The wall that says You don’t love me, or if you loved me you would… You forget that I was young once, that I understand what the maturing process looks like, for myself and all the friends and family around me. You forget that I have degrees in education and child development.
This wall between my children and myself is constructed by society. They are all on the autistic spectrum. Society blames mothers when children lack “social skills”. I always felt blamed by social workers and other ignorant people. My youngest aged 15 became selectively mute as did her sister at that age. No more talking to me. Her sister had received treatment for anorexia at that age. This child was in the new era of gender fantasy. She cut me off as she fled home to join the trans cult.
Your article deeply touched me, so I thank you. The desire for sincere, open communication with my daughter I fear is far removed from my current reality. My heart breaks.
I can feel your pain and i see my pain in it as well...
All my 28 years of life invested only for children seems to be a waste...
All my pain that took me closer to death and back during labor without epidural and the labor complications are all a mockery now, , nor its of any value today... its all meaningless...
All that pain was endured for the love for my child, the flawless beautiful flower ...as it entered this world...
Never to realise later the same flawless flower, was going to pierce a dagger thru your heart...and rip you apart...
Whom to blame... soxial media. internet and you tube has taken children away from family values and the love ❤️..no control over content...
Anything and every new insane ideology is becoming a norm...
Can people not think dont they have conscience...
Who is dping this greater harm to the children
What's their agenda.. why are they sterilizing all the children ?
Breaking famies....
Whom to blame
Whom to blame...
I might die in this process to save my child.... as i know there's nothing clinically wrong with my child...🙏
yes, it is a slow painful death, yet we have to persevere and model resilience. I find my comfort through friends that understand and behind the scenes activism. I am someone silent to preserve the relationship with my kids, but I don't know how much longer I can do that because the truth eats away at me daily.
Lovely, painful post. This is a cult and so many profit from it in so many different ways. The rest appear indifferent or think they are being "accepting".
Our kids are kids. It's not really their fault. They should be allowed to grow up without all this interference followed by medicalization. The first thing cults do is tear people away from those who love them. It is also what pedophiles do.
What has happened to our society that our government elevates people with obvious personality disorders? Levine and Briton are obvious examples.
"Controversial energy official charged with stealing woman’s luggage at MSP
The MIT grad went viral earlier this year when he announced his new role as the deputy assistant secretary of the Office of Spent Fuel and Waste Disposition in the U.S. Department of Energy. "
He can afford his own women's clothing, and he obviously is not embarrassed to "act out". I assume there is a greater sexual high in appropriating the clothing truly belonging to an actual woman.
We share the pain because we are non affirming?? Do you all use the new name & pronouns? My family seem to think the pain would lessen if I would try & do this, that I have no choice. My son is 25yrs old. But if I do this I will go insane. Hence I will not buy into the lie & as a result I am blocked & vilified. Where do they find the strength to do this, I would never treat my mother like this, I couldn’t bear the loss
I am only 6 months into this madness, however, I generally just avoid pronouns and the new name. It hurts me too much to do so. I tried it a few times but I felt emotionally scarred as though I was taking part in my daughter's destruction.
So sorry for your pain. I hope your son wakes up and comes back to you soon. (To answer your question: I don't use the new name and pronouns with my 17 y.o. daughter. I have no idea what I would do if the situation escalates when she reaches adulthood. )
Governments have lost the ability to earn our respect, as the powers they have overrule any parental rights. Medical professionals are mostly ruled by government and have no authority to act according to conscience. As a child I trusted people in authority. A lot has changed in fifty years.
Too much has changed. Where is respect and conscience and true democracy? And parents can't even raise their children properly or say no to trans. So much destruction of the family unit coupled with the erasure of women! No faith in God or any faith; they've become little gods unto themselves jerking humanity around with no thought of the consequences which are happening. So many are angry all the time; others are burying their heads in the sand, sigh. People like us are trying to get the word out. Organizations here in Australia like the 'Women's Forum' and 'Binary' along with 'Rebel News' are exposing the lies as are many detransitioners like Chloe Cole & others. I'm glad some countries are waking up to this insanity but my birth country, Canada has a long way to go. I am no longer very trusting in government & medical professionals. This is going to be a huge black blot in history, the sooner the better.
Here in New Zealand there is the idea that we must respect each other, meaning we do not judge others whatever they do. Are we supposed to just say nothing? When young people claim to be non binary and use the ungrammatical pronoun “ they” we are expected to make no comment? A generation has grown up being taught that “they” can do whatever they want as they are masters of their own destinies (gods unto themselves).
Apparently if you've a faith you follow or your a parent or family member, Laws have been passed to tie parents hands or else jail & a fine, and if you're Jewish, Muslim or Christian, you're on your way to being dictated as to how you follow your faith. Praying for a trans kid, even if they ask for prayer, is breaking the law! Trans kids aren't allowed to ask for prayer or talk about sexuality with a pastor, therapist, psychologist or anyone; It takes away children & teens choices as well. The trans activist brainwash kids against parents, etc. Soon in Queensland, men will be able to identify as women without having their testicles & penis removed; I begun using the disabled single toilet with my husband; I'm rape survivor many times over; I don't want males in female spaces; I don't want to be erased! And so many parents are brainwashed as well. It's shocking how many are buying into this insanity; biological women in government and medicine; they're turncoats! Most family & others refuse to talk about it, but wait, when it shows up on their doorstep, it's going to be a shock simply because they avoided the issue.
I remember when it was still legal to pray for a child who was going down the trans route. It was OK to hope the child would come to their senses before too much damage was done. The activists have gained some powers since then.
It is absurd that biological men can use women’s toilets, just as it is unsafe for women to think they are safe in men’s toilets just because they identify as male.
My daughter was assaulted after transitioning. She has told me nothing about this except she got compensation through the court. I wonder if being assaulted was just a cost she was willing to accept, just as prostitutes do for money. Was she brainwashed into thinking that she was invincible once she became a “man”? The craziness and injustice of transgenderism angers me deeply.
