Many would interpret the saying “it takes a village to raise a child” to refer to the efforts of a community striving to encourage the mental and physical growth of children in a safe environment.
This is frightening. How horrific that parents are no longer allowed to parent...that the government is literally telling our children, "You can't trust your parents." Sounds familiar...almost like how child abusers say, "This is our secret, so don't tell your parents!" It's so disgusting. This has to be stopped immediately...I live in the US, but I feel terrible for parents in Canada. The people of Canada have got to vote out the people making these policies. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
I’m sorry that you, and all the other caring parents who are alert enough to realize that the affirmation model is sorely deficient and defective, have to experience the social abuse of a system which, while populated by mostly caring people, have for whatever reason, jumped on the crazy train and are gleefully leading innocent children to a life of misery. I wonder how all these professionals in all these various areas got indoctrinated into this unfortunate mistake.
Thank you, Paul. I think you summed it up well. I think maybe in the Western World we got into some sort of echo system where most people only hear one narrative?
And maybe there is some sort of Salem Witch era thing where no one wants to appear to their neighbors to be on the side of Satan/be against some group that might have had a hard time once? I think most people hear "Trans" and think, yeah, we weren't good to intersex people once. They think, all this glitter stuff might help them. But, intersex people are a sex, they are not confused about who they are, and they are generally are people who want to go about their lives without upending society.
Your average person is not thinking that middle aged mentally ill AGP men are being allowed to set policy. Of course, I think that the mentally ill should be treated well and that they have the same rights as everyone else - that they can be helped to be productive members of society, but I don't think they should be able to dictate what happens in schools or influence the Supreme Court to drop "sex" as a category in favor of the GI religious theory of "gender". The kids are being groomed by both the actively self-serving malicious or mentally ill, and by folks who just don't get it. A free and more balanced media could help but it feels like the USSR just now.
People are not even aware that they are promoting an ideology. Somehow, they've been convinced to "use their pronouns" in their bios and their emails. "It won't cause you any inconvenience and it will help others so much" is the line. But, "gender" is not a thing. It is not anything scientific. Yet, this cult ideology has gotten so far.. and done so much damage. I find it shocking over and over again that people consider it a category in legal disputes, our white house, and that it is even discussed in government and our highest court. Shouldn't the Supreme Court and the White house have to agree that it is real before setting policy/deciding cases based on it? I do not question that there are real people with a real mental illness, but I do not "believe" in the ideology that has grown up around it. Nor, would most Americans if presented honestly with all the facts. Being mentally ill in some manner does not mean you cannot function in a job. And, holding a job isn't proof that one is not mentally ill in some way, or that that person has a fetish. Of course, insisting that humanity agrees that your fetish is "truth" no matter what the harm to the young is not acceptable.
I am happy to hear that you were able to save your daughter. Most of the families on PITT have suffered similar trauma. Our daughter had a secret new name and pronoun at high school. When we found out they would not stop using it. And, all language has been turned upside down including "It takes a village" which is now more like the village in Frankenstein that chased the creature with torches. The groomed child is love bombed and the parents are called all sorts of foul names if they are not on the affirmation train but think something else is going on. Now, any problem, struggle, or stress a teenager experiences is the result of "being trans" not the other way around.
Once this Salem Witch time period passes it must be studied thoroughly and I think we will need a museum dedicated to what happened and research dollars devoted to why it happened. This morning I read https://thepostmillennial.com/usa-today-deletes-controversial-pedophilia-tweets-stealth-edits-headline?utm_campaign=64487 "The USA Today piece cites the controversy between Old Dominion University and Dr. Allyn Walker, who talked about "destigmatizing pedophilia" and referred to pedophiles as "minor-attracted people," from last year." Walker identifies as some sort of "they".
Isn't there some legal route that could be taken? It seems like all of this is a class action lawsuit waiting to happen. I guess it would mean having enough detransitioners join up and getting goo legal representation. So many kids are being harmed while we wait for this insane culture to get it's head out of its ass.
