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Verzweifelte's avatar

Can you move away?

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inafets4's avatar

I would really like to. My mom said the same thing. Said daughter is 14. I would have to uproot her 16 year old sister right before senior year. Also, I’m a musician and my whole livelihood revolves around local contacts. She already changed schools for 9th grade but that staff got all in it. Maybe in a year. We all need a change of scene for sure.

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Verzweifelte's avatar

16 year old can stay with her grandmother or other relatives or your friends for a year. You don't have to uproot her. But the younger needs the help right now. Especially if she can accept the idea to go back to her lost identity at the new school. You are so lucky to see the signs of desistance. Most of us hier can only dream and hope for the future.

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inafets4's avatar

You are right. We have a potential escape hatch here and should take it. Mom and Dad are 84 and I also have guilt about leaving them. I should probably suck it up though. Maybe they could leave with me. Colorado ain’t what it used to be.

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Jessica's avatar

You should do absolutely whatever you need to to help your child. She is the #1 priority. It may be hard, but that is life. Save her.

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inafets4's avatar

agreed

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George Q Tyrebyter's avatar

How about the idea of the "year abroad" for the child?

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inafets4's avatar

i am a single mom with no money, but yeah a girl can dream

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