when a child rejects your deeply held beliefs. I know you are worried about your daughter’s soul. I can’t say what will happen to her, but can I offer the suggestion that God may be more forgiving than you think. I don’t think a loving, compassionate God who would send His son to earth for our sins would actually condemn someone to hell for eternity.
If I am remembering correctly (I studied the New Testament in University), there is nothing that explicitly says people with unconventional gender expressions are damned.
I hope this helps.
I disagree that gender identity disorder is not harmful for adults, for many, many reasons, but just to name a few: it hurts the person who takes the wrong sex hormones and mutilates themselves, (often to the point of sterilization;) it hurts the people who love them and can’t bear to watch them harm themselves; and it encroaches upon women’s rights and legal protections for little girls and victims of sexual assault.
The Bible says the sexually immoral, fornicators, and adulterers WILL NOT enter Heaven. Wrong sex identification is a mockery of God’s creation. Mankind was made in the image of a Triune, Holy God, and he created us as male and female, not as a spectrum of sexual possibilities. The movement has even adopted the image of a fallen angel with mastectomy scars and the tagline “made in his image,” referring to the fallen angel, not God. It is literal demon worship.
That is not to say that God is not able to forgive this heresy, but one must repent before they can accept the free gift of salvation. To repent means to turn away from sin. Sin is an archery term that means to miss the mark, make an error, or to fall short of the target. Gender ideology is the ultimate error of arrogance, thumbing its nose at both truth and reality. It presupposes that God makes mistakes, that children can be born into the wrong bodies. If God can make mistakes, He is no longer God, merely a construct of human whim.
I hate to be disagreeable, but there is no middle ground for me here. I respect that most won’t see it through this perspective, but I honestly believe I will have to give an account to God for my life, and I will not be complicit with this insanity by pretending it’s not the monstrosity that it is.
I hear you. Trans people are living in a fantasy world that you don’t have to validate. But, as adults, they have the right to alter their bodies. As individuals, they have the right to damn themselves if it turns out that God wants to condemn them to hell.
Whether trans women ought to be allowed into female spaces is a completely separate issue.
I personally think they should not be allowed in women’s prisons.
You can also prevent your children from attending drag story time if you think that’s bad for them, which a lot of parents do.
If you are at all interested, I have written an article on this. It’s called “Humans Live In A Fantasy World.” Cheers.
I disagree that they are living in a fantasy world, they are in fact delusional, and potentially demon possessed and/or oppressed. We all have fantasies, but we aren’t deluded into believing they are reality, nor do we force others to play along. We are adults who live in the real world. That’s the difference. They are so deluded, they insist that everyone else must believe in their delusions, too.
While adults have the right to alter their own bodies, they don’t have the right to make the rest of us pay for it, nor to force medical persons to disregard their education and training and intentionally inflict harm on their patients. You’re giving them rights that infringe upon the rights of the rest of us and softening the effect with language like that. It’s not a fantasy, it’s mass psychosis, and I will not concede to mass hysteria.
I believe that living in a fantasy world and being delusional are synonymous. And society should definitely not have to pay for unnecessary surgeries or hormone treatments. Otherwise, think we will have to agree to disagree on this issue.But I applaud you for continuing to fight for your rights. You deserve so much better than what your daughter is putting you through.
I suppose the difference I see is that most people with fantasies recognize that they are not real. I don’t believe that is the case with gender disorders. They actually believe they can become (or are) the opposite sex. It’s not a fantasy to them, it’s their distorted version of reality. I have fantasies about winning the lottery and traveling the world to feed hungry children, but I don’t live like a millionaire and expect others to accommodate my fantasy. However, they with threaten to “unalive” you if you don’t agree that their delusions are real. That’s not a fantasy, that’s profound mental illness.
Living in a fantasy world is not the same as having fantasies. But nevertheless, I quite agree with you here. Some trans women are dangerous and violent. Because they are actually men. Some transmen are also aggressive. There are correlations between narcissism, autism, and other mental illnesses with trans issues. They should, for the most part, be treated for mental illness rather than for gender identity issues IMHO.
Heart wrenching.
