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Nov 3, 2022·edited Nov 3, 2022

So one thing that this whole trans movement has made apparent to me is that at least in the state of California, law favors the judgement of the minor over the parent, and it has been so for at least 8 years. This link is a pocket description of what a minor can a) consent to without their parent’s input and b) forbid the provider from notifying the parent about: https://www.chhs.ca.gov/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/Committees/California-Child-Welfare-Council/CSEC-Program-Convening/CA-Moinior-Consent-and-Confidentiality-Laws.pdf

In my mind, I hear the justification that this poor child was raped by their parent and should be able to consent to abortion or healthcare services without involving their abuser.

But Let this sink in.

The assumption that a parent is the abuser is The DEFAULT.

According to the state of Ca, the default expectation is that parents are not the people who guide and nuture their offspring into adulthood, but rather are criminal abusers who defile children on such a majority scale that the law gives the power of consent over every manner of medical treatment to a child 12 years or older.

This is upside down.

California Parents need to reclaim their rights to protect their children.

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Needed this so bad this very moment!

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Thanks for this, and for all the people who care for we parents. Also, get back on Twitter--with Musk’s purchase of the company things have opened up overnight in terms of being able to speak truth.

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For some reason I cannot see the replies to my comment by Coastal Elite, they only show in my email. However, I want to thank you for replying.

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The issue with synthetic sex identities (what some call "trans") is that it is simply evil and wrong.

Here we see the basic problem. If you are liberal (which I was 7 years ago), you believe in the co-existence of adults who make reasoned decisions. You believe that all persons can exist if we allow other adults to govern themselves.

But this is the issue with synthetic sex identities is that, for purposes of self-justification, others MUST AGREE that the synthetic sex identity person is a valid person. The SSI person MUST CONVERT others. If doubt is expressed, this is the "crack in the Emperor's delusion about his new clothes".

But to the liberal world-view, there is no evil, just alternatives.

So, if you believe, as I do, that synthetic sex identities are more than "an alternative", you must leave the liberal world-view, and move to a more manichaen one, in which evil and good exist. Religious people have less difficulty with synthetic sex identities, because they admit the possibility of evil.

Thus, for those of us who find the SSI approach to be evil, the religious world-view, and the conservative world-view, are more comfortable and natural.

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We are and will hold each other up; if not us, who? Thank you for a beautiful piece and reminding me, and all of us, who truly cares and that we are on the right side of history...I just wish it would all hurry up. Thank you for a wonderful read.

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Some of my friends back in Canada don't want to rock the boat politically or otherwise so they say and do nothing! In Australia I'm putting it out there, everywhere and getting my wrists slapped; hubby and I sign petition, and support the Australian Christian Lobby. I wish more parents would rise up en masse; my kids are adults; they like me survived puberty intact. In Wales, women get arrested if they complain and ask males to leave their toilets. Too many are allowing themselves to be brainwashed, meekly going along with the status quo! I'm glad my Mum isn't around to witness these atrocities!

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I’m a California therapist. I care 🤍

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Nothing personal, but I stopped reading right here: "confused kids and their homophobic parents".

I'm tired of parents namecalling other parents. Gender confused kids aren't caused by homophobic parents. Period. Full stop.

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Beautiful and very moving.

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What a beautiful, heart-rending piece. By standing together to commiserate and share your strategies, you're getting the truth out. Just like lobotomies, this era of transgenderism will become a large black, horrible blot in history. I am bombarding Facebook and Twitter with the truth; if everyone does the same, these social media sites will become overloaded with the truth, cause the truth always comes out, sooner or later. I applaud those detransitioners who now bravely stand against this depravity of child abuse and butchery. All parents and grandparents have to rise up.

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You mentioned Kara Dansky, here is her substack:

https://karadansky.substack.com

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Oct 28, 2022·edited Oct 28, 2022

You are correct that no one cares about the parents. We are simply the vessels to bring the next generation into the world. We can love them, feed them, care for every need great and small for a couple decades. But you better not ever think you have any emotional claim over the person that you nurtured for 15 or 20 years. How dare you want to keep your son as your son, or your daughter as your daughter. Don't you know you were never allowed to have any claim over the intense work you put into raising that child? You get no say. And if you do dare to have a say, you are a selfish bigot, an uncaring parent with a terribly closed mind, a religious zealot (or pick your insult and insert it here). Shut up and go away. You can love another person with everything in your being. But if that person wants to destroy themselves you have no say. You have to "celebrate" that. This is our world now.

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Some very telling points, here. I can only imagine what it must be like swimming against the tide in California. Mr Menno is great. Unfortunately I live in a rural area in Australia and I have found no other Mums to talk to. All the parents at my daughter's ex-school just think I am a bigot. My son has helped. And my lovely husband (not her Dad). Most people think my views are extreme (most of my friends are Greens voters, as was I..).

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As much as being in this crazy space sucks, I likewise am grateful for the people who care. This beautifully written piece dovetails nicely into what I recently told someone - I've made more friends in two years than I've made in twenty! We are all in this together and share the bond of sorrow or uncertainty. I couldn't be in better company and I'm grateful to have them all in my life.

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Under this craziness: If someone wanted to self-identify as a Flat Rock...

Then you MUST fully support their delusions, otherwise, you are just a bigoted racist against igneous, sedimentary, and metamorphic persons!

Not all Leftists buy into this insanity, even some ‘LGB’ people as well as the ‘T’ who have detransitioned, but it is primarily a movement overwhelmingly supported by people in the Leftwing, Democrats, and Liberals. I highly doubt that you will find many Rightwing, Republicans, or Conservatives in the mix!

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