I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. It angers me too how something as natural a puberty can be made into such a horror that the only way to avoid committing suicide or staying safe is to have a sex change if you're a girl. I shall pray for your daughter as I pray for many in the solitude of my home. Praying for them outside is a crime, oh wow, how far humanity has fallen. And if this Queensland law passes which allows transwomen with or without their kit into womens sacred areas, I won't be going to the mall or anywhere where I might run into this sort of thingo; I'm a rape and abuse survivor as are many life myself.
Living with the wall is excruciating! I long to have deeper conversations with my daughter but, I don't just to keep the peace. I is so sad. Thank your for sharing your writing. Sending light and hope.
There are so many of these walls now. The world has changed and we are struggling to ascend those barriers to have access to our children. What will become of us? Sometimes it is just too difficult for parents to keep going.
Beautifully said. I sincerely hope your child reads this and recognizes you for who you are. I don't know what is going on. These changes come so fast. I just saw Matt Walsh commit to watching a whole season of Anime. We have to surrender to what is new and digest it with appetite. A bridge can be build, even under water. Just think of everything as a metaphor. You are doing fine. Surrender, be curiously polite and yet know why you have your skin on your body. Protect yourself against these weird dogmas and speak of integrity. Integrity of body and soul. Sex may be more on the physical side and gender more on the spiritual, although our true identity is beyond all this. Surrender to the love you feel and the pain you fear. Just be honestly true to what you feel life is all about and without prejudice, share when invited to share. Love when invited to love, but fear not hate, not your own hate and worries, your fear and confusion, but also not theirs. Something valid is in all our unique perspectives. Love.
We all trusted our longstanding institutions because that's what we were taught to do, and because that trust used to be warranted. But while we all were busy just trying to be good parents, our institutions changed. They used to work FOR and WITH us, now they work against us and against our relationships with our kids. I trust nothing and no one except for my husband, and two brothers who are opposed to the damage that is being done. All faith in the media, medicine, education, government, and even religion is gone for me.
Truly. We're living in a dystopia now. It seemed to come out of nowhere, but I guess it was developing for years while we were busy trying to be good parents, as you said.
I'd say it goes back to at least 1990 and the publication of queer theorist Judith Butler's "Gender Trouble".
Then, there was the normalization of Drag Queen Story Hour for children:
"“genderqueer” college professor and drag queen named Harris Kornstein—stage name Lil Miss Hot Mess—who hosted some of the original readings in public libraries and wrote the children’s book The Hips on the Drag Queen Go Swish, Swish, Swish. Kornstein sits on the board of Drag Queen Story Hour, the nonprofit organization that was founded by Michelle Tea in 2015 to promote “family-friendly” drag performances and has since expanded to 40 local chapters that have organized hundreds of performances across the United States."
I think the inclusion of "pronouns" everywhere in schools has been a particularly bad assault on the children and families. Our family was bombed by this at school around 2017.
But still - society at large does not seem to care about it.
I’ve been calling this my hellish nightmare from the beginning, five years of pain and suffering for me and I don’t see a way out. It’s ruining lives. It’s ruining families. It’s ruined governments, it’s run over the medical field. It’s ruined education. It’s ruined the world!!! How do you stop it, HOW?
We need to drive the LGBTQ people back into the closet. They will never be content to live their own lives and leave other people's children alone.
Public displays of sexually deviant behavior need to be prohibited in order to protect children.
Until society abandoned the "love is love" mantra we will continue to see confused children descend into mental illness and wreck their bodies with hormones and irreversible surgeries.
You may not care or agree in any way, but I have to say it anyway. I'm a member of the "LGB" portion of the alphabet group, although it's a group label that was foisted on me. As a 70 year-old lesbian who came out 50 years ago, it has never been my desire, nor has it been the desire of any of the gays and lesbians I have known, to try to influence young people to "become" gay. This can't be done, it's not only a stupid waste of time, but it's also downright evil. I have been an opponent of transgender ideology for most of the 50 years that I've been out, because starting in the 1970s lesbians have been subjected to the aggressive, narcissistic demands of trans-identified men insisting that they were women who were attracted to women, therefore lesbians, and therefore entitled to join our groups and have access to our bodies. I've also seen the lesbian community itself decimated by the pernicious pseudo-scientific misogyny of trans ideology, which plays upon women's self-hate and internalized homophobia.
I am 100% opposed to anything that smacks of the sexual grooming of children in any way. The sexual grooming of children is a horror, and this includes the abominable "drag show story hour" phenomenon. The medicalization of children's bodies and the absurd campaign to create "transsgender children" are evidence of how corrupted the scientific and medical communities have become. I supported Gov. DeSantis' bill to ban discussions of sexuality in the classroom for kindergarten through 3rd grade. My only criticism is that he didn't go far enough. Why stop at 3rd grade? I didn't get the "birds and the bees" lecture until middle school...and then in a sex-segregated class with a female teacher.
I could say much more, but I'll leave it at this: even though you may never be accepting of the humanity and reality of homosexuals, not every LGB person you encounter has been captured by the ridiculous assertions and policies associated with trans ideology. Some of your best friends in this struggle are gender-critical feminists, lesbians and gay men who have been in this fight for decades.
Yes. Some of the countries that are embracing transition the most are those where it's illegal to engage in homosexual acts. There go our privileged kids lining up to live like citizens of countries with repressive governments.