As a survivor of early childhood s*xual trafficking, I am shocked & appalled at what is being termed "abuse" while actual molestation & mutilation are celebrated. For many years now I have noted that young girls are simply indoctrinated with a similar level of trauma around males as myself, only without ever having been abused by any. The trauma itself is no less real than my own, & ultimately will require the same treatment, which is to FACE REALITY, no matter how painful. For me, that meant developing an adult understanding of how my body was violated. But for a lot of today's young women, it's going to be more along the lines of facing their OWN roles in victimizing THEMSELVES. Even as a survivor of early childhood s*x trafficking & witness to my own mother's murder at the hands of those traffickers who received no adult acknowledgement let alone treatment for more than a decade after, I pity these people for the hard road ahead.
I have empathy for their plight as well, and pity for the parents who chose to “affirm and celebrate” what can only be called medicalized child abuse. Someday they will face God and realize what they’ve done.
You have been through so much, and yet you seem to be able to separate yourself from what was done to you, with understanding that it does not define who you are. I can only assume you have done a great deal of introspection and healing to reach such a level of empathy and understanding. That takes courage and fortitude, and I just wanted to commend you for facing your own demons, and not avoiding the responsibility of your own well-being. It’s easy for most to slip into victimhood and stay there, but you’re an actual Phoenix! 🐦🔥
*...traffickers, & who received...*
Seven long years you have clung to hope. You told a very sad story that is not foreign to this sub stack. Estrangement. Blame. Rejection. It is heartbreaking what parents are being forced to endure while their children live this evil-cult lie. The groomers will have a difficult time standing before God one day, as I believe He will not show any mercy. While we still have our voices, we must continue to speak the truth and fight this ideology. We cannot give up this fight or the evil monsters will win. All children need us to cling to each other as one voice and as one mighty force because we know the truth: a boy cannot become a girl and a girl cannot become a boy. Ever.
This is very sad. I do feel the "micro manage" and "helicopter parent" labels were meant to have parents back off. I do feel this was part of the plan to make those words and put parents in a bad light. I never cared what they called me. I was going to parent and talk, talk ,talk about what is out there and teach them how to detect the indoctrination, fraud and lies. My niece was captured at college. I think it is great to support and let them become who they are WHILE instilling truths that are not always easy to say. I do micromanage, I pulled my son when his teacher told him the girl next to him in the 7th grade BOYS locker room was a girl. and that if he and his friends came to her uncomfortable again they would be suspended. I did helicopter over him and choose what parents were not paying attention while they were in elementary school & gravitated the one's that had more rules and didn't give their young children smart phones with no restrictions. My boys play video games in my living room. They have no computer, tv or phones in their rooms. They are teens now. But I can tell you they don't complain, and they can detect indoctrination a mile away, better than I can at this point. So the helicopter micromanaging mom may not be so bad afterall.
You took the words right out of my heart. I thank you. I am printing off your submission to refer to when I feel alone, defeated, and distressed over our daughter going no-contact with me last July. Only me. I am just so grateful to have found in your writing an echo of my own experience, heartache, and feelings. I surrender her daily and hope for better days. God be with you and your husband and family, always and all ways.
Thank you— your compassion is so appreciated ❤️. That is one of the hardest things isnt it? realizing we can’t save our children. I abandoned prayer ages ago, but this situation has brought me back. I hope and pray for all our sons and daughters to see the light.
Yes, absolutely, it's the same story. I'm not American, not Christian but I love your powerful words which are exactly what I'd like to say to my son if he had not cruelly estranged himself from me.
"You did not even say “thank you” when we finished paying off your debts (which we did not agree to bear on your behalf indefinitely when we co-signed for your loans.)"
When you co-sign on a loan you are, in fact, agreeing to bear the full amount of the agreed upon sum in the event that the other person flakes out.
That is my only major criticism of this entire letter.
Generally speaking, yes, but that was not the agreement we made when we co-signed for her. I elaborated on your repost, but we did honor what we signed, we did pay it. But it wasn’t what we agreed to, and she knew it. She forced us to finance a lifestyle we do not agree with. And I’ll admit I’m a little bit angry about that.
