I wrote about the sudden departure of my daughter before. She left home in the middle of the night without warning. Some unknown person or persons picked her up and drove her to a city about eight hours away. At first, we did not know where but, with some detective work on our part and help from our local police, we were able to locate an address and contact her. She responded through the police that she didn’t want any contact with us. We were told she could get a restraining order if we reached out again. They didn’t tell us not to do that. They said it was up to us but that they advised us that in these types of cases, the children are coached to say what she said, “I’m doing fine. I am safe. I have a place to stay. I have food to eat. I want you to leave me alone.” They advised us that this pattern language meant she was being coached and that next she would be instructed to ask for a restraining order - which would almost certainly have been granted.
I completely understand! I pray for my child and all God's children and their families sucked into this cult. I had a near death experience and I know Jesus is alive and he hears our prayers and sees our tears. Remember it is the devil who lies and steals not God. Never stop praying for your daughter ❤️🙏 you have the ability to make a difference in her life as long as she is in it. Once she is gone your total dependency is on our Father. God Bless you and keep the faith in Jesus' name. ❤️
Wonderfully written. And you're taking exactly the right approach with the older daughter. I think your younger daughter is jealous of her sister and your close relationship with her. So on some level she's trying to out-trans her sister.
This is tough. You say that the transitioning is a „non issue“. My experience with my adult son is that once he started taking cross sex hormones, its not a „non issue“ It is awful to watch him damage his body.
I hope that over time she realizes her mistake here. However, I also I realize that she might eventually take the drugs and get surgery. She might become less agreeable. Might insist on things like her boy name and pronouns. I know we are not out of danger. I could still lose her but for now, I am making the best of a bad situation.
You are very blessed that your daughter "agreed to disagree". That is what my husband and I tried desperately to try and make our then 21 year old son to do. Unfortunately my son wouldn't have it. It was all or nothing. He insisted we call him our daughter, and use his chosen name and pronouns and we refused to do so. Now 2 years later he is gone. He cut everyone off, not just me and his father, and it's so sad because not everyone in the family refused his demands. I just pray every day he is ok. You sound like a very loving dad and you are very lucky.
I hope that over time she realizes her mistake here. However, I also I realize that she might eventually take the drugs and get surgery. She might become less agreeable. Might insist on things like her boy name and pronouns. I know we are not out of danger. I could still lose her but for now, I am making the best of a bad situation.
Excellent article. It reminds me of the phrase some years ago when people disappeared into religious cults like the Moonies and cut off all contact with their families. I hope your younger daughter returns to you.
You are indeed a very loving father and your story is beautifully written from your heart. I am deeply moved by your logic and positive and honest approach in dealing with your older daughter. I pray she will stay close to you and not proceed with hormones or surgery. I hope your youngest estranged daughter will come back to you. The coaching, grooming and brainwashing is evident and it is the same thing that has happened with my nephew. He used the same words in the last text he sent to his parents (one year ago this month) when he packed up and left home while they were at work. He also believes his parents will harm him because they did not affirm him to be female, so he feels threatened. It is so sad. We must continue this fight together so our lost loved ones can find their way back home.
When you “affirm” these individuals’ gender identity, what you are doing is affirming their hatred for themselves. You have these children who are going through confusing times, difficult times; when you affirm this belief system, what you’re really doing is telling them: “You hate yourself at this moment, and I will affirm that.” We have to ask ourselves, why do these people have such high rates of suicide? Because we’re affirming that they should hate themselves and that they should try to destroy themselves.
Written by a loving father, your story is very sad, it indicates the level of indoctrination of our youth is huge, this evil cult is an evil, hungry worm, feeding off kids' vulnerability & offering a false hope to them. She is a vulnerable & impressionable teenager, on a deep level I'm sure she knows your love is there, on the other,, she is being lied & enticed to join in this delusion on a grand scale, pulling her away from her family, its evil tentacles infesting their young minds with delusions of changing their God-given sex.
Puberty is a mixed & confusing time for teenagers, what is going on in the west is beyond comprehension, compounded by so-called professionals supporting this dangerous & crazy move to harm kids, medically & psychologically. Its pure evil.
As adults, we look back & remember the many teenagers in our day, many times simply seeking attention & confused in their outlook. They resolved their inner demons in various ways, but never was there a seductive movement like this gender train enticing them away from their own families. I contend that many kids are simply seeking attention & we can only hope that as they grow up, they will wake up to this grand deception & reject it, if its not too late for them. This run-away trans train will eventually de-rail & self destruct, sooner or later, we can but watch & wait for the kids to get off the train before implosion.