My life's journey is identical to yours Beeswax! You've expressed everything I was going to say here. Thank you! I have never consented to the extension of LGB advocacy and human rights campaign, and I feel there is no such thing as 'the' LGBTIQA 'community'. Lesbian needs and rights are severely neglected in this 'community' and we now see teens struggling with coming to terms with their same sex attraction/sexuality because there are no safe spaces for young lesbians and gays to turn to, no groups specifically for them. The L is just a token. In Australia lesbians born female have been pushed underground the past 20 years since a male judge ruled in a court case brought against us by a TRA and a prominent 'leader' of a transgender organisation, that lesbians could not 'discriminate' against males identifying as lesbians. By law we had to allow them to attend our events, retreats, holiday camps, festivals etc. We were shocked into submission and lost our right to free assembly as lesbians born female. The anti discrimination laws we as feminists fought for, to stop discrimination against women in society, were now used against us, by 'female identifying' males hellbent on accessing lesbian spaces. We went underground and have held private events where only 'vetted' attendants could participate. This has caused a lot of angst, worry, mistrust and even paranoia, and we were all saddened we couldn't promote our events publicly anymore or reach out to young lesbians struggling with their existence in a hostile and sexualised porn fuelled world. And now we have SelfID and 'anti conversion' laws. Australia is at the forefront of this, which is meant to stop conversion of lesbians and gays whilst at the same time encouraging this with the affirmation of trans identity approach which has seen many teens believing to be the opposite sex. Authorities seem to have no understanding of how these laws and trans affirmation only approach, see many teen LGB people, and young lesbians in particular, being transed away with lifelong consequences. I despair at this ignorance of policy makers and human rights advocates. The LGBTIQA+ corporate label is toxic and oppressive, it's a global money making machine that I didn't work a lifetime for. I don't consent and continue to stand up for girls and women's dignity, autonomy, and safety rights and welcome the establishment of LGB Alliances on many continents. Thank you for your vocal advocacy Beeswax! We must win this fight! xx
My god, I had no idea you were dealing with such a horrific situation in Australia. it's devastating. The trans movement really is a men's rights movement. First, convince the lesbians that they're men and should mutilate their bodies because being a woman is so awful, and then flood whatever lesbian spaces remain with male heterosexual transvestite sociopaths.
Self ID is happening here in the States too, and male felons (rapists, pedophiles and murderers) are being housed in women's prisons. The world hates women, I'm convinced.
I've come to the same conclusion sadly. Particularly autonomous self relying women who have no need for a man! Male sex offenders are now housed in the female prisoner estate here too. Inmates are crying out, have started a petition but are unseen. And yet, the very Labor government here in the state of Victoria who legislated SelfID as the first in the world, and anti conversion laws, has just been re-elected for a third term! 98% of residents of this state have no idea of what's going on with 'gender affirmation'. All submissions from women's groups speaking out against these dystopian changes, have been ignored. The worst thing we were told was, by female politicians no less, is: Women are no stakeholders in SelfID laws! If that doesn't show outright misogyny and hatred of women, then what does.... for crying out loud!
What a disaster. It's hard to believe, frankly. The saddest, most frustrating part is knowing so many good people who think they're doing the right thing by supporting "trans rights" in women's spaces, not wanting to see what's right in front of their faces: that they are endangering the lives of women. The absence of curiosity combined with the fear of saying the wrong thing has made people unbelievably stupid.
They know they are endangering the lives of women. They simply don't care. It's all about supporting an ideology that destroys society from the very core of its foundation.
Thanks for the reply. I don't deny the humanity of LGB people. I just don't think they should be allowed to practice, display, or celebrate their sexual deviancy in public, around children. I also completely reject the notion that gay people are "born that way" or "made that way by God". The percentage of people identifying as LGBTQLMNOP has exploded since the behavior has been widely accepted and celebrated in our culture. The same thing can not be said of other cultures around the world where it is not accepted and disproportionately displayed in most media.
The reality is that the basic nature of human beings is to be in a binary male/female relationship with one another. Anything else is simply a mental illness caused by undue behavioral or environmental causes. I don't advocate for mistreatment of people with mental illness but will not accept the normalization of that mental illness. Being gay is 100% based around a sexual activity that can be practiced behind closed doors without having to broadcast it to the world.
You're mostly correct that "the basic nature of human beings is to be in a binary male/female relationship with one another." Since we are a biologically binary species, it would have to be that way. Widespread same-sex attraction would not be a strategy for survival of our species.
However, it's a misconception that homosexuals are not "born that way." We most certainly are. We've always existed and always will, as a relatively tiny percentage of the population, in amounts that may vary within a small range, depending on how free a society is. There may be more sexual exploration out in the open than in the past, but an authentic homosexual orientation is not something you can choose. To be blunt, either you're feeling it, or you ain't. It may appear to you that our numbers have "exploded," but we're just not hiding in the shadows anymore, so you can see us. In the 1970s when I came out, the penalties for being public were serious; e.g., getting fired, losing parental custody, being evicted, getting arrested. So we kept our relationships as private as possible. People often lived with a partner their whole lives without ever telling their families about the nature of the relationship. It was a stressful, depressing, infuriating way to live. We're not going back.
Your other misconception is that "Being gay is 100% based around a sexual activity that can be practiced behind closed doors." I agree that sexual activities should be practiced in private, but sadly, you see us through a dehumanized lens in which we are mentally ill perverts who have no emotional lives. <Sigh.> This prevents you from recognizing that serious gay and lesbian relationships are just as loving and profound as any serious relationship between a man and a woman. It feels a bit weird to me to have to restate the obvious in 2022 in the United States of America, given how long and hard we have fought to be treated as first-class citizens, but some beliefs die hard. C'est la vie.
Anyway, I agree with your desire to protect children from graphic sexual content of all kinds. If I were a parent, I'd home school and keep my kids as far away from social media as possible. The issue of parental rights in education is high on my list of things to fight for and vote for in the future. Best regards.
I think you are conflating gays always existing with gays being born gay. I wouldn't argue that gays have not been a certain percentage of the population throughout history but that doesn't mean it is not a deviance of normalcy to be gay. Just because a phenomenon has been around for a long time does not make it a good thing or something that should be accepted as regular behavior. One could argue that the persecution of homosexuals by the majority of societies throughout history has been around just as long as homosexual behavior. That does not validate mistreatment of homosexuals.
To say that a child is born gay is to pretend that children are sexual creatures which is a falsehood usually propagated by people who are interested in sex with children. To be clear, I'm not leveling that accusation at you.
At the core of gay identity is the sexual attraction and sexual act with another member of the same sex. If you take that out of the equation that person is no longer gay by definition. The same cannot be said about a straight person. A man is still a man, even if he doesn't have sexual feelings towards anyone. Two people of the same sex can still love each other and care deeply about one another without sexual attraction or intercourse being involved. I think it is generally a bad idea to conflate sexual intercourse with love anyway, even between straight couples.
Actual love is a state of service to another person and should not hinge on a sexual act. This is why I reject the "love is love" defense of sexual deviancy, especially when I see more and more Minor Attracted Persons (formerly known as pedophiles) using it to justify their sick urges.