I was definitely speaking generally on the subject. You should be angry with her for not honoring the agreement, heck, I'm angry with her. Ungrateful people really piss me off.
I don't think co-signing on loans should be legal for any reason, especially for college tuition. Co-signing is usually practiced between family members and it always leads to damaged relationships when someone can't or won't pay.
Any loans for tuition should only be issued by the educational institution that is setting the price for tuition and only to the student receiving the education. That would drop tuition price, eliminate most useless degrees, and end most of the garbage that is happening on college campuses now. Professors would not be interested in waisting time on their student's gender discovery journeys if it might have a negative impact on their paycheck.
I like your ideas! Loans and their actual repayment costs should be required to be explained on an actuary graph that is signed by every student as well. Even as mature adults, we had no idea that each $10k dorm loan = $25k in actual repayment costs. You think you understand math, but that was a wake up call! It’s why we paid off as much as we could as fast as we could. We didn’t want her to be burdened with debt for the rest of her life. We lost everything once, bankrupt, house, everything but the car and the clothes on our backs. Now I realize that hardship gave us strength and character,and we probably sheltered our children from it too much. Everyone needs a little hardship once in a while.
Thanks Sue— such a long time our son has been out of our lives, I believe he has probably had some surgery and I feel I don’t know where to start. But I will take heart and inspiration from your words ❤️.
I can imagine how deep that wound is. My heart sends you love. ❤️ Some things are truly out of our hands. That is why my husband and I have adopted “Shikata ga nai” as our mantra. We can’t protect them from themselves.
When they were small, we could scare away the monsters under their beds, keep them out of the street, and scope out the bad people at the park. But we can’t protect them from making their own mistakes. Lord knows I made plenty, in my youth especially! I tried to teach them well, and to protect the, but they are in the Father’s hands, always, and He loves them more than we know. I put my trust in Him.
I’m Jewish, but I’m noticing an overall vilification of Christianity, not just in trans spaces, but overall in the culture, and not just in the USA. I find this to be very cynical and frightening turn of events bc say what you will, but Christianity in all its forms is the basis for western morality. Where will we wind up without it?
Rome.
Extremism grabs attention. And headlines. Most people are much closer to the middle. Lukewarm, even. I prefer absolute truths over extremes. I find that truth in God.
God set the example for us in that He has a set, written standard of law, of how the universe works, how we should live, an “extreme” if you will, but He has also granted us all free will and sovereignty. We are protected within the covenant that He gave us in Christ, and though it seems restrictive from a carnal perspective, it’s actually freedom from bondage to the flesh and the wages of our err. (Sin is an archery term, it literally means “to miss the mark.”) We suffer both natural and eternal consequences when we exercise our free will outside of His grace.
Not to keep using children’s stories as metaphors, but it’s like Pleasure Island in Pinocchio. We can feed our carnal natures for a season, but there are natural consequences woven into the fabric of reality, by divine creation, by an intelligent, eternal God. And it’s not as though He doesn’t warn us of these consequences, but the lure of the carnival lights is just too strong for some. Some visit and indulge and realize our mistake, we repent, we turn away from it and beg for mercy, forgiveness. And God is long suffering, much more so than I! He desires all to be saved from the consequences of our mistakes. He even made a way, paid for it, so as not to rumple the fabric of reality and the divine laws that must be honored. He doesn’t want us to die in our sin, nor to live in it. He wants us to have life, and that more abundantly! He created this beautiful-everything that we know, and more that we don’t, for our pleasure! Because of that great Love. But we become infatuated with a temporal perversion of what is truly meant for us.
I dream in archetypes, and I think of our daughter as Sleeping Beauty. She went to college where gender ideology was a bright, shiny object. I don’t think she understood what she was touching. We didn’t understand it for a long time, either. But I intuited it immediately, and resisted.
I could’ve been okay with a new name, androgynous fashion, make up, weird hair, that sort of self expression. I was a weird kid, too. Goth in the 80’s. But I would not be compelled to use intentionally misleading speech (lies) in my own home, and I did express very grave concerns about using wrong sex hormones and surgical castration (of her boyfriend.) I am still in shock that his mother immediately cut me off for not renouncing my God and picking up a trans-flag to wave proudly on social media, as she did. I pray for her, for someday she, too, will face God. She’s hardened her own heart to truth and sacrificed her own son on the alter of a false religion.