There is no legal route, as parents and their children, then young adults are signing the dotted line on "experimental treatment" and this is why the dregs of the medical profession goes into the field, including transsexuals, who have a clear conflict of interest, should not have been cleared by the medical boards to do the surgeries.
It wouldn’t even need to be a class action: Kiera Bell proved this in the UK, where the system is more straightforward because healthcare is untethered from capitalism. If you hadn’t heard of Kiera Bell, it’s because this very consequential story was ignored by US media — another outrage colored by perverse incentives. Her case was decided under judicial review in December 2020. It sure seems like a road map for some brave victim in America. I, for one, would contribute to the legal fund.
Unfortunately, the "informed consent" laws in the US keep doctors/therapists from being sued. It is better to focus on the kids and make "being trans" uncool.
In the UK, my story is the same except that my daughter, being late diagnosed and having a well disguised touch of autism, had the determination to medicate. It was impossible to protect a child once the child turned 16.
Children’s Services encouraged this vulnerable child down the affirmation route. They are powerless against this insidious lie.
Why does it seem that the village is blind to what is happening and the whole world is against mothers of these “dysphoric” autistic children?
A eugenics plot, or the very least are we hate targets being blamed for our children’s failure to conform?
Strange how we were accused of hate crimes when we continued to use the correct pronouns. Now at least there is a glimmer of hope in the UK as we no longer have to fear a criminal record for doing so. Just a glimmer of truth in the darkness.
I was powerless, sadly. All her intelligence was devoted to this magical transition which was to cure her autism, her sensory issues, stop those painful periods and make her body match her supposed sexual orientation.
Please do connect with me, on my blog, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com. I am a trans widow and I post stories of the trauma this medical scandal has imposed on families.
In the US the village might encourage your kid to hide their gender questioning from you, entirely. Your child might be encouraged as a secret hidden from the parents, just as a predator might encourage a child to have a mysterious secret from the parents. Even a complicated child, whose history and struggles are unknown to these "helpful" villagers. All the villagers hear are the well tested lies the young person found online and adopted, believing them. And the lies pushed by activists who want medicalization for everyone, as far as I can discern. And they reward your kid, love bomb them, tell them they are special for this-- these kids don't realize they are already special as they are, already, in many cases, surrounded by love.
It's all so exciting to your child, who gets to wait until they hit 18 and then go get the drugs, fueled by online grooming, lies about whether drugs are needed and what they do and even biology, and the cheers of these adults who rarely see your kid and aren't paying attention.( Growing up! Being independent!) How could they pay attention...? They haven't been raising your complicated kid and have no idea what they are messing with, with their conspiratorial secrets, good intentions, and destructive ignorant interference. They aren't paying attention.
They need to get a clue and stop interfering until they do so.
As a retired early childhood teacher, and as the ex-wife of a trans identified male, I feel for the parents and blanch at the way the schools are handling children with special needs. I saw my highly educated, intelligent but quirky 30 something husband be affirmed by a non-certified shrink, really a groomer and funnel to the surgeons, and heard him constantly quoting her pearls of nonsense. I knew something was wrong, when 20 years later, I suddenly have friends whose children or young relatives are spouting the same narrative. I detect a transfer from the generation of "transsexuals" who are now in their sixties (and have been donating their considerable wealth to the trans lobby) to the groomers of your daughter. What a relief to hear the happy ending! I am writing about these generational connections and the non-science of this movement in my blog, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com Please feel free to comment and add information. My last post was about the remote narcissistic abuse children are exposed to through internet porn, tumblr and reddit. Even YouTube has free trans porn available without age limits! Stay well and keep yourselves healthy with outside activities and exercise!
If I can help any of you with the connections I make, I am grateful. You are right, it was pretty awful. I am now interviewing with Vaishnavi Sundar, the filmmaker, for her next project on trans widows. She did a fantastic 4 part film on girls who have cross-sex ideation. It is at LimeSodaFilms channel on YouTube, called Dysphoria. Excellent documentary.
Thank you for writing this. I'm happy you and your daughter were able to escape "the village."