I am so sorry. You love your children so much. I have not yet gotten to thepoint where we live in harmony and agree to disagree. She will have to stop hating me for nothing first, I guess, so I'll have to dream. One thing you mention that sticks out like a sore thumb...BOTH of your daughters believe they are boys. 2 kids!!!!! Hello world?!?!? Is anyone home? Why are people in trusted positions not seeing this and screaming out - 'wait wait wait just a minute -- this is a social contagion and we as a society need to stop these kids from permanently damaging their bodies!' UGH. It's flashing in neon lights to so many of us but then being denied.
I don't have a child, but I follow this and other blogs about this topic because I do believe this is about sexualization and grooming of children.
Every time I read one of these stories, I wonder what can be done, what works and doesn't. If over 18 and the child has documented developmental issues, is there a legal path to bring the child (not age wise but a child of the parent's) back home? Are there any psychiatrists who still look for root cause of mental issues if you do bring them back. I'd like to read more about actions that have been taken to bring an 18+ child back. There must be some success stories to bring hope back to parents who suffer through these cults stealing their children.
There ARE some who are on our side, just not many... yet. There are at least a couple of MDs here on PITT, there are some endocrinologists who are vocal (Dr Malone and I don't remember the other one). Also, I would look for older (and maybe immigrant) physicians.
We have to remember that children naturally leave home anyway at age about 18. I sold the family house and bought a house for my two youngest children, then moved in to renovate it for them. That way I was able to keep communicating. Sadly the youngest is still addicted to the testosterone last I heard. The good news now is she occasionally sends me photos. So technically no longer estranged. Still alive!
I wish your estranged daughter could read this. If only she knew how much you love her, she would not have estranged herself from you. Best of luck. I hope she contacts you soon.
The cults tactics are abusive just like if these young adults would be in an abusive marriage. Told what to do, what to say and inculcated into beliefs!!!
In Canada it's now eligal to use reprogrammes and the like. Ironically the government calls it conversion therapy and has made it eligal. I can't understand how medical professionals can take a confused young person and encourage them to change their gender and not consider THAT conversion therapy! Seems to me that that is the classic example.
How does it work? I assume it doesn't involve kidnapping, right? (Sorry my knowledge of deprogramming is limited to a vague memory of a movie about a religious cult)
I’m not sure exactly what it would look like. But it seems like this dad has a history of enough connection with his child that perhaps it would be possible to steal a moment alone (away from the activists) with a deprogrammer for the process to have an opportunity to take hold.
I completely understand! I pray for my child and all God's children and their families sucked into this cult. I had a near death experience and I know Jesus is alive and he hears our prayers and sees our tears. Remember it is the devil who lies and steals not God. Never stop praying for your daughter ❤️🙏 you have the ability to make a difference in her life as long as she is in it. Once she is gone your total dependency is on our Father. God Bless you and keep the faith in Jesus' name. ❤️
Wonderfully written. And you're taking exactly the right approach with the older daughter. I think your younger daughter is jealous of her sister and your close relationship with her. So on some level she's trying to out-trans her sister.
This is tough. You say that the transitioning is a „non issue“. My experience with my adult son is that once he started taking cross sex hormones, its not a „non issue“ It is awful to watch him damage his body.
I hope that over time she realizes her mistake here. However, I also I realize that she might eventually take the drugs and get surgery. She might become less agreeable. Might insist on things like her boy name and pronouns. I know we are not out of danger. I could still lose her but for now, I am making the best of a bad situation.
You are very blessed that your daughter "agreed to disagree". That is what my husband and I tried desperately to try and make our then 21 year old son to do. Unfortunately my son wouldn't have it. It was all or nothing. He insisted we call him our daughter, and use his chosen name and pronouns and we refused to do so. Now 2 years later he is gone. He cut everyone off, not just me and his father, and it's so sad because not everyone in the family refused his demands. I just pray every day he is ok. You sound like a very loving dad and you are very lucky.
I hope that over time she realizes her mistake here. However, I also I realize that she might eventually take the drugs and get surgery. She might become less agreeable. Might insist on things like her boy name and pronouns. I know we are not out of danger. I could still lose her but for now, I am making the best of a bad situation.
Excellent article. It reminds me of the phrase some years ago when people disappeared into religious cults like the Moonies and cut off all contact with their families. I hope your younger daughter returns to you.
You are indeed a very loving father and your story is beautifully written from your heart. I am deeply moved by your logic and positive and honest approach in dealing with your older daughter. I pray she will stay close to you and not proceed with hormones or surgery. I hope your youngest estranged daughter will come back to you. The coaching, grooming and brainwashing is evident and it is the same thing that has happened with my nephew. He used the same words in the last text he sent to his parents (one year ago this month) when he packed up and left home while they were at work. He also believes his parents will harm him because they did not affirm him to be female, so he feels threatened. It is so sad. We must continue this fight together so our lost loved ones can find their way back home.