Right now, our daughter is under a spell. All we can do is pray for her to WAKE UP. I wish I could add “before irreversible harm has been done,” but after seven years, a lot of irreversible harm has been done. To her. To him. To us all.
Christianity is patriarchal at its core. God identifies himself as the Father to humanity and sets clear commandments regarding hierarchy in human relationships.
Saying that a "patriarchal brand" of Christianity is extreme would be like saying a "meditative brand" of Buddhism is extreme.
The same can be said of your idea that evangelism is an extreme activity for a Christian. It would be like saying promoting pacifism is is an extreme activity for a Buddhist. You could argue that either evangelism or pacifism are extreme on their own merits or demerits, but arguing that either is extreme in their respective faiths is laughable when they are both core tenants of their respective faiths.
Any person who calls themselves a Christian but denies God's proper order and/or refuses to seek to share God's word with unbelievers is not really a Christian.
Hello new friend! I like the way you speak! Clear, concise, and articulate!
There is so much confusion in humanity today that would be solved by spending more time observing nature and speaking to its Creator!
It is stunning as to how all of our stories have many of the same earmarks. My daughter is not trans but she says she is now pansexual and lives with a cross dressing male. She was also becoming more and more distant which finally led to her cutting communication all together (2 years now). She is also into anime and furry fandom., and as a young girl she loved theater. We were very close and had a strong bond.
Now, she is like a different person all together. It is like she has been hijacked and taught to hate by some unknown force. As a Christian I am convinced there must be some demonic oppression or possession involved. As parents we must continue to pray against this evil and refuse to give any permission or rights to these hijackers of our children.
I am in agreement, as much as I wish it weren’t so. The enemy’s desire is to steal, kill, and destroy what is precious to the Lord, and when he selects someone, I’m sure he does so strategically in order to do as much damage to as many of God’s children as possible. He didn’t merely steal our daughter, he destroyed our hopes and dreams for the future, filled our lives with grief and sorrow, and successfully silenced two of God’s faithful children for seven years. But the Lord put a burning coal in my throat so I must speak, even if I spit fire.
“Get behind me Satan, I’m not afraid of you!” I rebuke the demons that clutch at our precious children in Jesus’ name!
“For to me, to live is Christ, and to die us gain.” Philippians 1:21
It is a very painful loss, but it is an even greater loss for He who made them, for He loves our children even more than we do. ❤️ Thank you for the translation, and the encouragement. Let’s help each other stay strong! 🤜🤛
I wish I had the courage to say your words to my long-estranged son-turned-transwoman. They shine with the brightness of truth.
If it helps, my courage is on loan from the Lord. 😉 I’m sure He’ll lend you some, too. ❤️
Much respect mother.
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I agree there is a demonic aspect to this. Much of what the cult demands is counter to what the Christian faith teaches. In particular, Honor thy Father and Mother is completely trashed, and the opposite is taught: Defer to the child no matter how evil his lifestyle.
I find it quite telling that in all of these cases, it seems the only thing that isn't rejected by these lil' darlings is the money in their parent's outstretched hand. They will take that, and THEN bite the hand.... after spitting on it for good measure.
I’ve heard this a lot. In our case, she waiting for six years while we paid off her college debts before going dark. We even had a conversation about what she would get when we die mere weeks before. But if we die tomorrow, she is in for a rude awakening. We plan to give a portion of our estate to a child we sponsor in another country in her place, as she is no longer in our will.
We barely left ours in- 10% only for the sake of the good years we spent together. When you cut someone out entirely, it's customary to notify them, along with your reason why. It's bad enough that she'll inherent a large portion of my mom's estate when she turns 25! Boy, that burns me up- it was meant to help with college and she dropped out after her sophomore year! Plus, she had a full ride with grants & loans- threw it all away for this demonic cult! Grrrrrr....
It’s a mighty powerful cult. 🙁
I would let her know, but I would have to violate her boundaries to do so. Hoping things will change so we can change it back.
I'm sorry, but I just chortled at that.