Here's an article on what some schools are teaching: https://jamesesses.substack.com/p/education-or-indoctrination
This is frightening. How horrific that parents are no longer allowed to parent...that the government is literally telling our children, "You can't trust your parents." Sounds familiar...almost like how child abusers say, "This is our secret, so don't tell your parents!" It's so disgusting. This has to be stopped immediately...I live in the US, but I feel terrible for parents in Canada. The people of Canada have got to vote out the people making these policies. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
You hit it on the nail. And, we live in the US. It is nearly as bad here where these secrets are kept at school.
I’m sorry that you, and all the other caring parents who are alert enough to realize that the affirmation model is sorely deficient and defective, have to experience the social abuse of a system which, while populated by mostly caring people, have for whatever reason, jumped on the crazy train and are gleefully leading innocent children to a life of misery. I wonder how all these professionals in all these various areas got indoctrinated into this unfortunate mistake.
Thank you, Paul. I think you summed it up well. I think maybe in the Western World we got into some sort of echo system where most people only hear one narrative?
And maybe there is some sort of Salem Witch era thing where no one wants to appear to their neighbors to be on the side of Satan/be against some group that might have had a hard time once? I think most people hear "Trans" and think, yeah, we weren't good to intersex people once. They think, all this glitter stuff might help them. But, intersex people are a sex, they are not confused about who they are, and they are generally are people who want to go about their lives without upending society.
Your average person is not thinking that middle aged mentally ill AGP men are being allowed to set policy. Of course, I think that the mentally ill should be treated well and that they have the same rights as everyone else - that they can be helped to be productive members of society, but I don't think they should be able to dictate what happens in schools or influence the Supreme Court to drop "sex" as a category in favor of the GI religious theory of "gender". The kids are being groomed by both the actively self-serving malicious or mentally ill, and by folks who just don't get it. A free and more balanced media could help but it feels like the USSR just now.
People are not even aware that they are promoting an ideology. Somehow, they've been convinced to "use their pronouns" in their bios and their emails. "It won't cause you any inconvenience and it will help others so much" is the line. But, "gender" is not a thing. It is not anything scientific. Yet, this cult ideology has gotten so far.. and done so much damage. I find it shocking over and over again that people consider it a category in legal disputes, our white house, and that it is even discussed in government and our highest court. Shouldn't the Supreme Court and the White house have to agree that it is real before setting policy/deciding cases based on it? I do not question that there are real people with a real mental illness, but I do not "believe" in the ideology that has grown up around it. Nor, would most Americans if presented honestly with all the facts. Being mentally ill in some manner does not mean you cannot function in a job. And, holding a job isn't proof that one is not mentally ill in some way, or that that person has a fetish. Of course, insisting that humanity agrees that your fetish is "truth" no matter what the harm to the young is not acceptable.
I am happy to hear that you were able to save your daughter. Most of the families on PITT have suffered similar trauma. Our daughter had a secret new name and pronoun at high school. When we found out they would not stop using it. And, all language has been turned upside down including "It takes a village" which is now more like the village in Frankenstein that chased the creature with torches. The groomed child is love bombed and the parents are called all sorts of foul names if they are not on the affirmation train but think something else is going on. Now, any problem, struggle, or stress a teenager experiences is the result of "being trans" not the other way around.
Once this Salem Witch time period passes it must be studied thoroughly and I think we will need a museum dedicated to what happened and research dollars devoted to why it happened. This morning I read https://thepostmillennial.com/usa-today-deletes-controversial-pedophilia-tweets-stealth-edits-headline?utm_campaign=64487 "The USA Today piece cites the controversy between Old Dominion University and Dr. Allyn Walker, who talked about "destigmatizing pedophilia" and referred to pedophiles as "minor-attracted people," from last year." Walker identifies as some sort of "they".
The USA Today tweet is absolutely insane. I can't even believe the timeline we are in.
Please contact me on my blog, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com
We're in the US
Isn't there some legal route that could be taken? It seems like all of this is a class action lawsuit waiting to happen. I guess it would mean having enough detransitioners join up and getting goo legal representation. So many kids are being harmed while we wait for this insane culture to get it's head out of its ass.