So, if the basic nature of humanity is to be involved only in binary relationships when it comes to sexual activity then I would argue that it is gay people who are denying their own humanity by pursuing their feelings towards members of the same sex. You are free to do so but just because you can doesn't mean you should. It also doesn't mean you should be able to do so free of social consequences, especially if your behavior is harmful to society.
It’s the Transgender activists that are doing this and LGB activists have led the way. Notice how many tv shows have Gay sexuality on PG13 shows now. That didn’t use to be. Disney is now promoting this to younger children. Junior high and high schools promote it with GSA clubs. This younger generation thinks of it as exploration. That’s what they do. That’s what they’re learning. Schools have become breeding grounds for the LGBT+++ Schools should go back to teaching basics and stop pushing this on our young children.
The gay and lesbian community is not a monolith. In fact, it is as diverse as the heterosexual community, to the extent that the word "community" itself means very little. You are correct...there are gays and lesbians who support trans ideology, just as there are heterosexuals who do so, and I oppose all of them. The presence of GSA (Gay Straight Alliances?) in schools is something I believe we could do without, just as I personally believe that matters of sexuality should be addressed at home with ones parents.
But the fact that some people happen to be gay should not be a dirty secret. It's simply a fact, and when kids who happen to be gay are told they are sinful and sick, tremendous harm is done to their psyches. Most of us old-timers went through that, even to the extent that some people remained "in the closet" their entire lives and never had a loving relationship. There is a reasonable middle ground, but again, I believe matters of sexuality should be addressed by parents. If it were up to me, there would be no "clubs" based on sexuality in the schools at all.
For anyone who's interested, I recommend "Flashing Green," a Substack by a gender-critical gay man named Gary Lucia. I also recommend "The Lesbian Post," on Substack, and Gays Against Groomers: https://www.gaysagainstgroomers.com/about
The above person said LGB activists have led the way. That is true. The insistence upon gay marriage, and the insistence upon normalizing same sex relationships has now led to the insistence of normalizing transgenderism.
I totally disagree and feel quite offended by this as a lesbian who has integrated in society quite nicely. I know many lesbians and gays around me both in western Europe and in Australia who were quite happy with signing a legal partnership document in recognition of their relationship. Gay marriage was actually forced upon us here in Aus. via a plebiscite where every Australian had to vote. It was a trick by a right wing politician, Tony Abbott to force this upon Australians because he believed the Australian people would vote against gay marriage. Us lesbians and gays were actually horrified by this. Then the surprise outcome where almost 80% of Australians voted for gay/same sex marriage. You're giving yourself away here by saying 'normalizing same sex relationships' in which I read that you don't see us as equal human beings. And you also put the blame on us and holding us responsible for what is happening today with trans identity ideology. I find that offensive. Put the blame where it belongs and do some more studies on this please.
Don't let your children be exposed to leftist propeganda. Don't let your children be friends with children who's parents are ok with leftist propeganda.
Tell your children NO. It can be a complete sentence if you want it to be.
Lots of conversations about lots of things around the dinner table. Show your care and listening from birth onward. Use news to show the negative consequences of bad choices. And, don’t preach. Listen, talk and pay attention. Don’t give kids an iPhone before they can speak so they will leave you alone because they will leave you alone sooner than you can imagine. Know them, their friends, their teachers. Be involved in their life.
That is good preventative talk. The wall is up now though. We need to talk about knocking it down. Much of what happened happened in secret. When my daughter started this I was a unaware that the world had a new motive, a motive to secretly brainwash children to believe that sex is changeable and based upon a feeling and to further inspire taking harmful drugs and risky surgeries to reverse one’s sex. This happened in school, in the therapist’s office, on the Internet, by school peers, teachers and counselors. It’s permeated all of society. How do we knock it down now? My daughter doesn’t want me in her life now that she’s joined the trans cult because I don’t agree with the self harm of it all. She doesn’t listen to sounds advice. She’s been kidnapped by this atrocious ideology. It’s ruined her. It’s devastating to watch my beautiful daughter destroy her beautiful body and ruin her life.
I can’t imagine the suffering you experience and I hope your persistent love carry’s you through the misery to some point in the future when the wall begins to come down. I hope this is a craze and dies out sooner rather than later. Best wishes.
Trans ideology was only able to take over because feminists disparaged anything feminine, including being a wife or a mother. We have been on this path for 60 years. First the sexual revolution normalized random sex. Then divorce and single parenthood was normalized. Then same sex marriage.
The only way out is a Christian revival across Western society.
Meanwhile, parents should homeschool if they can. If not, vote for conservative school board members, and report gender ideology and critical race theory as these things are often illegal. Fight to close transgender clinics. Sue the people who brainwashed your daughter behind your back, particularly the SCHOOL.
I am so moved by this piece of writing. Thank you, dear loving parent.
It fuels my continuing desire to talk with people, listen, create discussion, share information, and all the things we are hoping will change the course of events.
Your love is the most important force, even if it may seem presently to not be enough.
The same wall that has grown between son and myself. The same feeling of desperation praying that this wall will crumble down and somehow we can smile, laugh and create memories once again.
This wall between my children and myself is constructed by society. They are all on the autistic spectrum. Society blames mothers when children lack “social skills”. I always felt blamed by social workers and other ignorant people. My youngest aged 15 became selectively mute as did her sister at that age. No more talking to me. Her sister had received treatment for anorexia at that age. This child was in the new era of gender fantasy. She cut me off as she fled home to join the trans cult.
Your article deeply touched me, so I thank you. The desire for sincere, open communication with my daughter I fear is far removed from my current reality. My heart breaks.
I can feel your pain and i see my pain in it as well...
All my 28 years of life invested only for children seems to be a waste...
All my pain that took me closer to death and back during labor without epidural and the labor complications are all a mockery now, , nor its of any value today... its all meaningless...
All that pain was endured for the love for my child, the flawless beautiful flower ...as it entered this world...
Never to realise later the same flawless flower, was going to pierce a dagger thru your heart...and rip you apart...
Whom to blame... soxial media. internet and you tube has taken children away from family values and the love ❤️..no control over content...
