Our feelings are determined not by what happens, but by the stories we tell ourselves about what happens. This is how I frame my daughter’s story, though she would tell it in a much different way
In my small world I already know two men who had themselves operated on and a young lady too. I wish they knew that you can be fine in your body and still invite these other "energies" and express them in our culture. Why do doctors go along with this? Not just for the money. I think they truly believe that they are doing the right thing. Medieval.
That definitely seems to be the case. And a healthy society would also foster healthy relationships. Today everyone seems to be frustrated and confused. The most intimate is made into the most public as supposed entertainment. Everything is about getting attention, even bad attention.
My wife has an autistic, anime-obsessed niece who began pretending to be a boy at about the age of fourteen. Now she's eighteen, yet seems more like a very odd thirteen-year-old boy. Her parents and slightly younger brother seem to go along with it all quite cheerfully, fully immersed in the charade and hostile to anyone who would question it. I have a strong suspicion it has gone beyond just pretending, and that drugs and surgery have been involved. Her mother (my wife's sister), and all the women in the family, have large breasts, yet this young adult is absolutely flat-chested. She speaks in a strange, deeper, not-female yet not-quite-male voice that I originally thought was an affectation, but I now suspect is hormonally induced. I can't play along with the lunacy, so I steer clear. Observing from a distance, it's creepy to watch this tragedy progress. The most horrifying part of it is that I'm certain her parents have facilitated the pharmaceutical and surgical butchering of their own teenage daughter. In Hell, Dr. Mengele is smiling.
Excellent post. No idea why society continues to glorify this transgender ideation on children. Adults is one matter but children? These kids can’t even balance a checking account, never mind their mental health. I find it scary that for an adult to medically transition they must go thru rigorous psychological testing, but a child needs only one short session. It’s so asinine.
Which is exactly why I found your post so refreshing. I’m so glad you stood up for the truth. I hope you opened the eyes of many. Myself, being the mother of a trans daughter, have personally lost many friendships. Yet, every friend I lost did not have a trans child. They have no idea of the pain and isolation it creates for parents. Hopefully, thru your post, they at least catch a glimpse of reality. May the New Year ring in more empathy and compassion for everyone that has been emotionally and/or financially destroyed by this transgender cult that believes in medically transitioning our children into eunuchs. The truth hurts. Tragic.
Thank you for posting this. These were/are exactly my thoughts the moment I found out about my son's declaration that he is a female. This is hell on Earth for everyone.
True. I don't know what to say about that. Covid restrictions and private internet access for kids may have been part of the problem. We need to find the key to unlock the door and gain access to the common conversation again. I get the impression that detransitioned kids must be supported and have a place in the narrative, because I really don't care much if one wants to play pretend for a while, but when it comes to cosmetic surgery that irreversibly destructs the healthy body of these seekers, that is where I firmly want to draw a line, because it is irresponsible and as Jordan Peterson likes to frame it, criminal. Just think of all the stupid things so called doctors did in medieval times. A few hundred or less years from now, these "top-surgeries" and the like will be viewed like that.
Where are the adults? Where is truth? Where can a young person learn wrong and right today? We need more truth tellers today. We need more skepticism, more questioning, more real science, the elect, the experts, the elite have all failed us. Stand for truth!
But we have to know what to do! Every problem has a solution. First, I determined, that this is not about sex, gender and sexuality, but about identity. Then the question arises, what is our true identity? When we examine therapy, it shows that when we really learn to listen to someone else, magic can happen. What does it mean to really listen for a parent? It is very hard not to project your own feelings, hopes and aspirations on your child. That is almost a natural thing to do. So what do these kids find in us, that they can act our against? Why is our love not felt? Thus I think that we can focus on forms of love for now. When you love someone, there needs to be some reciprocity. At least, when it comes to mature and material relationships. My identity is subservient to the higher goal of staying together as a couple or as a family. Still, I want to be able to speak my truth. In fact, only that which I truly embody, is worth noticing.
When you grew up with your child, a door was open. The child drank our milk and ate our food. It watched closely to every move we made. I became part of my childs mind. But when they grow up, they want to form a mind of their own. This is the tricky part and I understand that my words here remain very shallow, when they are not backed up by some solid proof. "What can I do to make you happy?" That is the spiritual question we have to ask ourself. Who am I serving? So with all of that in mind, maybe a new attitude can be found, a new more universal category in which we are one, in which we can cooperate and communicate. I do not have to impose my context on your mind, I can invite you into my house and show you around. That is what a mature and adult conversation looks like, but it is also exactly what you see young children playing do. They invite and kick. They give and take. They love and bite. There is a constant dynamic at the border, at the silverlining between self, world and other. We have to find a proper and respectful balance. I don't know what else to say.