There is no legal route, as parents and their children, then young adults are signing the dotted line on "experimental treatment" and this is why the dregs of the medical profession goes into the field, including transsexuals, who have a clear conflict of interest, should not have been cleared by the medical boards to do the surgeries.
That is an excellent point!
It wouldn’t even need to be a class action: Kiera Bell proved this in the UK, where the system is more straightforward because healthcare is untethered from capitalism. If you hadn’t heard of Kiera Bell, it’s because this very consequential story was ignored by US media — another outrage colored by perverse incentives. Her case was decided under judicial review in December 2020. It sure seems like a road map for some brave victim in America. I, for one, would contribute to the legal fund.
Unfortunately, the "informed consent" laws in the US keep doctors/therapists from being sued. It is better to focus on the kids and make "being trans" uncool.
In the UK, my story is the same except that my daughter, being late diagnosed and having a well disguised touch of autism, had the determination to medicate. It was impossible to protect a child once the child turned 16.
Children’s Services encouraged this vulnerable child down the affirmation route. They are powerless against this insidious lie.
Why does it seem that the village is blind to what is happening and the whole world is against mothers of these “dysphoric” autistic children?
A eugenics plot, or the very least are we hate targets being blamed for our children’s failure to conform?
Strange how we were accused of hate crimes when we continued to use the correct pronouns. Now at least there is a glimmer of hope in the UK as we no longer have to fear a criminal record for doing so. Just a glimmer of truth in the darkness.
I was powerless, sadly. All her intelligence was devoted to this magical transition which was to cure her autism, her sensory issues, stop those painful periods and make her body match her supposed sexual orientation.
Please do connect with me, on my blog, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com. I am a trans widow and I post stories of the trauma this medical scandal has imposed on families.
This is so well written! How on earth can this be happening....? I am continually stunned.
In the US the village might encourage your kid to hide their gender questioning from you, entirely. Your child might be encouraged as a secret hidden from the parents, just as a predator might encourage a child to have a mysterious secret from the parents. Even a complicated child, whose history and struggles are unknown to these "helpful" villagers. All the villagers hear are the well tested lies the young person found online and adopted, believing them. And the lies pushed by activists who want medicalization for everyone, as far as I can discern. And they reward your kid, love bomb them, tell them they are special for this-- these kids don't realize they are already special as they are, already, in many cases, surrounded by love.
It's all so exciting to your child, who gets to wait until they hit 18 and then go get the drugs, fueled by online grooming, lies about whether drugs are needed and what they do and even biology, and the cheers of these adults who rarely see your kid and aren't paying attention.( Growing up! Being independent!) How could they pay attention...? They haven't been raising your complicated kid and have no idea what they are messing with, with their conspiratorial secrets, good intentions, and destructive ignorant interference. They aren't paying attention.
They need to get a clue and stop interfering until they do so.
I'm glad you saved your kid from their meddling!
As a retired early childhood teacher, and as the ex-wife of a trans identified male, I feel for the parents and blanch at the way the schools are handling children with special needs. I saw my highly educated, intelligent but quirky 30 something husband be affirmed by a non-certified shrink, really a groomer and funnel to the surgeons, and heard him constantly quoting her pearls of nonsense. I knew something was wrong, when 20 years later, I suddenly have friends whose children or young relatives are spouting the same narrative. I detect a transfer from the generation of "transsexuals" who are now in their sixties (and have been donating their considerable wealth to the trans lobby) to the groomers of your daughter. What a relief to hear the happy ending! I am writing about these generational connections and the non-science of this movement in my blog, uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com Please feel free to comment and add information. My last post was about the remote narcissistic abuse children are exposed to through internet porn, tumblr and reddit. Even YouTube has free trans porn available without age limits! Stay well and keep yourselves healthy with outside activities and exercise!
So sorry about what happened to your husband.
If I can help any of you with the connections I make, I am grateful. You are right, it was pretty awful. I am now interviewing with Vaishnavi Sundar, the filmmaker, for her next project on trans widows. She did a fantastic 4 part film on girls who have cross-sex ideation. It is at LimeSodaFilms channel on YouTube, called Dysphoria. Excellent documentary.