I suggest asking lots of questions with our children, but we should not affirm in anyway. Keep asking questions.
https://christopherrufo.com/p/thrown-to-the-wolves
When you “affirm” these individuals’ gender identity, what you are doing is affirming their hatred for themselves. You have these children who are going through confusing times, difficult times; when you affirm this belief system, what you’re really doing is telling them: “You hate yourself at this moment, and I will affirm that.” We have to ask ourselves, why do these people have such high rates of suicide? Because we’re affirming that they should hate themselves and that they should try to destroy themselves.
Written by a loving father, your story is very sad, it indicates the level of indoctrination of our youth is huge, this evil cult is an evil, hungry worm, feeding off kids' vulnerability & offering a false hope to them. She is a vulnerable & impressionable teenager, on a deep level I'm sure she knows your love is there, on the other,, she is being lied & enticed to join in this delusion on a grand scale, pulling her away from her family, its evil tentacles infesting their young minds with delusions of changing their God-given sex.
Puberty is a mixed & confusing time for teenagers, what is going on in the west is beyond comprehension, compounded by so-called professionals supporting this dangerous & crazy move to harm kids, medically & psychologically. Its pure evil.
As adults, we look back & remember the many teenagers in our day, many times simply seeking attention & confused in their outlook. They resolved their inner demons in various ways, but never was there a seductive movement like this gender train enticing them away from their own families. I contend that many kids are simply seeking attention & we can only hope that as they grow up, they will wake up to this grand deception & reject it, if its not too late for them. This run-away trans train will eventually de-rail & self destruct, sooner or later, we can but watch & wait for the kids to get off the train before implosion.
I'm deeply sorry. This is so terribly cruel.
I am so sorry. You love your children so much. I have not yet gotten to thepoint where we live in harmony and agree to disagree. She will have to stop hating me for nothing first, I guess, so I'll have to dream. One thing you mention that sticks out like a sore thumb...BOTH of your daughters believe they are boys. 2 kids!!!!! Hello world?!?!? Is anyone home? Why are people in trusted positions not seeing this and screaming out - 'wait wait wait just a minute -- this is a social contagion and we as a society need to stop these kids from permanently damaging their bodies!' UGH. It's flashing in neon lights to so many of us but then being denied.
What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. Wow.
I don't have a child, but I follow this and other blogs about this topic because I do believe this is about sexualization and grooming of children.
Every time I read one of these stories, I wonder what can be done, what works and doesn't. If over 18 and the child has documented developmental issues, is there a legal path to bring the child (not age wise but a child of the parent's) back home? Are there any psychiatrists who still look for root cause of mental issues if you do bring them back. I'd like to read more about actions that have been taken to bring an 18+ child back. There must be some success stories to bring hope back to parents who suffer through these cults stealing their children.
Did you look for a therapist on https://www.genderexploratory.com/?
Yo can listen to Gender a Wider Lens, read Stella O'Malley substack for more info
No physicians will help. They're sell outs. They renounce science for political correctness. I'm very dissapointed
There ARE some who are on our side, just not many... yet. There are at least a couple of MDs here on PITT, there are some endocrinologists who are vocal (Dr Malone and I don't remember the other one). Also, I would look for older (and maybe immigrant) physicians.
We have to remember that children naturally leave home anyway at age about 18. I sold the family house and bought a house for my two youngest children, then moved in to renovate it for them. That way I was able to keep communicating. Sadly the youngest is still addicted to the testosterone last I heard. The good news now is she occasionally sends me photos. So technically no longer estranged. Still alive!
That college education is just going to cement her new gender identity a million times over...
I wish your estranged daughter could read this. If only she knew how much you love her, she would not have estranged herself from you. Best of luck. I hope she contacts you soon.
The cults tactics are abusive just like if these young adults would be in an abusive marriage. Told what to do, what to say and inculcated into beliefs!!!
I wonder if you have considered hiring a deprogrammer?
In Canada it's now eligal to use reprogrammes and the like. Ironically the government calls it conversion therapy and has made it eligal. I can't understand how medical professionals can take a confused young person and encourage them to change their gender and not consider THAT conversion therapy! Seems to me that that is the classic example.
How does it work? I assume it doesn't involve kidnapping, right? (Sorry my knowledge of deprogramming is limited to a vague memory of a movie about a religious cult)
I’m not sure exactly what it would look like. But it seems like this dad has a history of enough connection with his child that perhaps it would be possible to steal a moment alone (away from the activists) with a deprogrammer for the process to have an opportunity to take hold.