I react strongly to anything that implies this current gender identity phenomenon is in any way the fault of parents . I don't think my son chose to go down this path because he we made him wear clothes as a kid. And I don't think my reasonable standards for nudity and propriety regarding sex is to blame either. The excessive , over the top sexualization of everything is to blame. No standards is to blame. And the organized push to normalize unhealthy and perverted ideas held by a minority of powerful people by capturing every institution in society is to blame. Enticing vulnerable young people like those with emotional issues and autism is to blame. Not "prudish" parents. And this is happening in cultures all over the western world and beyond. It just seems more intense in the US because excess tends to be a part of the American experience (for a variety of reasons). Standards and expectations for behavior is simply part of civilization. I bristle at even a hint of blame being placed on parents. I don't want to distract from the wonderful article..so I'm done now.
I'm 74 and often think back to my teenage years in comparison to today. I remember feeling very awkward and self conscious around 7th and 8th grade. This is when dances started. I was never part of a group. I think that was true for most of us. There were the popular kids and the rest of us.
Social media has changed a lot of the growing up experience. I wish parents could limit social media, especially TikTok and photos. I was overweight and very self-conscious about it. I don't know how girls handle not having the right body today. I avoided boys and rarely had a date all through college. I came out as a lesbian in my 20s. Times are much more confusing today.
I am posing a suggestion here. Let's see how it goes. Your American culture is quite prude. Sexual matters are not things to talk about easily and openly. In the sauna, people wear clothes, breast feeding in public is condemned, children are hardly ever naked, just running around in the sun, parents may feel awkward in the nude with kids around. Just wonder what this mentality does with our mind. Maybe it has repressed our reality to such an extend, that there is no positive inner representation of the body in its natural state. We could do so much better!
Therefore sex and gender may indeed seem "assigned" and interchangeable. They are actually not really grounded in objective factuality, when so much is kept a taboo. That gives power to ideologies that influence our ideas about what is possible as a way of being someone in society. Why not change gender at will? We must respect the privacy of the individual and as a teenager you become interested in your own social identity. This trans-pseudo-cult seems to play along with this desire and the parents never grounded their own material reality positively in the mind of the withdrawn child, because there is no culture that enables such natural notion.
It is a confrontation with taboo and that gives the cult power and attracts those who just begin to learn what it means to become an adult.
My daughter is in the same situation. Going to college having no friends thinking she's a lesbian, then bi then non binary changing her name want to change physical appearance. I pray every day that she will be her true self the confident, strong woman I know she is. And turn by to God.
You could be writing about my daughter too. Such low self esteem and always a victim. GSA club was her place to go. Little did we know back then what they were doing there.
In my small world I already know two men who had themselves operated on and a young lady too. I wish they knew that you can be fine in your body and still invite these other "energies" and express them in our culture. Why do doctors go along with this? Not just for the money. I think they truly believe that they are doing the right thing. Medieval.
That definitely seems to be the case. And a healthy society would also foster healthy relationships. Today everyone seems to be frustrated and confused. The most intimate is made into the most public as supposed entertainment. Everything is about getting attention, even bad attention.
My wife has an autistic, anime-obsessed niece who began pretending to be a boy at about the age of fourteen. Now she's eighteen, yet seems more like a very odd thirteen-year-old boy. Her parents and slightly younger brother seem to go along with it all quite cheerfully, fully immersed in the charade and hostile to anyone who would question it. I have a strong suspicion it has gone beyond just pretending, and that drugs and surgery have been involved. Her mother (my wife's sister), and all the women in the family, have large breasts, yet this young adult is absolutely flat-chested. She speaks in a strange, deeper, not-female yet not-quite-male voice that I originally thought was an affectation, but I now suspect is hormonally induced. I can't play along with the lunacy, so I steer clear. Observing from a distance, it's creepy to watch this tragedy progress. The most horrifying part of it is that I'm certain her parents have facilitated the pharmaceutical and surgical butchering of their own teenage daughter. In Hell, Dr. Mengele is smiling.
Excellent post. No idea why society continues to glorify this transgender ideation on children. Adults is one matter but children? These kids can’t even balance a checking account, never mind their mental health. I find it scary that for an adult to medically transition they must go thru rigorous psychological testing, but a child needs only one short session. It’s so asinine.
Which is exactly why I found your post so refreshing. I’m so glad you stood up for the truth. I hope you opened the eyes of many. Myself, being the mother of a trans daughter, have personally lost many friendships. Yet, every friend I lost did not have a trans child. They have no idea of the pain and isolation it creates for parents. Hopefully, thru your post, they at least catch a glimpse of reality. May the New Year ring in more empathy and compassion for everyone that has been emotionally and/or financially destroyed by this transgender cult that believes in medically transitioning our children into eunuchs. The truth hurts. Tragic.
Thank you for posting this. These were/are exactly my thoughts the moment I found out about my son's declaration that he is a female. This is hell on Earth for everyone.