Anything and every new insane ideology is becoming a norm...
Can people not think dont they have conscience...
Who is dping this greater harm to the children
What's their agenda.. why are they sterilizing all the children ?
Breaking famies....
Whom to blame
Whom to blame...
I might die in this process to save my child.... as i know there's nothing clinically wrong with my child...🙏
yes, it is a slow painful death, yet we have to persevere and model resilience. I find my comfort through friends that understand and behind the scenes activism. I am someone silent to preserve the relationship with my kids, but I don't know how much longer I can do that because the truth eats away at me daily.
It’s such a conundrum. I do the same with my kids, either don’t mention it, or pretend everything will be ok.
it's a rock and a hard place.
The pain is severe. Don’t let it destroy you. Look after yourself, accept help from good people around you
Lovely, painful post. This is a cult and so many profit from it in so many different ways. The rest appear indifferent or think they are being "accepting".
Organizations like Columbia University have a vested interest in inserting gender ideology into classrooms, as they make a lot of money on transgender procedures. Check my article for more details and call them out! https://open.substack.com/pub/justingaffneysamuels/p/columbia-doctors-must-stop-mutiliating?r=6512g&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
"The Real Story Behind Drag Queen Story Hour
Aimed at children, the phenomenon is far more subversive than its defenders claim."
https://www.city-journal.org/the-real-story-behind-drag-queen-story-hour?wallit_nosession=1
Wow.
Our kids are kids. It's not really their fault. They should be allowed to grow up without all this interference followed by medicalization. The first thing cults do is tear people away from those who love them. It is also what pedophiles do.
What has happened to our society that our government elevates people with obvious personality disorders? Levine and Briton are obvious examples.
"Controversial energy official charged with stealing woman’s luggage at MSP
The MIT grad went viral earlier this year when he announced his new role as the deputy assistant secretary of the Office of Spent Fuel and Waste Disposition in the U.S. Department of Energy. "
https://alphanews.org/controversial-energy-official-charged-with-stealing-womans-luggage-at-msp/
He can afford his own women's clothing, and he obviously is not embarrassed to "act out". I assume there is a greater sexual high in appropriating the clothing truly belonging to an actual woman.
We share the pain because we are non affirming?? Do you all use the new name & pronouns? My family seem to think the pain would lessen if I would try & do this, that I have no choice. My son is 25yrs old. But if I do this I will go insane. Hence I will not buy into the lie & as a result I am blocked & vilified. Where do they find the strength to do this, I would never treat my mother like this, I couldn’t bear the loss
I am only 6 months into this madness, however, I generally just avoid pronouns and the new name. It hurts me too much to do so. I tried it a few times but I felt emotionally scarred as though I was taking part in my daughter's destruction.
I feel the same. Feeding the delusion…
So sorry for your pain. I hope your son wakes up and comes back to you soon. (To answer your question: I don't use the new name and pronouns with my 17 y.o. daughter. I have no idea what I would do if the situation escalates when she reaches adulthood. )
Thank you & I hope for you & your daughter that the truth of this ideology has been exposed by then & the trend has passed
They are programmed to do this. Programming people into anti-family rhetoric has been going on for at least 60 years.
Brilliant article! The walls are evil with not a shred of parental love or rights respected by governments and medical professionals we used to trust.
Governments have lost the ability to earn our respect, as the powers they have overrule any parental rights. Medical professionals are mostly ruled by government and have no authority to act according to conscience. As a child I trusted people in authority. A lot has changed in fifty years.
Too much has changed. Where is respect and conscience and true democracy? And parents can't even raise their children properly or say no to trans. So much destruction of the family unit coupled with the erasure of women! No faith in God or any faith; they've become little gods unto themselves jerking humanity around with no thought of the consequences which are happening. So many are angry all the time; others are burying their heads in the sand, sigh. People like us are trying to get the word out. Organizations here in Australia like the 'Women's Forum' and 'Binary' along with 'Rebel News' are exposing the lies as are many detransitioners like Chloe Cole & others. I'm glad some countries are waking up to this insanity but my birth country, Canada has a long way to go. I am no longer very trusting in government & medical professionals. This is going to be a huge black blot in history, the sooner the better.
Here in New Zealand there is the idea that we must respect each other, meaning we do not judge others whatever they do. Are we supposed to just say nothing? When young people claim to be non binary and use the ungrammatical pronoun “ they” we are expected to make no comment? A generation has grown up being taught that “they” can do whatever they want as they are masters of their own destinies (gods unto themselves).
Apparently if you've a faith you follow or your a parent or family member, Laws have been passed to tie parents hands or else jail & a fine, and if you're Jewish, Muslim or Christian, you're on your way to being dictated as to how you follow your faith. Praying for a trans kid, even if they ask for prayer, is breaking the law! Trans kids aren't allowed to ask for prayer or talk about sexuality with a pastor, therapist, psychologist or anyone; It takes away children & teens choices as well. The trans activist brainwash kids against parents, etc. Soon in Queensland, men will be able to identify as women without having their testicles & penis removed; I begun using the disabled single toilet with my husband; I'm rape survivor many times over; I don't want males in female spaces; I don't want to be erased! And so many parents are brainwashed as well. It's shocking how many are buying into this insanity; biological women in government and medicine; they're turncoats! Most family & others refuse to talk about it, but wait, when it shows up on their doorstep, it's going to be a shock simply because they avoided the issue.
I remember when it was still legal to pray for a child who was going down the trans route. It was OK to hope the child would come to their senses before too much damage was done. The activists have gained some powers since then.
It is absurd that biological men can use women’s toilets, just as it is unsafe for women to think they are safe in men’s toilets just because they identify as male.
My daughter was assaulted after transitioning. She has told me nothing about this except she got compensation through the court. I wonder if being assaulted was just a cost she was willing to accept, just as prostitutes do for money. Was she brainwashed into thinking that she was invincible once she became a “man”? The craziness and injustice of transgenderism angers me deeply.
I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. It angers me too how something as natural a puberty can be made into such a horror that the only way to avoid committing suicide or staying safe is to have a sex change if you're a girl. I shall pray for your daughter as I pray for many in the solitude of my home. Praying for them outside is a crime, oh wow, how far humanity has fallen. And if this Queensland law passes which allows transwomen with or without their kit into womens sacred areas, I won't be going to the mall or anywhere where I might run into this sort of thingo; I'm a rape and abuse survivor as are many life myself.
Living with the wall is excruciating! I long to have deeper conversations with my daughter but, I don't just to keep the peace. I is so sad. Thank your for sharing your writing. Sending light and hope.
There are so many of these walls now. The world has changed and we are struggling to ascend those barriers to have access to our children. What will become of us? Sometimes it is just too difficult for parents to keep going.
I understand. I feel that way too sometimes. Thank god for this site so we know we aren't alone.
Beautifully said. I sincerely hope your child reads this and recognizes you for who you are. I don't know what is going on. These changes come so fast. I just saw Matt Walsh commit to watching a whole season of Anime. We have to surrender to what is new and digest it with appetite. A bridge can be build, even under water. Just think of everything as a metaphor. You are doing fine. Surrender, be curiously polite and yet know why you have your skin on your body. Protect yourself against these weird dogmas and speak of integrity. Integrity of body and soul. Sex may be more on the physical side and gender more on the spiritual, although our true identity is beyond all this. Surrender to the love you feel and the pain you fear. Just be honestly true to what you feel life is all about and without prejudice, share when invited to share. Love when invited to love, but fear not hate, not your own hate and worries, your fear and confusion, but also not theirs. Something valid is in all our unique perspectives. Love.
We all trusted our longstanding institutions because that's what we were taught to do, and because that trust used to be warranted. But while we all were busy just trying to be good parents, our institutions changed. They used to work FOR and WITH us, now they work against us and against our relationships with our kids. I trust nothing and no one except for my husband, and two brothers who are opposed to the damage that is being done. All faith in the media, medicine, education, government, and even religion is gone for me.
Truly. We're living in a dystopia now. It seemed to come out of nowhere, but I guess it was developing for years while we were busy trying to be good parents, as you said.
I'd say it goes back to at least 1990 and the publication of queer theorist Judith Butler's "Gender Trouble".
Then, there was the normalization of Drag Queen Story Hour for children:
"“genderqueer” college professor and drag queen named Harris Kornstein—stage name Lil Miss Hot Mess—who hosted some of the original readings in public libraries and wrote the children’s book The Hips on the Drag Queen Go Swish, Swish, Swish. Kornstein sits on the board of Drag Queen Story Hour, the nonprofit organization that was founded by Michelle Tea in 2015 to promote “family-friendly” drag performances and has since expanded to 40 local chapters that have organized hundreds of performances across the United States."
Check out:
https://www.city-journal.org/the-real-story-behind-drag-queen-story-hour?wallit_nosession=1
I think the inclusion of "pronouns" everywhere in schools has been a particularly bad assault on the children and families. Our family was bombed by this at school around 2017.
But still - society at large does not seem to care about it.
You are fortunate to have strong men around you who stand against this death cult with you. At least your family can be your rock in the storm.
That was really well said. I agree.
I’ve been calling this my hellish nightmare from the beginning, five years of pain and suffering for me and I don’t see a way out. It’s ruining lives. It’s ruining families. It’s ruined governments, it’s run over the medical field. It’s ruined education. It’s ruined the world!!! How do you stop it, HOW?
find the groups who are pushing back and keep doing that. I keep telling myself - It won't always be this way!
We need to drive the LGBTQ people back into the closet. They will never be content to live their own lives and leave other people's children alone.
Public displays of sexually deviant behavior need to be prohibited in order to protect children.
Until society abandoned the "love is love" mantra we will continue to see confused children descend into mental illness and wreck their bodies with hormones and irreversible surgeries.
You may not care or agree in any way, but I have to say it anyway. I'm a member of the "LGB" portion of the alphabet group, although it's a group label that was foisted on me. As a 70 year-old lesbian who came out 50 years ago, it has never been my desire, nor has it been the desire of any of the gays and lesbians I have known, to try to influence young people to "become" gay. This can't be done, it's not only a stupid waste of time, but it's also downright evil. I have been an opponent of transgender ideology for most of the 50 years that I've been out, because starting in the 1970s lesbians have been subjected to the aggressive, narcissistic demands of trans-identified men insisting that they were women who were attracted to women, therefore lesbians, and therefore entitled to join our groups and have access to our bodies. I've also seen the lesbian community itself decimated by the pernicious pseudo-scientific misogyny of trans ideology, which plays upon women's self-hate and internalized homophobia.
I am 100% opposed to anything that smacks of the sexual grooming of children in any way. The sexual grooming of children is a horror, and this includes the abominable "drag show story hour" phenomenon. The medicalization of children's bodies and the absurd campaign to create "transsgender children" are evidence of how corrupted the scientific and medical communities have become. I supported Gov. DeSantis' bill to ban discussions of sexuality in the classroom for kindergarten through 3rd grade. My only criticism is that he didn't go far enough. Why stop at 3rd grade? I didn't get the "birds and the bees" lecture until middle school...and then in a sex-segregated class with a female teacher.
I could say much more, but I'll leave it at this: even though you may never be accepting of the humanity and reality of homosexuals, not every LGB person you encounter has been captured by the ridiculous assertions and policies associated with trans ideology. Some of your best friends in this struggle are gender-critical feminists, lesbians and gay men who have been in this fight for decades.
Yes. Some of the countries that are embracing transition the most are those where it's illegal to engage in homosexual acts. There go our privileged kids lining up to live like citizens of countries with repressive governments.
Iran comes to mind.