True. I don't know what to say about that. Covid restrictions and private internet access for kids may have been part of the problem. We need to find the key to unlock the door and gain access to the common conversation again. I get the impression that detransitioned kids must be supported and have a place in the narrative, because I really don't care much if one wants to play pretend for a while, but when it comes to cosmetic surgery that irreversibly destructs the healthy body of these seekers, that is where I firmly want to draw a line, because it is irresponsible and as Jordan Peterson likes to frame it, criminal. Just think of all the stupid things so called doctors did in medieval times. A few hundred or less years from now, these "top-surgeries" and the like will be viewed like that.
Fully agree.
Where are the adults? Where is truth? Where can a young person learn wrong and right today? We need more truth tellers today. We need more skepticism, more questioning, more real science, the elect, the experts, the elite have all failed us. Stand for truth!
But we have to know what to do! Every problem has a solution. First, I determined, that this is not about sex, gender and sexuality, but about identity. Then the question arises, what is our true identity? When we examine therapy, it shows that when we really learn to listen to someone else, magic can happen. What does it mean to really listen for a parent? It is very hard not to project your own feelings, hopes and aspirations on your child. That is almost a natural thing to do. So what do these kids find in us, that they can act our against? Why is our love not felt? Thus I think that we can focus on forms of love for now. When you love someone, there needs to be some reciprocity. At least, when it comes to mature and material relationships. My identity is subservient to the higher goal of staying together as a couple or as a family. Still, I want to be able to speak my truth. In fact, only that which I truly embody, is worth noticing.
When you grew up with your child, a door was open. The child drank our milk and ate our food. It watched closely to every move we made. I became part of my childs mind. But when they grow up, they want to form a mind of their own. This is the tricky part and I understand that my words here remain very shallow, when they are not backed up by some solid proof. "What can I do to make you happy?" That is the spiritual question we have to ask ourself. Who am I serving? So with all of that in mind, maybe a new attitude can be found, a new more universal category in which we are one, in which we can cooperate and communicate. I do not have to impose my context on your mind, I can invite you into my house and show you around. That is what a mature and adult conversation looks like, but it is also exactly what you see young children playing do. They invite and kick. They give and take. They love and bite. There is a constant dynamic at the border, at the silverlining between self, world and other. We have to find a proper and respectful balance. I don't know what else to say.
I react strongly to anything that implies this current gender identity phenomenon is in any way the fault of parents . I don't think my son chose to go down this path because he we made him wear clothes as a kid. And I don't think my reasonable standards for nudity and propriety regarding sex is to blame either. The excessive , over the top sexualization of everything is to blame. No standards is to blame. And the organized push to normalize unhealthy and perverted ideas held by a minority of powerful people by capturing every institution in society is to blame. Enticing vulnerable young people like those with emotional issues and autism is to blame. Not "prudish" parents. And this is happening in cultures all over the western world and beyond. It just seems more intense in the US because excess tends to be a part of the American experience (for a variety of reasons). Standards and expectations for behavior is simply part of civilization. I bristle at even a hint of blame being placed on parents. I don't want to distract from the wonderful article..so I'm done now.
I'm 74 and often think back to my teenage years in comparison to today. I remember feeling very awkward and self conscious around 7th and 8th grade. This is when dances started. I was never part of a group. I think that was true for most of us. There were the popular kids and the rest of us.
Social media has changed a lot of the growing up experience. I wish parents could limit social media, especially TikTok and photos. I was overweight and very self-conscious about it. I don't know how girls handle not having the right body today. I avoided boys and rarely had a date all through college. I came out as a lesbian in my 20s. Times are much more confusing today.
I am posing a suggestion here. Let's see how it goes. Your American culture is quite prude. Sexual matters are not things to talk about easily and openly. In the sauna, people wear clothes, breast feeding in public is condemned, children are hardly ever naked, just running around in the sun, parents may feel awkward in the nude with kids around. Just wonder what this mentality does with our mind. Maybe it has repressed our reality to such an extend, that there is no positive inner representation of the body in its natural state. We could do so much better!
Therefore sex and gender may indeed seem "assigned" and interchangeable. They are actually not really grounded in objective factuality, when so much is kept a taboo. That gives power to ideologies that influence our ideas about what is possible as a way of being someone in society. Why not change gender at will? We must respect the privacy of the individual and as a teenager you become interested in your own social identity. This trans-pseudo-cult seems to play along with this desire and the parents never grounded their own material reality positively in the mind of the withdrawn child, because there is no culture that enables such natural notion.
It is a confrontation with taboo and that gives the cult power and attracts those who just begin to learn what it means to become an adult.
So, ... what to do?
What you wrote exactly describes my son. I wish so much I could get him to see that.
My daughter is in the same situation. Going to college having no friends thinking she's a lesbian, then bi then non binary changing her name want to change physical appearance. I pray every day that she will be her true self the confident, strong woman I know she is. And turn by to God.
Here praying that all our sons and daughters can break free from this cult.
You could be writing about my daughter too. Such low self esteem and always a victim. GSA club was her place to go. Little did we know back then what they were doing there.