My life's journey is identical to yours Beeswax! You've expressed everything I was going to say here. Thank you! I have never consented to the extension of LGB advocacy and human rights campaign, and I feel there is no such thing as 'the' LGBTIQA 'community'. Lesbian needs and rights are severely neglected in this 'community' and we now see teens struggling with coming to terms with their same sex attraction/sexuality because there are no safe spaces for young lesbians and gays to turn to, no groups specifically for them. The L is just a token. In Australia lesbians born female have been pushed underground the past 20 years since a male judge ruled in a court case brought against us by a TRA and a prominent 'leader' of a transgender organisation, that lesbians could not 'discriminate' against males identifying as lesbians. By law we had to allow them to attend our events, retreats, holiday camps, festivals etc. We were shocked into submission and lost our right to free assembly as lesbians born female. The anti discrimination laws we as feminists fought for, to stop discrimination against women in society, were now used against us, by 'female identifying' males hellbent on accessing lesbian spaces. We went underground and have held private events where only 'vetted' attendants could participate. This has caused a lot of angst, worry, mistrust and even paranoia, and we were all saddened we couldn't promote our events publicly anymore or reach out to young lesbians struggling with their existence in a hostile and sexualised porn fuelled world. And now we have SelfID and 'anti conversion' laws. Australia is at the forefront of this, which is meant to stop conversion of lesbians and gays whilst at the same time encouraging this with the affirmation of trans identity approach which has seen many teens believing to be the opposite sex. Authorities seem to have no understanding of how these laws and trans affirmation only approach, see many teen LGB people, and young lesbians in particular, being transed away with lifelong consequences. I despair at this ignorance of policy makers and human rights advocates. The LGBTIQA+ corporate label is toxic and oppressive, it's a global money making machine that I didn't work a lifetime for. I don't consent and continue to stand up for girls and women's dignity, autonomy, and safety rights and welcome the establishment of LGB Alliances on many continents. Thank you for your vocal advocacy Beeswax! We must win this fight! xx
My god, I had no idea you were dealing with such a horrific situation in Australia. it's devastating. The trans movement really is a men's rights movement. First, convince the lesbians that they're men and should mutilate their bodies because being a woman is so awful, and then flood whatever lesbian spaces remain with male heterosexual transvestite sociopaths.
Self ID is happening here in the States too, and male felons (rapists, pedophiles and murderers) are being housed in women's prisons. The world hates women, I'm convinced.
I've come to the same conclusion sadly. Particularly autonomous self relying women who have no need for a man! Male sex offenders are now housed in the female prisoner estate here too. Inmates are crying out, have started a petition but are unseen. And yet, the very Labor government here in the state of Victoria who legislated SelfID as the first in the world, and anti conversion laws, has just been re-elected for a third term! 98% of residents of this state have no idea of what's going on with 'gender affirmation'. All submissions from women's groups speaking out against these dystopian changes, have been ignored. The worst thing we were told was, by female politicians no less, is: Women are no stakeholders in SelfID laws! If that doesn't show outright misogyny and hatred of women, then what does.... for crying out loud!
What a disaster. It's hard to believe, frankly. The saddest, most frustrating part is knowing so many good people who think they're doing the right thing by supporting "trans rights" in women's spaces, not wanting to see what's right in front of their faces: that they are endangering the lives of women. The absence of curiosity combined with the fear of saying the wrong thing has made people unbelievably stupid.
They know they are endangering the lives of women. They simply don't care. It's all about supporting an ideology that destroys society from the very core of its foundation.
Thanks for the reply. I don't deny the humanity of LGB people. I just don't think they should be allowed to practice, display, or celebrate their sexual deviancy in public, around children. I also completely reject the notion that gay people are "born that way" or "made that way by God". The percentage of people identifying as LGBTQLMNOP has exploded since the behavior has been widely accepted and celebrated in our culture. The same thing can not be said of other cultures around the world where it is not accepted and disproportionately displayed in most media.
The reality is that the basic nature of human beings is to be in a binary male/female relationship with one another. Anything else is simply a mental illness caused by undue behavioral or environmental causes. I don't advocate for mistreatment of people with mental illness but will not accept the normalization of that mental illness. Being gay is 100% based around a sexual activity that can be practiced behind closed doors without having to broadcast it to the world.
You're mostly correct that "the basic nature of human beings is to be in a binary male/female relationship with one another." Since we are a biologically binary species, it would have to be that way. Widespread same-sex attraction would not be a strategy for survival of our species.
However, it's a misconception that homosexuals are not "born that way." We most certainly are. We've always existed and always will, as a relatively tiny percentage of the population, in amounts that may vary within a small range, depending on how free a society is. There may be more sexual exploration out in the open than in the past, but an authentic homosexual orientation is not something you can choose. To be blunt, either you're feeling it, or you ain't. It may appear to you that our numbers have "exploded," but we're just not hiding in the shadows anymore, so you can see us. In the 1970s when I came out, the penalties for being public were serious; e.g., getting fired, losing parental custody, being evicted, getting arrested. So we kept our relationships as private as possible. People often lived with a partner their whole lives without ever telling their families about the nature of the relationship. It was a stressful, depressing, infuriating way to live. We're not going back.
Your other misconception is that "Being gay is 100% based around a sexual activity that can be practiced behind closed doors." I agree that sexual activities should be practiced in private, but sadly, you see us through a dehumanized lens in which we are mentally ill perverts who have no emotional lives. <Sigh.> This prevents you from recognizing that serious gay and lesbian relationships are just as loving and profound as any serious relationship between a man and a woman. It feels a bit weird to me to have to restate the obvious in 2022 in the United States of America, given how long and hard we have fought to be treated as first-class citizens, but some beliefs die hard. C'est la vie.
Anyway, I agree with your desire to protect children from graphic sexual content of all kinds. If I were a parent, I'd home school and keep my kids as far away from social media as possible. The issue of parental rights in education is high on my list of things to fight for and vote for in the future. Best regards.
I think you are conflating gays always existing with gays being born gay. I wouldn't argue that gays have not been a certain percentage of the population throughout history but that doesn't mean it is not a deviance of normalcy to be gay. Just because a phenomenon has been around for a long time does not make it a good thing or something that should be accepted as regular behavior. One could argue that the persecution of homosexuals by the majority of societies throughout history has been around just as long as homosexual behavior. That does not validate mistreatment of homosexuals.
To say that a child is born gay is to pretend that children are sexual creatures which is a falsehood usually propagated by people who are interested in sex with children. To be clear, I'm not leveling that accusation at you.
At the core of gay identity is the sexual attraction and sexual act with another member of the same sex. If you take that out of the equation that person is no longer gay by definition. The same cannot be said about a straight person. A man is still a man, even if he doesn't have sexual feelings towards anyone. Two people of the same sex can still love each other and care deeply about one another without sexual attraction or intercourse being involved. I think it is generally a bad idea to conflate sexual intercourse with love anyway, even between straight couples.
Actual love is a state of service to another person and should not hinge on a sexual act. This is why I reject the "love is love" defense of sexual deviancy, especially when I see more and more Minor Attracted Persons (formerly known as pedophiles) using it to justify their sick urges.
So, if the basic nature of humanity is to be involved only in binary relationships when it comes to sexual activity then I would argue that it is gay people who are denying their own humanity by pursuing their feelings towards members of the same sex. You are free to do so but just because you can doesn't mean you should. It also doesn't mean you should be able to do so free of social consequences, especially if your behavior is harmful to society.
No one has to be LGB. Many different factors go into the development of one's sexual orientation.
The issue is the foundation of society is strong nuclear families, and two men cannot have children together, nor can two women.
It’s the Transgender activists that are doing this and LGB activists have led the way. Notice how many tv shows have Gay sexuality on PG13 shows now. That didn’t use to be. Disney is now promoting this to younger children. Junior high and high schools promote it with GSA clubs. This younger generation thinks of it as exploration. That’s what they do. That’s what they’re learning. Schools have become breeding grounds for the LGBT+++ Schools should go back to teaching basics and stop pushing this on our young children.
The gay and lesbian community is not a monolith. In fact, it is as diverse as the heterosexual community, to the extent that the word "community" itself means very little. You are correct...there are gays and lesbians who support trans ideology, just as there are heterosexuals who do so, and I oppose all of them. The presence of GSA (Gay Straight Alliances?) in schools is something I believe we could do without, just as I personally believe that matters of sexuality should be addressed at home with ones parents.
But the fact that some people happen to be gay should not be a dirty secret. It's simply a fact, and when kids who happen to be gay are told they are sinful and sick, tremendous harm is done to their psyches. Most of us old-timers went through that, even to the extent that some people remained "in the closet" their entire lives and never had a loving relationship. There is a reasonable middle ground, but again, I believe matters of sexuality should be addressed by parents. If it were up to me, there would be no "clubs" based on sexuality in the schools at all.
For anyone who's interested, I recommend "Flashing Green," a Substack by a gender-critical gay man named Gary Lucia. I also recommend "The Lesbian Post," on Substack, and Gays Against Groomers: https://www.gaysagainstgroomers.com/about
I like you. You are clearly emotionally intelligent and a kind human. ♡
Thank you.
The above person said LGB activists have led the way. That is true. The insistence upon gay marriage, and the insistence upon normalizing same sex relationships has now led to the insistence of normalizing transgenderism.
I totally disagree and feel quite offended by this as a lesbian who has integrated in society quite nicely. I know many lesbians and gays around me both in western Europe and in Australia who were quite happy with signing a legal partnership document in recognition of their relationship. Gay marriage was actually forced upon us here in Aus. via a plebiscite where every Australian had to vote. It was a trick by a right wing politician, Tony Abbott to force this upon Australians because he believed the Australian people would vote against gay marriage. Us lesbians and gays were actually horrified by this. Then the surprise outcome where almost 80% of Australians voted for gay/same sex marriage. You're giving yourself away here by saying 'normalizing same sex relationships' in which I read that you don't see us as equal human beings. And you also put the blame on us and holding us responsible for what is happening today with trans identity ideology. I find that offensive. Put the blame where it belongs and do some more studies on this please.
Could you have a baby if you want? Sterility following chemical treatment, bottom surgery rules that out for girls and boys before the age of consent.
Hear hear! xx
Thank you.
They’re getting into our children’s closets and they’re winning them over. How do we stop it?
Don't let your children be exposed to leftist propeganda. Don't let your children be friends with children who's parents are ok with leftist propeganda.
Tell your children NO. It can be a complete sentence if you want it to be.
Basically, don’t let your children live in the world. Exposure is everywhere.
Lots of conversations about lots of things around the dinner table. Show your care and listening from birth onward. Use news to show the negative consequences of bad choices. And, don’t preach. Listen, talk and pay attention. Don’t give kids an iPhone before they can speak so they will leave you alone because they will leave you alone sooner than you can imagine. Know them, their friends, their teachers. Be involved in their life.
That is good preventative talk. The wall is up now though. We need to talk about knocking it down. Much of what happened happened in secret. When my daughter started this I was a unaware that the world had a new motive, a motive to secretly brainwash children to believe that sex is changeable and based upon a feeling and to further inspire taking harmful drugs and risky surgeries to reverse one’s sex. This happened in school, in the therapist’s office, on the Internet, by school peers, teachers and counselors. It’s permeated all of society. How do we knock it down now? My daughter doesn’t want me in her life now that she’s joined the trans cult because I don’t agree with the self harm of it all. She doesn’t listen to sounds advice. She’s been kidnapped by this atrocious ideology. It’s ruined her. It’s devastating to watch my beautiful daughter destroy her beautiful body and ruin her life.
I can’t imagine the suffering you experience and I hope your persistent love carry’s you through the misery to some point in the future when the wall begins to come down. I hope this is a craze and dies out sooner rather than later. Best wishes.
Trans ideology was only able to take over because feminists disparaged anything feminine, including being a wife or a mother. We have been on this path for 60 years. First the sexual revolution normalized random sex. Then divorce and single parenthood was normalized. Then same sex marriage.
The only way out is a Christian revival across Western society.
Meanwhile, parents should homeschool if they can. If not, vote for conservative school board members, and report gender ideology and critical race theory as these things are often illegal. Fight to close transgender clinics. Sue the people who brainwashed your daughter behind your back, particularly the SCHOOL.
I am so moved by this piece of writing. Thank you, dear loving parent.
It fuels my continuing desire to talk with people, listen, create discussion, share information, and all the things we are hoping will change the course of events.
Your love is the most important force, even if it may seem presently to not be enough.
The same wall that has grown between son and myself. The same feeling of desperation praying that this wall will crumble down and somehow we can smile, laugh and create memories once again.